will i regret a quick fling with an international student?

hoal

theres this fit international student going home in a couple months who i ahve secretly crush on all during uni . do you think i would regret having a quick fling and losing my virginity to him before he leaves? i really like the guy and i will never see him again. i was waiting until i was maried but i dont think my husband will so i dont see why i shoulud anymore. i also dont think this guy has a gf, but even if he does hes probably up for it. what do you think?

Reply 1

la fille danse

17

Yeah, go do it, maybe then you'll stop preaching on here.

OP

grow up moron

Do what you like, how would we know what you want or what you'll regret? Just use a condom.

Reply 4

Michael Scofield

Go for it, as long as a fling is all that's on the cards. Just watch you don't develop deeper feelings for him if you DO do it, because that's trouble if he's not gonna be here in 2 months.

Reply 5

uk_chip

11

if i was they guy, HELL YES WOT R U WAITING FOR, if i were u, nope. especially being founder of the roman catholic soc. i would expect a bit more from u.

Reply 6

la fille danse

17

shinytoy

grow up moron

Says the one who's asking a message board if she should have sex. :s-smilie:

Reply 7

Michael Scofield

uk_chip

if i was they guy, HELL YES WOT R U WAITING FOR, if i were u, nope. especially being founder of the roman catholic soc. i would expect a bit more from u.

I just noticed that...

Reply 8

Lolly-88

13

NO...don't do it!! I don't know you..but you're always preaching about not having sex before marriage and seemed to have strong morals.

If you've decided the no sex before marriage thing isn't what you want anymore then fine...but don't lose it to some guy who you're never going to see again!! I don't personally think being a virgin is that big of a deal but you do/did so don't...do it!!!

This is a joke right...i really can't believe you would actually post this after everything you've said

Reply 9

Sziphix

2

"Founder of TSR Roman Catholic Society"

:/

It's you who has the best idea of wherever you'll regret it or not; we don't know as much about you. Though I can't imagine any catholics not regretting a pre-marital, lustful fling. But how do you know you'll never see him again? Can't you keep in contact?

Reply 10

shinytoy

OP

18

yea im worried becuase i do hve feeligns for him and i think they will get more so if i have any fun with him, and especially if i sleep with him. but i cant imagine wanting to be with anyone else. and this whole no sex thing is getting pretty lonely. 40 year olfd virgin and im halfway there. if he was a uk student i would really want to date him and marry him and have babies with him. but clearly that cant happen. and if i lose my v before im married, say for example i never meet anyone who will wait that long, i'd at least want it to be with someone i like and someone really fit. so i dont know if i'd regret NOT doing him more that doing him and having him leave.

Reply 11

r0manticide17

3

Didn't you say a while ago you didn't agree with sex before marriage?
Back on topic, you'll probably regret it.

Reply 12

shinytoy

OP

18

i know it goes against my religion. the worst part is, he is catholic as well, and i think if he was british we could have a future together and i genuinely think he woud respect my wishes and we could compromise if needed. but we cant get married. so i dont know what s left. we arent talking becuse we like each other an d it will make it worse when he goes. we tried to stay in touch last summer but it was too hard and he isnt up for anything long distance.

Do a barrel roll.

shinytoy

i know it goes against my religion. the worst part is, he is catholic as well, and i think if he was british we could have a future together and i genuinely think he woud respect my wishes and we could compromise if needed. but we cant get married. so i dont know what s left. we arent talking becuse we like each other an d it will make it worse when he goes. we tried to stay in touch last summer but it was too hard and he isnt up for anything long distance.

You don't need to both be from the same country to get married...

Reply 15

shinytoy

OP

18

yes but he is leaving and never coming back. and im not leaving cos i've got family and a job in london.
i think im a bit sick of passing up decent fit men because they want sex and i dont. how am i going to get married? i dont NEED a man but i'd like to have the option and not having sex preccludes me from having relationships. so if i lose my v i think he'd be the best guy to have it with.

i mean we might not be in love, but i've been cruishing on him for 3 years, and we arent in a relationship but i'd like to be with him if it were possible. if we cant have love we might as well have sex, surely? but im not sure if i'd feel worse when he leaves. if he leaves i'll regert not doing it. if we do it i'll regret doing it.

but i've heard some peopel get all mushy and emotional and lovey to the person they lose it to. does it happen to everyone?

Reply 16

la fille danse

17

How do you know he won't ever come back?

Reply 17

shinytoy

OP

18

he is here on scholarship and he is from a developing country. he cant afford it, and i doubt he'd come back just to visit me, and it wouldnt achieve anythng becuase all his family are back there. he'd never move here and i'd never go there. and we dont want to be stuck in long distance limbo.

Reply 18

Lolly-88

13

shinytoy

i mean we might not be in love, but i've been cruishing on him for 3 years,

If you've liked him for 3 years why wait until he decides to leave the country and never come back to decide you want to lose your virginity to him??? :confused:

I really think it's too extreme to go from not wanting to have sex til married to losing it to some guy leaving the country. There's plenty of other fit men who you could potentially lose it to who live in this country permenantly.

Reply 19

Riim

shinytoy

hoal

theres this fit international student going home in a couple months who i ahve secretly crush on all during uni . do you think i would regret having a quick fling and losing my virginity to him before he leaves? i really like the guy and i will never see him again. i was waiting until i was maried but i dont think my husband will so i dont see why i shoulud anymore. i also dont think this guy has a gf, but even if he does hes probably up for it. what do you think?

It's not because your husband will be a non virgin that you should be one too.
I had a relationship for about 4 years with a guy and yet never slept with
him. We made out yeah, but we never had intercourse. All my friends used to
say "hell why should you bless your husband with a virgin when he most probably wouldn't be one". I never listened to them. And you know what? I'm going out with someone else today, cute and.... a virgin. That explains everything.

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