This discussion is now closed.
Check out other Related discussions
- long distance at university
- Is it a bad idea to get into a relationship at university?
- Doesn’t say good night
- Why do couples break up for the long distance of uni?
- Distance relationship
- help! i have two boyfriends?
- Should I continue this relationship?
- Cliche, I know
- My girlfriend lives in another country, how to keep relationship going?
- Boyfriend commenting on other girls posts - am I crazy???
- I broke my GF trust in a long distance relationship. How do I begin to heal or make a
- how the actual HELLLLL do I get into a relationship.
- Relationship advice
- My bf went to a party where his ex was
- bf not replying
- im 19 female with zero experience in relationships so
- does my GF care about me?
- The Long Distance Relationship Society Advice Centre Mark II
- Trying not to worry about my gf and me '25 M' '23 F' '4 months long' Some quick back
- I feel tied to my girlfriend.
long distance relationships
Has anyone made a long distance relationship work?
We moved 3 months ago and I'm now 200 miles from my boyfriend. We have been seeing each other every 2 to 3 weeks since but it is so hard. The time together seems to always over shadowed by the count down to one of us leaving for home again.
I also find myself feeling really guilty making new friends now, because he hasnt a clue who they are. We are ending up with two separate groups of friends and no connection in the middle.
Some of you must also have this issue when you go to uni (I'm still in Lower 6th).
How does it work out? Or is the end inevitable?
We moved 3 months ago and I'm now 200 miles from my boyfriend. We have been seeing each other every 2 to 3 weeks since but it is so hard. The time together seems to always over shadowed by the count down to one of us leaving for home again.
I also find myself feeling really guilty making new friends now, because he hasnt a clue who they are. We are ending up with two separate groups of friends and no connection in the middle.
Some of you must also have this issue when you go to uni (I'm still in Lower 6th).
How does it work out? Or is the end inevitable?
Scroll to see replies
Mine just ended after nearly a year, so no.
Depemds though- if you're both willing to negoitate and stuff then yeah they can work.
Depemds though- if you're both willing to negoitate and stuff then yeah they can work.
I think it really depends on a relationship if it will or won't survive the distance. If it is strong enough and both parties willing to work for it is has a chance, but otherwise it will end. The most important thing in my opinion is that in order for a long distance relationship to last you must be planning to move to the same place sooner or later, be it in a few months or a few years.
Theres about 400 miles between my bf and me but only been together 7 months. I'm guessing we'll split up eventually (not that theres any signs just yet, but I have no confidence and always think that) I think if he met someone nicer down there, we wouldn't see each other any more. I usually only see him once a month.
Just gotta find more ways to keep in touch constantly. He he, try everything possible msn, tsr, mobile, email, letters, etc etc etc. Then if it does break down you know you have tried everything possible and it just wasnt meant to be?!? Good luck xxx
crema
I think it really depends on a relationship if it will or won't survive the distance. If it is strong enough and both parties willing to work for it is has a chance, but otherwise it will end. The most important thing in my opinion is that in order for a long distance relationship to last you must be planning to move to the same place sooner or later, be it in a few months or a few years.
We will have been going out together for 1 year on the 19th may. Planning to move to together is just not a question at the moment. I am in Lower 6th so will be here for another year plus.
Clumsy girlie
Just gotta find more ways to keep in touch constantly. He he, try everything possible msn, tsr, mobile, email, letters, etc etc etc. Then if it does break down you know you have tried everything possible and it just wasnt meant to be?!? Good luck xxx
Good answer
Clumsy girlie
Just gotta find more ways to keep in touch constantly. He he, try everything possible msn, tsr, mobile, email, letters, etc etc etc. Then if it does break down you know you have tried everything possible and it just wasnt meant to be?!? Good luck xxx
Thanks! We already msn, webcam, txt. He even made me little videos of our friends when we first moved up here to try and cheer me up.
My boyfriend lives in France, I live in England. We've been together 2.5 years and we see one another at least every 6 weeks (difficult when I'm at uni with a weekend job and he has a full-time job with time off at weekends!). I'm going to live with him for this summer to work before I go back to uni and I'm so excited about it.
