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fast-moving relationship?

About 6 months ago I met this guy and we started going out pretty much immediately. He turned out to be really emotionally messed up and commitment-phobic and we split up at the end of January. I was really upset for a while, and then suddenly, at the end of March, I went on a uni trip abroad and was suddenly really attracted to someone I already knew (although not very well) and things happened between us and we got together. So we've been together about a month now, I've met his family twice (which is unusual considering neither of us live at home any more) and last night he asked me if I'd go with him to a close friend's wedding. Is it just me, or is that a pretty big deal? I mean, we haven't been together very long at all, and it seems to me that you'd only really take a serious girlfriend with you to someone's wedding, especially since you generally need to assume you'll still be together in a few months' time. It feels a bit strange, especially since I'm only just getting used to the idea of being with him and not with my ex-boyfriend. Maybe it's just because I'm only 21 and haven't exactly been to many weddings since I was a kid. Anyway, sorry for rambling. Just wanted to know what your thoughts were.

Reply 1

FunnyMonkey

2

to me that isnt a massive deal, you are his g/f so why wouldnt he invite you? its maybe because i have been to WAY too many weddings that they dont seem that big a deal to me. go and have fun, and try not to analyse it too much :smile:

Reply 2

Apricot Fairy

OP

16

Maybe I'm just comparing him to the last one, who didn't even tell his mother he had a girlfriend...

Reply 3

Bismarck

13

Apricot Fairy

About 6 months ago I met this guy and we started going out pretty much immediately. He turned out to be really emotionally messed up and commitment-phobic and we split up at the end of January. I was really upset for a while, and then suddenly, at the end of March, I went on a uni trip abroad and was suddenly really attracted to someone I already knew (although not very well) and things happened between us and we got together. So we've been together about a month now, I've met his family twice (which is unusual considering neither of us live at home any more) and last night he asked me if I'd go with him to a close friend's wedding. Is it just me, or is that a pretty big deal? I mean, we haven't been together very long at all, and it seems to me that you'd only really take a serious girlfriend with you to someone's wedding, especially since you generally need to assume you'll still be together in a few months' time. It feels a bit strange, especially since I'm only just getting used to the idea of being with him and not with my ex-boyfriend. Maybe it's just because I'm only 21 and haven't exactly been to many weddings since I was a kid. Anyway, sorry for rambling. Just wanted to know what your thoughts were.

As long as you're not the main course at the wedding, I don't see the problem. :smile:

It seems he thinks of you as a keeper. Not exactly a bad thing.

Reply 4

ßlαcksωαn

17

Apricot Fairy

especially since you generally need to assume you'll still be together in a few months' time. I'm only 21 and haven't exactly been to many weddings since I was a kid. Anyway, sorry for rambling. Just wanted to know what your thoughts were.

I don't think this is the case at all.
And perhaps he thinks the wedding is going to be boring so he's taking you along. I'd go, I don't see why it's a big deal.

Reply 5

Clumsy girlie

Awww i think its sweet. Wot harm is it gonna do to go. It will be a laugh, go for it, lifes to short. Bless his cotton socks for asking you xxx

Reply 6

hippieglitter

19

My boyfriend and i had only been together a month or so when he was invited to his friends wedding and i was even named on the invitation, now that is scary.

Reply 7

shona

10

I'm in a pretty fast moving relationship myself. I think if it's working for both of you, you just have to trust it.

What worries me though, is how you say you're still getting used to being with your current boyfriend as oppposed to being with your ex? Are you over your ex?

I hooked up with my current boyfriend fairly quickly after breaking up with my ex-boyfriend, but it was never an issue because I knew I was 100% over my ex. I find it hard to even compare the two of them in my head because even though it wasn't that long ago we were together, I feel so emotionally distant from my ex that it feels like we dated in a different lifetime. In a different, crappier lifetime, that is. :rolleyes:

I'm taking my boyfriend to my friend's wedding in a couple of months. Weddings are occasions to feel inferior if you're there by yourself (even if you're not single). If the invite is for "plus one", no one ever wants to go alone. It's not necessarily a big deal.

Although for me, perhaps, part of the reason why I want my boyfriend to come with, is because I do think of him as a keeper. You'll have to guage your boyfriend's reasons yourself, I'm afraid.

Reply 8

Apricot Fairy

OP

16

I think I am over my ex. There are a few regrets, but I know it would never have worked out in the long run and my new boyfriend is much nicer.

Reply 9

Darren Marc

10

I dont see the problem at all, if anything its quite a nice gesture. Taking a girlfriend to a friends wedding, surely is a way to show you off to his pals, which you should be flattered with.

Also, dont forget as well, normally when you invite a close friend or family member to a wedding, its an un-written rule that their partner comes along too (whether you know them or not)!

Reply 10

Helenia

20

I think the wedding thing is pretty big - there's always the risk of insane old grannies coming up to you going "And will you two be next? Mwahahahaha!?!" Not to mention the whole fact that, well, people are getting married in front of you. I think it's a pretty good sign he's quite serious about you. Whether this is a good thing for you or not is up to you to work out.

Reply 11

Bismarck

13

Helenia

I think the wedding thing is pretty big - there's always the risk of insane old grannies coming up to you going "And will you two be next? Mwahahahaha!?!" Not to mention the whole fact that, well, people are getting married in front of you. I think it's a pretty good sign he's quite serious about you. Whether this is a good thing for you or not is up to you to work out.

As long as those grannies aren't hitting on you. :p:

Reply 12

R_Fischer

I remember my girlfriend was reluctant to take our relationship to the 'next level' so i forced her into it.
C'est la vie.

Reply 13

ISH

9

R_Fischer

I remember my girlfriend was reluctant to take our relationship to the 'next level' so i forced her into it.
C'est la vie.

I think that's called rape? :confused:

Reply 14

R_Fischer

ISH

I think that's called rape? :confused:

sorry, buddy you completely misread me. She was my girlfriend, so it can't be rape :rolleyes:

Reply 15

Saffie

11

R_Fischer

sorry, buddy you completely misread me. She was my girlfriend, so it can't be rape :rolleyes:

yes it can.

Reply 16

mrmanps

11

you'll get a free munch!

Reply 17

Darren Marc

10

R_Fischer

She was my girlfriend, so it can't be rape :rolleyes:

lol ok

Reply 18

Joric

HLouise

to me that isnt a massive deal, you are his g/f so why wouldnt he invite you? its maybe because i have been to WAY too many weddings that they dont seem that big a deal to me. go and have fun, and try not to analyse it too much :smile:

That is true. Too much analysis confuses.

Reply 19

ISH

9

R_Fischer

sorry, buddy you completely misread me. She was my girlfriend, so it can't be rape :rolleyes:

Wiki

In most jurisdictions the crime of rape is defined to occur when sexual intercourse takes place (or is attempted) without valid consent of one of the parties involved.

There's no condition of knowing the person. It is simply whether consent is given. Sorry

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