My Myspace Romance (to be or not to be that is the question)

I've been single for over three years, simply because I've never met anyone with similar interests who isn't in a relationship. The problem I've had is that, someone must be interested in similar things as they seem to form my entire personality. I recently made an account on myspace to get in touch with some friends I went to school with. I was browsing through the internet one day, when some guy want's me to add him as a friend. I was about to deny it as another band or idiot I wasn't interested in but he'd sent me a message that said he thought my music interests were brilliant and I saw that he was single too. Since then we've made regular contact on myspace IM and have started texting him. We are set to meet each other soon as we both obviously like each other, the only problem I have is, that I am nervous as we live 15 miles away from each other and I've never used the internet for dating before. Although there are only 2 years between us I still feel nervous that this person might not be who I think he is, although he seems to be the perfect guy for me.

Reply 1

pumpkin7

13

ha. i've met up with like, 3 lads off the internet.. they have been ok for a while, but meh.. i don't know, something wasn't right.

don't get me wrong, some people meet up with others from the internet all the time, so this may be your lucky day.

just be careful, and tell someone where you are going.

Reply 2

Powersymphonia

OP

20

The thing is I don't actually know anyone who has met on the net before and I feel that people might think I'm "sad" because I need to use the internet to gewt a date.

Reply 3

pumpkin7

13

haha.

well i've done it loads of times, and i know my best friend has too.. it's not sad. it's easier for some people to meet people like that. you go girl!

Reply 4

ßlαcksωαn

17

pumpkin7

ha. i've met up with like, 3 lads off the internet

Yeah me too. But they were friends of friends of friends, so it wasn't like they were totally foreign. I got on really good with one. But yeh.

I think it's fine to meet people off the net. Just do the usually things..meet in a public place, take a friend along if you have to. And remember that people in 'real life' are usually pretty different than when you talk over the net.
But give it a go...this is the 21st century.

Reply 5

Darren Marc

10

this is damm risky if you ask me!

The problem is, he may say he likes this and the other but with internet dating, people can say whatever they want, put up a picture of someone who isn't them etc. Its easy to be someone else on the internet and this is the central issue.

I personally wouldn't trust anyone on the internet at all, but thats a decision you have to make. But take care and make sure a few people know when you're going and plan a time to leave, that way, if it does run over the time, someone is on hand to call to make sure you're okay.

Reply 6

SuperhansFavouriteAlsatian

pumpkin7

ha. i've met up with like, 3 lads off the internet

At once? You schlaaaaaag.

Reply 7

foxiroxi

10

I met my boyfriend on the net and when I finally agreed to meet up with him I told a few people exactly where I would be, I told my parents that if I call but don't talk then it's likely I'm in trouble and to track me down somehow etc

Anyway he turned out to be just who he said he was but even better and we've been going out for over a year :smile:

For some it works, for other's it doesn't.

Take a chance, take precautions and good luck :smile:

Reply 8

.::.Mel.::.

It aint sad, I mean cmon most people can say theyve liked someone they talked to over myspace surely?
I have a best friend now because of the internet, I met her on a forum bout 4 years agop and weve been the closest of mates ever since, Ive met her three times even though she lives like 150 miles away haha
Bit different from meeting a guy but still ....

If you really wanna meet up with him and you trust the situation go for it =]
you never know you could end up like FoxiRoxi and be with him for over a year!

Id advise you telling a mate where n when your meeting and then txt them to tell them ure ok and sutff afters.
just as a precaution.

Reply 9

pumpkin7

13

DanGrover

At once? You schlaaaaaag.

not at once..

but i can't help looking this good can i baby?!

LOL

=D

Reply 10

Powersymphonia

OP

20

I would never meet someone on a chat room, but this is myspace.

Reply 11

ßlαcksωαn

17

AerisYuna

I would never meet someone on a chat room, but this is myspace.

And there's a difference how?

Reply 12

Vampyrcorn

14

Take an axe and a rape alarm with you and you should be fine. Maybe a chainsaw and a guard dog too.

I met my boyfriend over the internet (although I didn't think we'd get into a relationship at the time, we were just friends) and I haven't discovered any of his crazy, psychopathic tendencies just yet. :frown:

Don't expect too much though - he might turn out to be totally different to what you expected. He might even turn out to be Big Foot. :eek3:

Reply 13

Darren Marc

10

Vampyrcorn

Take an axe :frown:

Word!

Take an axe and/or wear pointy shoes so a swift kick to the groin would hurt if he's a weirdo, but enjoy the date if you do go! lol

Reply 14

foxiroxi

10

Vampyrcorn

Take an axe and a rape alarm with you and you should be fine. Maybe a chainsaw and a guard dog too.

I met my boyfriend over the internet (although I didn't think we'd get into a relationship at the time, we were just friends) and I haven't discovered any of his crazy, psychopathic tendencies just yet. :frown:

Don't expect too much though - he might turn out to be totally different to what you expected. He might even turn out to be Big Foot. :eek3:

hehe Haven't found any with my boyfriend either...Do you think I shoudl still be careful with the axe and rape alarm?

Reply 15

Louise88

Meeting anyone off the internet is a risk, no matter what the age gap. A person can pretend to be two years older than you but be twenty years old, you never really know who you are speaking to. Myspace is no different to chatrooms, you have to be careful on either one. It's so easy to give a fake name and a fake picture.

If you want to meet him, be careful. Meen in a busy place, tell people where you are going, what time you are going and ask them to phone you at a certain time after you have met him. If you are meeting at twelve, ask them to phone you at half past just to check on you. Get them to phone later on too, just incase. Please, whatever you do, don't just go and not let anyone know where you are going because they really could be anyone.

Don't listen to what other people say, who cares what they think? Everyone is entitled to their own opinion so let them have theirs. They might think it's sad, but it's what you think that matters. There is nothing wrong with meeting people from the internet, you just have to be careful.

Reply 16

username94219

0

20

Iv met 5/6blokes of the internet and I have to say some were alright and some just wanted the same old thing, leg over n then **** off! I met my ex bf off the internet and it was a cool relationship however things began to fall apart so I got rid.

I'd say give it ago because you never know. Jus tell people where your goin and etc

Good Luck

GD

Reply 17

Kate.

15

Personally I'd say Myspace is plenty different from a chatroom. You can generally tell if people are being realistic or not - if their friends are people they obviously actually know, then chances are their profile is gonna be pretty accurate.

I'd go for it, but I'd probably take a friend or something with me. I've met people off the internet before.

Reply 18

Marianne

send us a link to his profile and we'll tell you what we think..... :biggrin:

P.S. You do realise that people on myspace look totally different when viewed face on, as opposed from an elevated angle at arms length?

Bet he's really got a double chin!

Reply 19

artorscience?

11

this isn't using the internet for dating as such. social networking sites are designed for networking and meeting people. i'm sure it'll be fine as the majority of people are genuine and not out to harm you. but obviously be safe and meet at a busy time in a public place... simple safety. and the same sort of protocal you would use for a first date with anyone, be somewhere that you can escape from easily if he's a total bore. lol

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