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    people who grew up victims/ witnesses of abuse will grow up to be kinder, better people
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    people who grew up victims/ witnesses of abuse will grow up to be abusers themselves
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    there is no difference in the behaviour of someone who has been a victim of/ witnessed abuse and someone who hasn't
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    people who grew up victims/ witnesses of abuse will grow up to be kinder, better people

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    people who grew up victims/ witnesses of abuse will grow up to be abusers themselves

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    there is no difference in the behaviour of someone who has been a victim of/ witnessed abuse and someone who hasn't

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    I'm not really sure I just really wanted to reply to any thread you started.

    I think it can really vary though. A lot of abusers do seem to have been abused in their past but not every victim goes on to be an abuser- if that makes sense?
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    (Original post by z33)
    people who grew up victims/ witnesses of abuse will grow up to be kinder, better people

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    people who grew up victims/ witnesses of abuse will grow up to be abusers themselves

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    there is no difference in the behaviour of someone who has been a victim of/ witnessed abuse and someone who hasn't

    and why?
    Pretty sure that statistics show abused children are far more likely to be abusers themselves. Just thought I'd add that in
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    (Original post by cbreef)
    Pretty sure that statistics show abused children are far more likely to be abusers themselves. Just thought I'd add that in
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    (Original post by K.C)
    Ikr
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    (Original post by EtherealNymph22)
    I'm not really sure I just really wanted to reply to any thread you started.

    I think it can really vary though. A lot of abusers do seem to have been abused in their past but not every victim goes on to be an abuser- if that makes sense?
    Ahah awhhh :3

    yeah that does

    (Original post by cbreef)
    Pretty sure that statistics show abused children are far more likely to be abusers themselves. Just thought I'd add that in
    hmm i found this
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    The belief that abused children are likely to become abusive parents is widely accepted. The authors review the literature cited to support this hypothesis and demonstrate that its unqualified acceptance is unfounded. Mediating factors that affect transmission are outlined and the findings of several investigations are integrated to estimate the true rate of transmission. The authors concluded from past research that the rate of intergenerational transmission appears to be between 25 and 35 percent. Such a rate would suggest that about one-third of the parents who have histories of abuse will subject their children to abuse. Although that figure is about six times higher than the base rate for abuse in the general population, the authors argued that history of abuse is only one of many possible determinants of transmission. The authors closed by suggesting that the consequences for some adults of such unqualified acceptance of the intergenerational hypothesis is that it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

    http://cureviolence.org/post/resourc...usive-parents/
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    It affects each person differently. And you can never guarantee how the person will react to the abuse. Even tho statistics show it is more likely for abusees to become abusers, it's not really something you can number.
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    There are too many factors to consider for. Being a victim of abuse does not guarantee you'll be any one of those things in the future but a victim of abuse certainly can be one of those things.
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    It depends how someone will take it. I guess I count towards both a victim and a witness of domestic abuse (I saw my father hit my mother multiple times, strangle her etc, he also threw random items at me such as chairs, bricks etc.) and would never do the same to anyone else, no matter how much I'd hate them, I just couldn't. But I've seen some stories where people who have been abused or witnessed it became abusers themselves, it's like the abuse disturbed an animal sleeping inside them..
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    (Original post by Indeterminate)
    All of those things are possible. I am of the opinion that different people will respond in different ways :yep:
    This sums it up perfectly. Well done.
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    (Original post by z33)
    people who grew up victims/ witnesses of abuse will grow up to be kinder, better people

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    people who grew up victims/ witnesses of abuse will grow up to be abusers themselves

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    there is no difference in the behaviour of someone who has been a victim of/ witnessed abuse and someone who hasn't

    and why?
    Statistically the second is much more likely, but it can go either way.
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    You'll find A and B are not mutually exclusive, and that C is exceptionally rare. We are emotional/socially affected beings, highly susceptible to (neuroplastic) changes induced by psychological environments, experiences, and behaviour (especially trauma)
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    (Original post by z33)
    people who grew up victims/ witnesses of abuse will grow up to be kinder, better people

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    people who grew up victims/ witnesses of abuse will grow up to be abusers themselves

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    there is no difference in the behaviour of someone who has been a victim of/ witnessed abuse and someone who hasn't

    and why?
    When I think about this, I always think about one of my brothers and I. We both grew up in the same not-so nice household - I grew up promising myself I'd do everything I could to make sure no one ever went through what I did, but my brother went the opposite, to the extent now - both of us having moved out - I see him at most every six months because I don't like the person he's become.

    People react to things in different ways, even when - as in my experience - they come from exactly the same environment. So, I'd go with what others have said and say it's a mix of all.
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    (Original post by acupofgreentea)
    When I think about this, I always think about one of my brothers and I. We both grew up in the same not-so nice household - I grew up promising myself I'd do everything I could to make sure no one ever went through what I did, but my brother went the opposite, to the extent now - both of us having moved out - I see him at most every six months because I don't like the person he's become.

    People react to things in different ways, even when - as in my experience - they come from exactly the same environment. So, I'd go with what others have said and say it's a mix of all.
    fair nuff
    what do you think it was about your brother that made him take a different path to you? :3
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    You'll find A and B are not mutually exclusive, and that C is exceptionally rare. We are emotional/socially affected beings, highly susceptible to (neuroplastic) changes induced by psychological environments, experiences, and behaviour (especially trauma)
    Very good point.
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    hmmm I have heard stories of abused victims becoming the abusers later in life, but I guess each case is different
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    Some people'll fall into the first catagory, others the second.
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    (Original post by ✠ ☢ ✠)
    hmmm I have heard stories of abused victims becoming the abusers later in life, but I guess each case is different
    yeah this is what made me ask this question
    i watched some YouTube video about murderers and serial killers and most of them had a back story of either witnessing or experiencing abuse at a young age
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    (Original post by z33)
    fair nuff
    what do you think it was about your brother that made him take a different path to you? :3
    To be honest, I've wondered that myself a lot and still don't have an answer.

    I suppose just as we're different people, we reacted to the situation differently.
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    people's mind work in all sort of direction, if i saw abuse i would just be like awww then go back to my normal life tbh
 
 
 
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