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how to maintain a friendship as just that
Hi everyone,
I am really good friends with a guy since a year or so, but over the past few months, I started to have more romantic feelings for him, and now I even want to go out with him. Thing is I just know he's not in love with me. He never told me, but I know him so well that I know he doesn't see me in this way. But now, I've started to get jealous when he talks to other girls and stuff like that. I really need to just stay friends with him and stop wanting more....else I'll just end up ruining our friendship. I'm not sure if anyone can really help me here, but has anyone ever been in this situation and what can I do?!
I am really good friends with a guy since a year or so, but over the past few months, I started to have more romantic feelings for him, and now I even want to go out with him. Thing is I just know he's not in love with me. He never told me, but I know him so well that I know he doesn't see me in this way. But now, I've started to get jealous when he talks to other girls and stuff like that. I really need to just stay friends with him and stop wanting more....else I'll just end up ruining our friendship. I'm not sure if anyone can really help me here, but has anyone ever been in this situation and what can I do?!
Ask him, what you got to lose. You just never know, he may have the same feelings but just doesn't show it.
Oh yes,
i spent 3 years absolutely crazed over my best friend but knew nothing could ever happen and she didn't fancy me at all. I still gave her the jokey valentines card every year. There aren't too many ways to deal with this situation, apart from just getting used to the fact that they dont fancy you or want a relationship, and that its much better to remain best friends with them then not see them at all. With being jealous, thats just natural coz someone else is having what you can't have. I was in the situation where my male best friend was going out with the girl in question (my other best friend) so that made the situation even worse for me.
It killed me inside but there's no real answer but to accept it and move on, with the hope that one day something might happen.
i spent 3 years absolutely crazed over my best friend but knew nothing could ever happen and she didn't fancy me at all. I still gave her the jokey valentines card every year. There aren't too many ways to deal with this situation, apart from just getting used to the fact that they dont fancy you or want a relationship, and that its much better to remain best friends with them then not see them at all. With being jealous, thats just natural coz someone else is having what you can't have. I was in the situation where my male best friend was going out with the girl in question (my other best friend) so that made the situation even worse for me.
It killed me inside but there's no real answer but to accept it and move on, with the hope that one day something might happen.
pbrown
Just bear in mind that guys can be pretty bad at showing feelings when it comes to relationships, especially if it's for the first time
Also the fact that we never know when a girl likes us, you need to make a huge sign before we get the hint.
But of course, you might already be in the "Friend Zone".
You know what, you probably have confused feelings..he's such a great friend that you think you have 'strong' feelings for him. Sure you might, but I don't think you do. Sit tight and see if they pass.
Dude
Also the fact that we never know when a girl likes us, you need to make a huge sign before we get the hint.
But of course, you might already be in the "Friend Zone".
But of course, you might already be in the "Friend Zone".
Whooo the friend zone thats bad when you want more lol, once you step into that zone it'll just never happen. lol
(even though this sounds sarcastic, bear in mind im not trying to be lol )I just know he doesn't fancy me because he seems to be still in love with his ex, who already has a boyfriend. Seems like he just can't forget her. I was already friends with him when he was going out with her, and then she cheated on him, so they broke up. So anyway, I've always been the good friend that is always there for him, and he doesn't see me more than that. I wish I could stop wanting more, when clearly it's not going to happen ever...
It's my life
Ask him, what you got to lose. You just never know, he may have the same feelings but just doesn't show it.
a girl I was friends with told me she liked me one time...came out of the blue and I hadn't anticipated it at all. Well I didn't have the same feelings and so I politely told her no, after that I was a lot more formal than friendly in my dealings with her, I never wanted to tell her anything meaningful that felt like I was sharing a part of myself with her because I didn't want to give her any misleading hints. The friendship is now a "we msn each other every few months" thing.
It's also extremely depressing sometimes, when you start hoping that MAYBE he likes you back (he's sometimes extremely sweet and caring with me), only to realize after a few months that he's still not over his ex-. It's like a never-ending cycle, I've told myself thousand times that I should just be happy with the friendship; but the feelings just don't go away. But thanks a lot...
I'm in a similar situation, the guy may like me too though. We have a lot of mutual friends which I guess would be kinda awkward. Anyway, there's a guy that knows us both who I'm pretty close to (yeah it sounds like I should like him really), but I decided that I'd rather get it all out in the open, so I told him.
That way it's slightly easier because I trust him completely and I'll end up knowing where I stand but I can keep the friendship with him because I haven't mentioned it to him, so it wouldn't get awkward between us if we didn't feel the same way.
I think having an amazing mutual friend is the key here - he's so lovely
That way it's slightly easier because I trust him completely and I'll end up knowing where I stand but I can keep the friendship with him because I haven't mentioned it to him, so it wouldn't get awkward between us if we didn't feel the same way.
I think having an amazing mutual friend is the key here - he's so lovely
I would just take it slow with the friendship, you know just hang out together. And above all just be there for him if he's having a hard time getting over his ex and who knows he'll forget her and see what he's got with you.
Yeah, I've been there just recently. I've only known her since last September when I started uni, and I only liked her for a couple of months. The worst bit was going on a fieldtrip. I was in the same work group as her so I had to share a cabin with her and the rest of the group. And on the last night she brought back this guy she'd liked for ages and they had sex. Hurt a lot. Fortunately I think I'm pretty much over her now.
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Yeah, I've been there just recently. I've only known her since last September when I started uni, and I only liked her for a couple of months. The worst bit was going on a fieldtrip. I was in the same work group as her so I had to share a cabin with her and the rest of the group. And on the last night she brought back this guy she'd liked for ages and they had sex. Hurt a lot. Fortunately I think I'm pretty much over her now.
Sometimes it's best just to rise back above it when they do that, although what she did was just disrespectful.
It's my life
Sometimes it's best just to rise back above it when they do that, although what she did was just disrespectful.
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