Hey there! Sign in to join this conversationNew here? Join for free

Guy I am seeing needs constant approval Watch

Announcements
    • #1
    • Thread Starter
    #1

    I've just started dating a guy and he seems really nice. However he constantly needs approval, whether in the form of compliments, work, decisions.

    It seems to happen all the time, and I'm not the kind of girl who needs constant approval myself so I find it quite peculiar that he does. I just don't want this manifesting into him thinking I don't like him.

    Anyone dealt with anything like this before?
    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    Yep. Unfortunately this could be due to underlying self-confidence issues, OR maybe just the fact that he really likes you and is anxious that you don't like him.
    But because he needs approval for work and decisions, it makes me think that maybe he does have confidence issues. He could be confused about what he wants and needs.
    Be ready to help him become more self assured, not by complimenting him or giving him approval, but by letting him know you enjoy his company. But if it doesn't work out, then it doesn't work out.
    • #1
    • Thread Starter
    #1

    (Original post by sae.mo)
    Yep. Unfortunately this could be due to underlying self-confidence issues, OR maybe just the fact that he really likes you and is anxious that you don't like him.
    But because he needs approval for work and decisions, it makes me think that maybe he does have confidence issues. He could be confused about what he wants and needs.
    Be ready to help him become more self assured, not by complimenting him or giving him approval, but by letting him know you enjoy his company. But if it doesn't work out, then it doesn't work out.
    I'll try reassuring him without the approval if possible. I know everyone has their faults. I wonder if I'm being petty.
    Offline

    12
    ReputationRep:
    Kudos to you for giving this guy a chance; most others wouldn't.

    It sounds like a number of things. It's possible his confidence is shot from a recent experience. He could be inexperienced. He might get the vibe/feeling that you're not happy with it.

    Identify it. Resolve it. You're a couple now; communicate.
    • #1
    • Thread Starter
    #1

    (Original post by SpiritSharD)
    Kudos to you for giving this guy a chance; most others wouldn't.

    It sounds like a number of things. It's possible his confidence is shot from a recent experience. He could be inexperienced. He might get the vibe/feeling that you're not happy with it.

    Identify it. Resolve it. You're a couple now; communicate.
    Hey, thanks for your reply.

    I wouldn't say we are a couple, I'm not considering dating anyone else and I think I would be a bit annoyed if he was!

    He has more experience than me - we spoke about it, but he could have exaggerated hence the approval....
 
 
 
Reply
Submit reply
TSR Support Team

We have a brilliant team of more than 60 Support Team members looking after discussions on The Student Room, helping to make it a fun, safe and useful place to hang out.

Updated: January 22, 2016
  • See more of what you like on The Student Room

    You can personalise what you see on TSR. Tell us a little about yourself to get started.

  • Poll
    How are your GCSEs going so far?
  • See more of what you like on The Student Room

    You can personalise what you see on TSR. Tell us a little about yourself to get started.

  • The Student Room, Get Revising and Marked by Teachers are trading names of The Student Room Group Ltd.

    Register Number: 04666380 (England and Wales), VAT No. 806 8067 22 Registered Office: International House, Queens Road, Brighton, BN1 3XE

    Quick reply
    Reputation gems: You get these gems as you gain rep from other members for making good contributions and giving helpful advice.