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    I recently reached out to one of my old friends, we were really close .. Like sisters, until she was brainwashed by her bf. like it was crazy, long story short she stab me in the back, started rumours about me and even allowed her bf to get in my face, as he didn't think I was a suitable friend. I reached out to her because, I feel guilty to what happen, that I couldnt help with her abusive bf.

    I added her on fb and sent her message, she responded, however she doesn't reply to messages, it can take her days, she says she wants to meet up but won't text or call. I don't understand why she is acting so odd. She's doing well in life, but I get upset to think she doesn't care anyone as I consider to be a close friend. Should i keep the past in the past? Anyone had a familiar experience ?
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    Is she still with her bf? If so the he may be giving her grief, if not then maybe she's embarrassed about the way she treated you and/or she just feels you've grown apart too much. I wouldn't try to force anything, reach out to her but you have to respect her wishes if she isn't taking an interest
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    (Original post by Blondie987)
    Is she still with her bf? If so the he may be giving her grief, if not then maybe she's embarrassed about the way she treated you and/or she just feels you've grown apart too much. I wouldn't try to force anything, reach out to her but you have to respect her wishes if she isn't taking an interest
    Not with her bf anymore, she moved to a different university and has a different set of friends now
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    (Original post by Mariejudge)
    Not with her bf anymore, she moved to a different university and has a different set of friends now
    It's really up to you how you want to respond, if she's at a different uni surrounded by new people, maybe she just doesn't have the time to make amends with someone from her past, that's not your fault but I wouldn't recommend pushing it if she's showing resistance as you don't want to alienate her further. She may just not want to revisit her past for obvious reasons but if you were good friends it might be worth setting a date and place to meet up to at least get some closure and see where to work from there. I hope you do make amends but just remember that people change and you shouldn't blame yourself or put yourself out for something that may not work out if it's going to cause you grief. At the end of the day you both need to want to become friends again if it's going to be a rewarding not friendship, just my opinion though, I don't have a lot of experience with this so feel free to ignore my advice if you don't feel it's useful, good luck!
 
 
 
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