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Unable to deal with paranoia...

I will sound utterly ridiculous in this post to some ppl, so I'm warning u, those that have zero tolerance, please stop reading now.

Basically, I started university in September, made friends with many people, but my "group" soon became one boy and two girls. One of the girls and the boy started dating and I am truly happy for them, they make a cute couple. Anyway, so me and this girl were really close until I kissed her brother from back home.. He was drunk, I was quite sober and I backed off eventually but I didn't immediately because I was confused and didn't know what to do. Anyway, so we had a bit of an argument, whereby this girl told the other one the odd bitchy comments that I had made about her (which were completely out of order but it takes two people to bitch, i.e. it was her too)... Things seemed to have gotten out of hand but eventually they got sorted. I apologised for kissing the girl's friend and also to the other girl for the few bitchy comments.

Things really did seem to be getting back to normal- only problem is that I now feel very left out. The other two girls seem to be getting very close- this easter they have met up and gone shopping (its probably because they live half an hour away from each other whereas I live two hours away), and they always seem to be communicating on the ever so popular facebook and on the phone. I wouldn't say I'm jealous- if they want to be best friends, by all means be my guest. The problem here is my paranoia. I'm paranoid that they are bitching about me, or plotting something against me. I haven't even said or done anything wrong to anybody since the argument, I've been civil and normal with everyone, so why do I feel that the world is against me? Why is it that no matter what I do for any of the girls, I don't get appreciated?
Reply 1
anyone? :indiff:
Reply 2
Firstly, I really do not belive that they would be plotting anything against you, so stop thinking that!
I've recently learnt that if you just get on with your own thing eventually they will come back and everything will go back to normal.
As for communicating phone/facebook, why not send them a msg/txt?

They may have said a few bitchy things (just like you did) but I doubt its a big deal, and a certain amount of bitching is just a way of life.
Stop making this more and more complex, and tone it down. Just think, well they did that, so what?!

Hope this helps
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indeed, sorry but i really dont see any problem here. You're bound to feel left out if you're 2hours away compared to them living closer. If they can meet up more, they will surely grow closer as friends, whilst they cant really do that with you, if you're miles away. It sounds like you're jealous of their relationship as its something you yourself do not have. All you can really do, is just get on with the relationship with them, and make sure bitchy comments are kept to a minimal and that you actually do communicate with them. Dont sit wondering when they will call you, the endless friends i've said to "we'll keep in contact" and it never happens. Sometimes you have to do the chasing and just get on with it.

Also, we all bitch and gossip about everyone, thats what this country basically thrives on. The fact that the most read newspaper is the Sun, sums it up. Its a way of life, just be careful who you bitch about and to whom you tell, that is one lesson to learn.