No need to worry about having separate groups of friends - I have my friends here, and he has his in France, and we've each met a few of each other's friends. We even have a few mutual friends. It doesn't really bother us tbh - it's difficult to share the same group of friends when you live in 2 different countries, so we've never expected anything.
If it works for you, then great. If not, then don't blame the distance, because it's really annoying when people do that
If it ends, chances are it'll end for reasons other than the distance, and those reasons would be the same if you lived next door to one another.
Good luck with it anyways
No need to worry about having separate groups of friends - I have my friends here, and he has his in France, and we've each met a few of each other's friends. We even have a few mutual friends. It doesn't really bother us tbh - it's difficult to share the same group of friends when you live in 2 different countries, so we've never expected anything.
If it works for you, then great. If not, then don't blame the distance, because it's really annoying when people do that
If it ends, chances are it'll end for reasons other than the distance, and those reasons would be the same if you lived next door to one another.Good luck with it anyways
My boyfriend and I are about 200 miles apart. It has been that way for three years now and we're still going good Of course we would like to see each other more readily but we talk to each other constantly when we are both at home by using voice chat on yahoo, it's like being on the phone but free! In fact I'm talking to him right now
You can make it work, you just have to want to make it work - both of you, and you have to work hard.
Of course we would like to see each other more readily but we talk to each other constantly when we are both at home by using voice chat on yahoo, it's like being on the phone but free! In fact I'm talking to him right now You can make it work, you just have to want to make it work - both of you, and you have to work hard.
I was together with my girlfriend for two and half years.
The last year was long distance (Reading->Cheshire), and I'm afraid to say it failed.
It failed because I was unable to do those things that would ordinarily keep a relationship like ours going.
Yours doesn't have to fail, just keep communicatiing, don't ever be tempted to ignore each other because of small spats and be honest with each other.
Make time for each other as much as you can and you'll be fine.
My boyfriend and I are about 200 miles apart. It has been that way for three years now and we're still going good Of course we would like to see each other more readily but we talk to each other constantly when we are both at home by using voice chat on yahoo, it's like being on the phone but free! In fact I'm talking to him right now
You can make it work, you just have to want to make it work - both of you, and you have to work hard
Quoted for truth.
The last year was long distance (Reading->Cheshire), and I'm afraid to say it failed.
It failed because I was unable to do those things that would ordinarily keep a relationship like ours going.
Yours doesn't have to fail, just keep communicatiing, don't ever be tempted to ignore each other because of small spats and be honest with each other.
Make time for each other as much as you can and you'll be fine.
My boyfriend and I are about 200 miles apart. It has been that way for three years now and we're still going good Of course we would like to see each other more readily but we talk to each other constantly when we are both at home by using voice chat on yahoo, it's like being on the phone but free! In fact I'm talking to him right now
You can make it work, you just have to want to make it work - both of you, and you have to work hard
Quoted for truth.
Dero
I was together with my girlfriend for two and half years.
The last year was long distance (Reading->Cheshire), and I'm afraid to say it failed.
It failed because I was unable to do those things that would ordinarily keep a relationship like ours going.
Yours doesn't have to fail, just keep communicatiing, don't ever be tempted to ignore each other because of small spats and be honest with each other.
Make time for each other as much as you can and you'll be fine.
Quoted for truth.
The last year was long distance (Reading->Cheshire), and I'm afraid to say it failed.
It failed because I was unable to do those things that would ordinarily keep a relationship like ours going.
Yours doesn't have to fail, just keep communicatiing, don't ever be tempted to ignore each other because of small spats and be honest with each other.
Make time for each other as much as you can and you'll be fine.
Quoted for truth.
Hmmm thats true. I find small spats do blow up over distance.
IF it's what the both of you really want then it will work. It will fail if you can't be botherd with it.
I've been in a LDR since meeting with my boyfriend, although at first it wasn't too bad, it hen increased to 200 miles, it then decreased to about 150 miles but we have made it work for over a year now We have also proved we can put up with eachother after living together for 3 weeks on holiday which was great!
