I'm a 25 year-old girl, and have always enjoyed being on my own. I love spending time with my family, but when it comes to friends, small doses is plenty.
I couldn't think of anything worse than constantly being with friends.. I had a long-term friend ask me to move in together but I declined because the idea of it was a nightmare..
I like seeing friends, but once a week, if not less, is more than enough. I like meeting them for a coffee or lunch or something and catching up, and that's plenty for me.
I have a friend who seems to think we need to do stuff outside of work a minimum of 3 times per week, and I have to tell her no a lot, which I feel bad for. I see her, but I don't have the time/money/energy to be out all the time, and I've no idea how she does.I think she's started to get the message, and she's inviting me a bit less..
I'm moving into a flat on my own soon, and it's an absolute dream. I'm not far from my family, so I can still see them fairly often..
I just find it exhausting, the thought of having to see people all the time, make conversation etc. I just like having days spent dressing down, no make-up, and just reading/exercising etc.
Sometimes I wonder if I'm being anti-social and I need to make more effort. My friend told me the other day that I am 'not very outgoing'.
Sometimes we get 2-hour breaks, and my two friends just spend the whole time chatting, which I find so unproductive, so I try and go for a walk, read a book etc.
Is there something wrong with being like this and do I need to change? Thanks
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- 20-01-2016 09:11
- 20-01-2016 09:12
and just wanted to say also that I do initiate a lot of stuff with friends, like going for a coffee, etc. but just that I don't want to do it every single day..
- 20-01-2016 09:22
Not really but you may need to socialise from time to time.
I am also introverted like yourself, and often found that too much time spent out with people was exhausting and quite draining. However, it is necesarry from time to time.
Make a timetable or something with the times when you can hang out with other people.
This way you can be productive wth your work alongside having a social life!
- 20-01-2016 09:32
I am pretty much exactly like this except with everyone, including family. I love them but I just can't be social and with them all the time. It's too draining and leaves me exhausted afterwards.
I have come to just accept it. What makes others happy is not necessarily what makes you happy. It might be worth talking to your friends about it and letting them know that you do value their company but you get overwhelmed by too much socialising.Last edited by Star-girl; 20-01-2016 at 09:38.
- 20-01-2016 09:41
I think you probably have lower social needs than a lot of people, and you're clearly an introvert - but none of that need be a negative thing. We're all different, and the modern stigma around being 'antisocial' is *******s. You shouldn't have to force yourself to be around other people more than you want to be. You're perfectly normal just as you are.
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- 20-01-2016 09:53
I think some people need to understand that not everyone wants or needs to socialise all the time. I don't and I get the impression that some people don't get this.
- 20-01-2016 09:58
This pretty much sums me up! Meeting up with my friends seems like a chore sometimes, I know it shouldn't feel like that. I love being by myself most of the time and I can deal with my family in small doses. The other day I met up with two friends in one day (this is a record for me) and when I got home I felt so drained. I'm just not one of those people that needs to be around others all the time. I need time to recuperate and then I'm back again.
- 20-01-2016 15:48
Thanks for the replies, I feel a lot more reassured and that I shouldn't change
I just have to talk to my friend about this, the one who wants to do stuff constantly, and just tell her that I am much more introverted than she is and I don't want to socialise with her every day.. hopefully she will understand