lost my first love! uni is my fresh start! any advice or anyone feeling like me?

Im 19 and currently living in cardiff. Im starting uni in sep 07 at swansea to do nursing as long as i get my a levels. i had been going out with a guy for 2 years he is a christian and didnt believe in sex b4 marraige and i had different views i have never tried to change his mind i had no idea that he new that it would never go as far as marriage as he always told me otherwise i never doubted that he was the one for me he just finished with me but during our relationship i also lost some of my friends as you do and now i feel alone i see going to swansea as a fresh start for me where i can move on and be a better person i also suffer from anxiety at times and will be hopefully be seeing a cousellor soon because ive never been truly happy with who i am does any1 have any advice on ways to make the transition a little easier? just want to make the experience of uni the best it could possibly be? anyones advise would be fab on how to move on and enjoy life as much as pos THANKS GUYS!!! :tsr2:

Reply 1

pumpkin7

13

make the most of freshers week.. meet LOADS of people and get in with the social crowd. you should be ok as long as you don't hide in your room.

Reply 2

Ginger_Rogers

7

And learn how to use punctuation. That way, you make everybody else happy too.

Reply 3

foxiroxi

10

Wow your doing well knowing you have a fresh start ahead and to make the most off it.

All I can say it just throw yourself into the new area, new people, new things to try etc etc etc :smile:

Reply 4

EmilyRichards

portiale i feel quite the same.

I was with my boyfriend a year and a bit, and although it was me that ended it I do feel alone now as I didn't try hard enough to maintain other friendships. I am movingh far away for uni and see it as a fresh start. I plan to really make an effort with people and enjoy being single! You should too! :smile:

xx

Reply 5

portiale

OP

1

Thanks Guys that helps a lot i just hope that when i get there i dont just hide in my room scared of people not liking me and stuff its just hard trying to move on? x :redface:

Reply 6

Phantom Phoenix

13

I know the feeling, when I came to uni I was still trying to get over a guy who hurt me badly so I threw myself into Freshers Week and had a great time - I think you're doing really well to be so positive about it, keep it up! :smile:

Reply 7

*Claire*

1

Getting over him will probabbly be easier when you are in new surroundings and you can make a whole load of new friends. Getting over him won't be easy but just give it time. I found I didn't miss my ex nearly as much when I was at uni. There's more going on. Just make a point at the beginning to chat to lots of people, it makes it easier to make friends if you speak to everyone early on.

Reply 8

Angel_Cake

2

I was in your situation! And now I barely remember his name :smile:

You'll be fine, and it's good that you know you want to make a fresh start. I was a bit lame when I first started uni, and it took me a while to get into it, but once I did it was awesome. Make an effort from the start and I expect you'll get over him twice as fast as I did!

Reply 9

stepheh

12

portiale

Im 19 and currently living in cardiff. Im starting uni in sep 07 at swansea to do nursing as long as i get my a levels. i had been going out with a guy for 2 years he is a christian and didnt believe in sex b4 marraige and i had different views i have never tried to change his mind i had no idea that he new that it would never go as far as marriage as he always told me otherwise i never doubted that he was the one for me he just finished with me but during our relationship i also lost some of my friends as you do and now i feel alone i see going to swansea as a fresh start for me where i can move on and be a better person i also suffer from anxiety at times and will be hopefully be seeing a cousellor soon because ive never been truly happy with who i am does any1 have any advice on ways to make the transition a little easier? just want to make the experience of uni the best it could possibly be? anyones advise would be fab on how to move on and enjoy life as much as pos THANKS GUYS!!! :tsr2:

oooh

It's a freshers fortnight in swansea, you lucky thing. Don't worry about fitting in - there are so many people in the exact same shoes as you, you know? I mean, i'm terrified that me and my flat mates just won't get on next year, and i'll have no one to move in with after the first year. Bleh.
But I know you'll enjoy being in swansea.. As much as I complain about it, it IS a nice place. Lots of people in a comparitively small area. About the boyfriend thing, just.. throw everything out that he ever gave you, and things that just remind you of him. Every picture and what not [or if you really want to keep the stuff, put it all in a box up in the attic or wherever].

Reply 10

notsoperfect

1

ahh, i'm in the same situation :smile:

i hope uni is a fresh start for me too as i'm currently a bit heartbroken! i'm sure it will be - you've just got to throw yourself in there. there are thousands of new people to meet. look forward to it!

Reply 11

portiale

OP

1

the box is full and at the bottom of the wardrobe out of sight and i got a new phone cos it reminded me too mich of him looking forward to swansea is the only thing making me positive but im sure it'l be fine thanks for all the comments they really have helped me stay positive about the future x

Reply 12

Schroedinger's Pandora

13

Wholly crap OP your posts are difficult to read!!

My advice? Have fun dammit.

lost my first love! uni is my fresh start! any advice or anyone feeling like me?

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