How to talk more being the quiet/shy type

It seems I've annoyed one of my buddies on MSN that I don't talk enough and she got fed up with having to make conversion. Yet I feel I'm just not a chatter box. We seem to get along really and was wondering any advice to take? I don't fancy talking constantly over anything and everything over fear of boring her to death.

I've not known her for long (less than a month, spoken thrice), and after having reduced the time I spend on MSN seriously, I find it to regain my old self.

I promised to email her today so I'll do that now before the football starts! And she's really nice. :biggrin:

Thought being a philosophical type could be a problem. :/

Any advice you could give please? Oh we have a common interest in music though.

Reply 1

Darren Marc

10

well go for the music conversation if you have a common love, thats always a good ice breaker to conversations. Have you been to concerts recently? What other music do you buy? Festivals etc etc etc

If she's a typical woman, go for the usual "so how was your day then?", that will allow her to talk for hours.

Reply 2

sssh

10

Hmm...I don't know, I get much more annoyed by people who talk about absolutely nothing than by people who are a bit shy in company. Do you just mean talking on msn? It's pretty difficult to be the "quiet, shy" type on msn, when you only have a text presence. Maybe only talk to her when you actually feel like you have something to say? Like about a gig you've been to, or a new record by a favourite band, that sort of thing.

Reply 3

Darren Marc

10

sssh

Do you just mean talking on msn? It's pretty difficult to be the "quiet, shy" type on msn, when you only have a text presence.

indeed, MSN isn't the type of thing where you can really pick up on tone of a person coz its just text, people pick up on things differently when its written. If you've only chatted to her about twice, why do you really care about the person thinks?

Reply 4

NDGAARONDI

OP

16

Thank you for the replies peeps. :biggrin:

Reply 5

Yoda

12

Alcohol.

Reply 6

envious

Some people (like me) use msn as a tool to deter boredom so do actually quite like talking about quite inane stuff. Maybe she wants to just chat some more about general stuff? I mean there's no need to feel pressure to be the most interesting person ever during every conversation as I'm sure she isn't expecting this. Sometimes just talking about music etc can be a good way to get into a conversation and then other topics just naturally flow. I don't know how much effort you're prepared to put in though if you say you're not a naturally chatty person....

Reply 7

babysealpup

Darren Marc

well go for the music conversation if you have a common love, thats always a good ice breaker to conversations. Have you been to concerts recently? What other music do you buy? Festivals etc etc etc

If she's a typical woman, go for the usual "so how was your day then?", that will allow her to talk for hours.

Women are not quite that shallow but def go with the conversations that involve your common interests. You have not known her long so im sure it will all blow over x x

Reply 8

prash_s90

16

just flirt with her...its easy over the internet. But its harder in real life

Reply 9

conservativebohemian

1

I don't think she interests you all that much TBH. Otherwise you'd make the effort to sound a little bit more interesting and interested in what she says. I mean, it's the MSN. You can talk crap and get away with it.

Reply 10

sssh

10

Seeareeypee

I don't think she interests you all that much TBH. Otherwise you'd make the effort to sound a little bit more interesting and interested in what she says. I mean, it's the MSN. You can talk crap and get away with it.

Really? I think you can actually get away with less crap on msn, simply because people can see so objectively what you're saying. It's so obvious if you're talking rubbish or if you have no conviction in what you're saying. But maybe I use msn for different purposes to you; I use it only occasionally, to talk to old friends and mostly about philosophy.

Reply 11

white_haired_wizard

16

NDGAARONDI

It seems I've annoyed one of my buddies on MSN that I don't talk enough and she got fed up with having to make conversion. Yet I feel I'm just not a chatter box. We seem to get along really and was wondering any advice to take? I don't fancy talking constantly over anything and everything over fear of boring her to death.

I've not known her for long (less than a month, spoken thrice), and after having reduced the time I spend on MSN seriously, I find it to regain my old self.

I promised to email her today so I'll do that now before the football starts! And she's really nice. :biggrin:

Thought being a philosophical type could be a problem. :/

Any advice you could give please? Oh we have a common interest in music though.

i bet you will also have a common interest in 'revising together' too :wink:

Reply 12

Tut.exe

14

im the type of guy who doesnt know how to converse lols.

Reply 13

white_haired_wizard

16

iCeCream

im the type of guy who doesnt know how to converse lols.

you sound just like the OP :wink:

Reply 14

Joric

Darren Marc

If she's a typical woman, go for the usual "so how was your day then?", that will allow her to talk for hours.

I love this advice. I will also try this. thanks.

Reply 15

lengy

The 'how was your day' routine isn't that effective at all. I've talked to a number of girls and sometimes it's hard to talk about stuff cause you run out of things to say. I dunno, if you don't have anything to talk about then just don't talk and she wont reply. I don't know why she's upset you don't say much it's like she cares too much about the conversation you're not having and doesn't have anyone else to talk to. You're not there for her entertainment.

Reply 16

NDGAARONDI

OP

16

white_haired_wizard

i bet you will also have a common interest in 'revising together' too :wink:

Revise what? :biggrin:

Reply 17

white_haired_wizard

16

NDGAARONDI

Revise what? :biggrin:

Human biology. Excretion, naturally. :cool:

Reply 18

NDGAARONDI

OP

16

white_haired_wizard

Human biology

Typical coming from you. :p:

Reply 19

lone_rider2007

Seems like you have created a shell around you, you are unable to reveal your inner-self. Maybe you should reveal more about yourself to her or ask her questions about herself.

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