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    My girlfriend and I are in a long distance relationship, and it's a very successful one. We are both doing A2's this year, so it's a stressful time, and all this stress (+ her parents being very controlling) are getting to her. I'm more than happy for her to talk to me about all her problems and feelings, and I don't mind her complaining even if it's a bit too much or over-exaggerated, but I just feel so useless in moments like this. I mean I just have nothing to say over text except for something along the lines of "I feel sorry for you", or "I get you......", and I just feel like I can't help her at all, and I really do want to make her feel better. If we were closer (as in lived in the same area) I would give her a hug or do something nice, but it's not something you can do when you're in London and she's in Manchester. So how do I make her feel better over text/phone?
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    I have dealt with something very similar. It was not stress related but the boy was having some family issues and he needed my support and advice but I couldn't think of anything to do for him. Being a girl myself I know exactly what may lift some pressure off me in these stressful times. Websites like moonpig can deliver cards and flowers to any address in the uk. Because you can't go and see her by sending something as sweet and thoughtful as this you are reminding her that no matter where you are you support her and you are going through the stressful times as well. If I was going through difficult times I know that I would love to receive a card and flowers to my doorstep.

    I hope this helped you and good luck
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    Don't try to solve her issues. Tell her that you see her point and "x" is really "y" ie that girl is really rude etc.

    Remind her you're there for her.

    9 times out of 10 when I complain to my OH I just need sympathy.

    Use affectionate/supportive language, phrases that really communicate you understand and empathise, make sure she knows you're there for her
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