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Cheating Girlfriend
My girlfriend (of 2 months) told me a couple of days ago that she cheated on me with one of her housemates, just kissing she assured me (she said she was quite drunk and that she couldn't help herself) 
. I didn't know what to say and I don't what I'm feeling, anybody been in this situation that could offer some advice? We've always got on well and have known each other for some time and I always felt I could trust her. I know this guy and I know he likes to think of himself as a bit of a player. I just want to go round and beat him up...
. I didn't know what to say and I don't what I'm feeling, anybody been in this situation that could offer some advice? We've always got on well and have known each other for some time and I always felt I could trust her. I know this guy and I know he likes to think of himself as a bit of a player. I just want to go round and beat him up...Scroll to see replies
It depends really but if it I'd only been with someone two months and they kissed their housemate I'd deffinitely get rid, lifes too short and hopefully you deserve better and there's plenty of other chances out there.
firstly, dont beat him up. hes a dick and not worth u gettin in trouble. i think that even kissing is reason enough to finish with her. if she is living with him, the temptation will always be there for her and if you forgive her she might think she can get away with it again.
on the other hand, she has come clean. if she feels really really bad/sorry maybe it was just a one-off. also, 2 months isnt a massive amount of time, but then again if you knew her before then u could be really into her.
i know that if my boyfriend had done that to me i would never have been able to forgive him because the trust would be gone. it really depends how u feel about her. only you know what is right.
on the other hand, she has come clean. if she feels really really bad/sorry maybe it was just a one-off. also, 2 months isnt a massive amount of time, but then again if you knew her before then u could be really into her.
i know that if my boyfriend had done that to me i would never have been able to forgive him because the trust would be gone. it really depends how u feel about her. only you know what is right.
Dump her. Once a player, always a player. Plus, theres no guarantee that she won't get drunk again and be all over this guy. Its only been a 2 month relationship (not to sound judgemental), and there are plenty more fish in the sea.
Dump her. Personally I wouldn't forgive cheating, even if it was kissing. You never know, more might have actually gone on.
If it was my bf, I would feel constantly paranoid, and frankly betrayed. Any form of cheating in my eyes constitutes the same thing. Kissing/sex-you're sticking bits of your body into someone elses whichever way you look at it. I'm afraid I would be able to cope even less if my other half was housemates with whoever he had cheated on. I'd leave her, being drunk is no excuse-it exhibits that there is a desire there.
To be honest, because she's living with him, i'd just dump her- otherwise you're just going to ceat yourself up about it (well i would). Although same thing happened to me (my girlfriend cheated on me with my best friends girlfriend), and i took her back after a while, and now we're better than ever. You know her more than us, does she usually cheat on her boyfriends? xx
DUmp her finish her get rid of her lol, why even bother, she obviously doesnt like you that much or she wunt of done it.
My (now ex) boyfriend took me back but totally made me pay for it in the process with the whole big disappointed/hurt lecture, saying he wasn't sure what to do, made me believe he was gonna break up with me, made to leave and as he was about to walk out the door, grabbed me and kissed me.
Jimmy_Wong
My girlfriend (of 2 months) told me a couple of days ago that she cheated on me with one of her housemates, just kissing she assured me (she said she was quite drunk and that she couldn't help herself) . I didn't know what to say and I don't what I'm feeling, anybody been in this situation that could offer some advice? We've always got on well and have known each other for some time and I always felt I could trust her. I know this guy and I know he likes to think of himself as a bit of a player. I just want to go round and beat him up...
. I didn't know what to say and I don't what I'm feeling, anybody been in this situation that could offer some advice? We've always got on well and have known each other for some time and I always felt I could trust her. I know this guy and I know he likes to think of himself as a bit of a player. I just want to go round and beat him up...Simple, if you have any respect for yourself, you dump her, forget it and move on. Next time you see the guy, smile and tell her he's welcome to her. The best thing you can do is be unfazed.
It has to be your own decision or you will constantly think what if.
