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    (Original post by driftawaay)
    If you don't have any arguments, you can just not reply instead of making useless points.
    I've made 2: morally wrong and illegal.

    Take your pick.
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    (Original post by thecatwithnohat)
    He was probably her first if she made her face visible
    I do feel sorry for the OP, but this happens so often. It's just stupid to trust others with pictures like this
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    (Original post by Reue)
    I've made 2: morally wrong and illegal.

    Take your pick.
    Okay, I'll make 2 points for you too: Just because something is morally wrong doesn't mean it should be illegal, lying and cheating on your partner is also morally wrong according to most people yet it isn't illegal. Secondly, just because something is illegal doesn't mean that is a logical law, lots of people think weed being outlawed is bull**** and therefore ignore the law and are trying to change it so that it will be legal. Interracial marriage also used to be illegal and gay marriage is still considered morally wrong by lots of people, that doesn't mean those views and laws made any sense. I don't just sit down and stay quiet and accept laws and views that don't make any sense, I have a brain and my own opinions.

    So your points are still invaid.
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    (Original post by Zargabaath)
    I do feel sorry for the OP, but this happens so often. It's just stupid to trust others with pictures like this
    It should also make these people think about what sort of people they get into relationships with. Any half decent person would never share nude pictures of their ex partners online, if your ex did, it means he is the lowest scum of the earth so perhaps grow some self respect and find a better person to be with.
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    Wait, was it nudes or actual porn? I'm confused after reading the debate going on....

    Which do you think is worse? or do you think both are equally as bad as each other?

    Imo (giving one because I'm so bored of doing my work....) I would say the video is worse, but then again, what is the likelihood of anyone in the distant future seeing it because pornsites are just filled with millions of vids.

    Unless it gets highly rated or something, in that case... Or someone shares the link. Then I think it's worse than a naked picture.

    But are both awful really if shared due to "revenge".
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    (Original post by driftawaay)
    It should also make these people think about what sort of people they get into relationships with. Any half decent person would never share nude pictures of their ex partners online, if your ex did, it means he is the lowest scum of the earth so perhaps grow some self respect and find a better person to be with.
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    (Original post by driftawaay)
    It should also make these people think about what sort of people they get into relationships with. Any half decent person would never share nude pictures of their ex partners online, if your ex did, it means he is the lowest scum of the earth so perhaps grow some self respect and find a better person to be with.
    I'm pretty sure people don't look at someone straight up and think 'would they leak if I sent them something naughty?', and they wouldn't know how the person will react should a breakup occur so she didn't really see it coming

    I thought they were dating when she sent the pic....if an ex, damn :lolwut:


    (Original post by Zargabaath)
    I do feel sorry for the OP, but this happens so often. It's just stupid to trust others with pictures like this
    I'm assuming they were together for a long time before she sent them. I'm still finding it hard to understand why you'd put your face in it lmao. It's best to hope that her digital footprint isn't found online by important/people who could change her life :nope:
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    (Original post by abruiseonthesky)
    lol really. So someone telling me to take some responsibility for being sexually assaulted despite them not knowing what happened isn't? Right.
    Are you implying sexual assault ≈ posting Nancy's nude pics online?
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    (Original post by DiceTheSlice)
    Questions:

    1) What is your definition of a Slut?
    someone who sleeps around?
    2) Have you learnt any lessons from this ordeal?
    yes of course
    3) Do you feel this is your fault?
    yes and no, both parties
    4) Would you encourage your friends to swap nudes with their partners?
    nope unless they completely trust them
    5) Do you plan on getting married and having kids?
    yes
    6) If picture resurfaces elsewhere, would you want your friends letting you know?
    yes

    Thanks
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    Why did that person take revenge?
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    (Original post by thecatwithnohat)
    I'm pretty sure people don't look at someone straight up and think 'would they leak if I sent them something naughty?'
    I didn't say they did.
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    (Original post by thecatwithnohat)
    and they wouldn't know how the person will react should a breakup occur so she didn't really see it coming

    I can assure you that I know that none of my exes would do something like this. OP is obviously very bad at determining a person's general character.
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    (Original post by TheonlyMrsHolmes)
    Wait, was it nudes or actual porn? I'm confused after reading the debate going on....

    Which do you think is worse? or do you think both are equally as bad as each other?

    Imo (giving one because I'm so bored of doing my work....) I would say the video is worse, but then again, what is the likelihood of anyone in the distant future seeing it because pornsites are just filled with millions of vids.

    Unless it gets highly rated or something, in that case... Or someone shares the link. Then I think it's worse than a naked picture.

    But are both awful really if shared due to "revenge".
    it was just nudes. but its classed as revenge po rn. videos is worse definitely

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    Was the sex good
    ive never had s*x, im a virgin by choice
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    (Original post by wildleaves)
    Why did that person take revenge?
    bc i was getting close to someone else when we were over
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    OP report them to the cyber police, consequences will never be the same
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    ^^
    Thanks again

    Last question... can you elaborate why you think this is partly not your fault?
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    (Original post by thecatwithnohat)

    There is a difference between legal confidentiality between a doctor and patient and the confidentiality exchanged between two lovers. (I think it's an illegal offence to do that now anyway??)

    You had the chance to prevent it from occurring by not sending to prevent putting yourself in that position in the first place. But its wrong that he thought he was allowed to expose her like that :erm:
    Correct. but both carry legal consequences is what I mean. You trust the doc not to air you, just as you trust your lover not to go full retard after/if you decide to dump. While the doctor obvs has contractually binding agreements, the law is clear on what constitutes revenge porn and the person who does it should know full well the consequences, it is as close to a "contract" as you can get.

    Sure, but a lot of couples do it and it's amazing how quickly someone can turn from being nice guy to being a "nice-guy" once things turn sour, one minute your bf/gf is all nice the next unrecognizable, abusing your trust. It's not like you'd deliberately go "here lol, i know you'll put it over the internet but have my nudes anyway"
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    (Original post by driftawaay)
    I personally don't think there should be a law on it at all, if you share pictures of yourself with someone then it is no longer your private property, it is the property of that persony you shared it with as well and they are free to do whatever they want with it. You only have a right to complain if someone stole your pictures/videos or took them secretly and you weren't aware of it.
    You know full well that sending that kind of picture that it is NOT for being shown around, it for that person and that person alone. Simple decency should be enough that an ex does not share those pictures
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    (Original post by driftawaay)
    I didn't say they did.





    I can assure you that I know that none of my exes would do something like this. OP is obviously very bad at determining a person's general character.[/QUOTE]

    You don't know that. Your exes have no obligation to protect you, your feelings or anything you have shared with them. People change all the time. It's unfair of you to blame this on OPs 'judgement of character'. Nobody anticipates a bad breakup with someone they're happily committed to.
 
 
 
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