jealousy grrrr!

as much as i try, i can't help feeling jealous of my boyfriends female friends. there's one in particular who i absolutely cannot stand & i havent even met the girl! she can leave him msgs on facebook asking him if he wants to do something the next day or even just asking how he is & i get so upset about it. i know nothing will ever happen between them yet i still get worried that perhaps he might start to enjoy spending more time with her than me. i feel as though i'm competing with her to an extent (i know that makes me sound really mad) because i feel under pressure to be funny, make him laugh etc. like she does.
what can i do to stop myself feeling like this? i know it's all down to insecurity on my part & i'm aware that my boyfriend isn't actually doing anything wrong.

And like you say yourself, it actually keeps you on your toes, you make sure that all the clothes you wear are nice and you dont ever let your appearance drop.

i'd hope her relationship was more than just superficial and that his decision to cheat would require more than just meeting a prettier girl. men.

I meant it from personal experience. If you feel there is a threat to a relationship the first thing you will do is try harder in your appearance, thats not me being shallow towards the girl thats me being a human. I've been there and done. I know it sounds silly but i always made sure i was clean shaven, had clean nice clothes on, and really made an effort, thats not to say i've let my standards slip, but like i said, it does keep you on your toes

im sure it does. but i'd hope that a persons decision to cheat indicates deeper problems within the relationship and is not just meeting a good looking person. in which case changing your appearance is the least of teh problems.

i know how u feel, was in a situation similar, however i know how hard it can be but i sometimes think that if his girlmates knew he has a gf they should back off too, i did when my boymates got gfs, its all about respecting what the two of u have together, but also realise that he is with you and not with them x

As i stated to another person on these forums, throughout the whole of your life, your partner is gonna have female friends, same way you will have close male friends. If you trust him enough, then the other girl can do what the hell she wants, coz at the end of the day, he's with you. Thats what you need to remember.

My girlfriend was extremely close to her ex boyfriend for years into our relationship, i had to see him about 2-3 times a month for 3years. They would hug when they saw each other, make personal jokes which only they knew about, and deep down it killed me, almost to the point where i wanted to drink myself stupid every day. BUT she told me, that at the end of the day, she had the upmost respect for my handling of the situation and that most blokes would have knocked him out. (what all my mates were telling me to do). I allowed her to meet him on her own and go clubbing, go for meals, coz i truly trusted her and loved her to pieces.

And like you say yourself, it actually keeps you on your toes, you make sure that all the clothes you wear are nice and you dont ever let your appearance drop. But unfortunately its something you will have to deal with personally, its damm hard and extremely painfull, trust me, even to this day when his names mentioned inside i die and i wanna kill him BUT inside i knew she loved me and would never ever cheat on me.

If anything when you meet her, give her a nice big smile knowing deep down at the back of your head, its you he loves, its you he spends most time with, its you he will probably wake up to in the morning and she's no where near getting that special bond you have!!!!

i know nothing will ever happen between

as much as i try, i can't help feeling jealous of my boyfriends female friends. there's one in particular who i absolutely cannot stand & i havent even met the girl! she can leave him msgs on facebook asking him if he wants to do something the next day or even just asking how he is & i get so upset about it. i know nothing will ever happen between them yet i still get worried that perhaps he might start to enjoy spending more time with her than me. i feel as though i'm competing with her to an extent (i know that makes me sound really mad) because i feel under pressure to be funny, make him laugh etc. like she does.
what can i do to stop myself feeling like this? i know it's all down to insecurity on my part & i'm aware that my boyfriend isn't actually doing anything wrong.