Good luck xxx
Good luck xxx
hippieglitter
My (now ex) boyfriend took me back but totally made me pay for it in the process with the whole big disappointed/hurt lecture, saying he wasn't sure what to do, made me believe he was gonna break up with me, made to leave and as he was about to walk out the door, grabbed me and kissed me.
Wow, how very hollywood.
As for what you should do - dump her. She obviously doesn't care about you enough to make sure that she firstly doesn't get herself in those situations and secondly that she doesn't act upon them.
Take her back now and she'll think its fair game to keep doing this sorta stuff.
Despite my experience, i was 100% sure i was never gonna see the guy again (no flaming, that was not why i did it).In your case she lives with him, if she couldn't resist the first time who's to say it won't happen again or she may even go further e.g. sex? Get out before you get seriously hurt.
You will always have in the back of your mind " can I really trust her? will she do it again? " and it will eat at you.
be thankful it was only two months you found this out, I know that two months u grew closer but imagine if it was two years?
and the matter is .....if you do decide to stay with her what if two years down the line she does it again ...says its only a kiss, but still it would be harder and more painful to leave then.
Normally im dead set against stuff like this but its only two months , your young, you can find other people who wont cheat on you and make you feel the wya you do right now.
be thankful it was only two months you found this out, I know that two months u grew closer but imagine if it was two years?
and the matter is .....if you do decide to stay with her what if two years down the line she does it again ...says its only a kiss, but still it would be harder and more painful to leave then.
Normally im dead set against stuff like this but its only two months , your young, you can find other people who wont cheat on you and make you feel the wya you do right now.
You can choose to get drunk, or not, so no excuses.
If she chooses to get drunk, as others have said she may do it again.
If I was you, her saying she was drunk would annoy me just as much as she had a choice although thay may be just my opinion, yes at the time when she was drunk she may have not known, although she knew how to do certain things ... but before she was drunk she choose to do it, plain and simple. She did tell you though if thats any consolation. Her getting drunk in the first place would annoy me a bit in itself as she is potentilly killing herslef and the relationship along with it, but I know that is just my opinion.
If she chooses to get drunk, as others have said she may do it again.
If I was you, her saying she was drunk would annoy me just as much as she had a choice although thay may be just my opinion, yes at the time when she was drunk she may have not known, although she knew how to do certain things ... but before she was drunk she choose to do it, plain and simple. She did tell you though if thats any consolation. Her getting drunk in the first place would annoy me a bit in itself as she is potentilly killing herslef and the relationship along with it, but I know that is just my opinion.
sorry brother but i would get rid.
if she is seeing this guy everyday then its summat more than a kiss otherwise she wouldnt have done it. why wouldnt it happen again?
i know it sucks, but man for your girl to cheat on you is a pretty low blow. move on and get laid
if she is seeing this guy everyday then its summat more than a kiss otherwise she wouldnt have done it. why wouldnt it happen again?
i know it sucks, but man for your girl to cheat on you is a pretty low blow. move on and get laid
I think these replies are fairly one sided.
I have been in the situation of the girl who cheated so maybe I can offer a different perspective.
I had a boyfriend when I was 15 I cheated on him about 4 times and at the time I was not very mature and influenced by the fact that it was cool to be able to get a lot of lads.
Looking back it sounds really pathetic but since that I have grown up and my boyfriend and I who just split up were together well over a year and I would have never given cheating a second thought!
So what I'm saying is, this girl sounds like she is trying to find herself a bit and is maybe not mature enough for a serious relationship. Perhaps it is time to end things.
xx
I have been in the situation of the girl who cheated so maybe I can offer a different perspective.
I had a boyfriend when I was 15 I cheated on him about 4 times and at the time I was not very mature and influenced by the fact that it was cool to be able to get a lot of lads.
Looking back it sounds really pathetic but since that I have grown up and my boyfriend and I who just split up were together well over a year and I would have never given cheating a second thought!
So what I'm saying is, this girl sounds like she is trying to find herself a bit and is maybe not mature enough for a serious relationship. Perhaps it is time to end things.
xx
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