But then both of us are in love and we want it to work so we shall make it. I miss him constantly and recently it's become difficult to talk to him as much as we would like and yes it has put a strain on the relaionship but I'm determined to get though and one day, once I've finished my degree we hope to be able to move in together! Well thats if we last another 3 and bit years
I've been in a LDR since meeting with my boyfriend, although at first it wasn't too bad, it hen increased to 200 miles, it then decreased to about 150 miles but we have made it work for over a year now
We have also proved we can put up with eachother after living together for 3 weeks on holiday which was great!But then both of us are in love and we want it to work so we shall make it. I miss him constantly and recently it's become difficult to talk to him as much as we would like and yes it has put a strain on the relaionship but I'm determined to get though and one day, once I've finished my degree we hope to be able to move in together! Well thats if we last another 3 and bit years
I split up with my girlfriend of three years, she moved home, then we got back together long-distance. The split did us the world of good but thats off topic.
As others have said, communication, communication, communcication. And honesty; yeah it was hard to swollow when she went out clubbing (although i think that hard more to do with the break up than the distance) but I was 100% honest about this with her, and she is with me. Doesnt bother me now, just for the first month or so after getting back together it did.
We see each other at least twice a month, am planning to move down there as soon as i finish uni (less that a month
). I make supirse visits when i can and send little gifts as often as possible. And again, _COMMUNICATION_ we talk for at least an hour everyday, sometime a lot more. This has been 6 months now and all is good. If your relationship can survive it, it will be stronger for it.
Best of luck.
As others have said, communication, communication, communcication. And honesty; yeah it was hard to swollow when she went out clubbing (although i think that hard more to do with the break up than the distance) but I was 100% honest about this with her, and she is with me. Doesnt bother me now, just for the first month or so after getting back together it did.
We see each other at least twice a month, am planning to move down there as soon as i finish uni (less that a month
). I make supirse visits when i can and send little gifts as often as possible. And again, _COMMUNICATION_ we talk for at least an hour everyday, sometime a lot more. This has been 6 months now and all is good. If your relationship can survive it, it will be stronger for it.Best of luck.
sminky
Hmmm thats true. I find small spats do blow up over distance.
Most definitely! I've been going out with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years and all the huge fights we have all happen over skype and the phone...if we're together everything gets resolved far more quickly.
Our last one has just finished but dragged on over four days - I'm quite a jealous person by nature but I've tried really hard to let my boyfriend do loads of extra-curricular stuff at uni and make lots of new friends although I'm quite lonely because I'm on my gap year so he's really my main point of social contact. Then I found facebook photos of him (which I saw straight after coming back from New York, where I missed him constantly) romantically posing on a boat with this hideous manipulative bitch who's tried to get between us before. He couldn't understand why I was upset that they looked like a couple because 10 other people were with them but these ten people weren't in the photos and other boy-girl posage had been way more friend-like. We almost made up when he came to see me at work in London on Tuesday, but as soon as we were back on Skype the fight started all over again.
We've both promised to make more of an effort now, but like a lot of the people who've posted so far, our main thing to look forward to is the fact that we'll practically be living together when I go to the same uni as him in October. So OP, long distance relationships are incredibly hard work, but if you both love each other you'll find a way to keep on going.
My trip to see the ex was 4 hours, and although we ended up needing to call it off, it wasn't so much the distance but the frequency of the visits. It was just very hard to persist a meaningful relationship when you have entirely different lives at opposite ends of the country 
Related discussions
- long distance at university
- Is it a bad idea to get into a relationship at university?
- Doesn’t say good night
- Why do couples break up for the long distance of uni?
- Distance relationship
- help! i have two boyfriends?
- Should I continue this relationship?
- Cliche, I know
- My girlfriend lives in another country, how to keep relationship going?
- Boyfriend commenting on other girls posts - am I crazy???
- I broke my GF trust in a long distance relationship. How do I begin to heal or make a
- how the actual HELLLLL do I get into a relationship.
- Relationship advice
- My bf went to a party where his ex was
- bf not replying
- im 19 female with zero experience in relationships so
- does my GF care about me?
- The Long Distance Relationship Society Advice Centre Mark II
- Trying not to worry about my gf and me '25 M' '23 F' '4 months long' Some quick back
- I feel tied to my girlfriend.
Latest
Trending
Last reply 1 month ago
Engineering vs. Medicine: Stuck Between Dreams and ExpectationsLast reply 1 month ago
heyyy , im new heree and im willing to have some friends xxxLast reply 1 month ago
Im 16 and never had a gf and it doesnt feel ok.
