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    I've been seeing this guy for 4 months now. At the beginning things were quite casual and I was fine only talking to him every couple of days. I was relaxed around him and it was quite casual.

    Recently and after we decided to make it official about a month ago, I've started liking him more and more and now I'm in love with him. And this is making me overthink everything. While before I was happy with how it was, now I'm overthinking if he doesn't ask to see me after a while.

    I stayed around Friday- Saturday at his last week, and we spoke on Monday since we work together, but then we haven't spoken until today when he rang me and asked to go for a drink. Which is obviously so lovely and means he is thinking of me, and I was just worried for nothing!

    I haven't told him I love him yet and I'm nervous of how he feels. I think I'm therefore insecure because although I know he thinks I'm awesome and he really enjoys spending time with me, I don't know if he's in love with me or how exactly he feels.

    TLDR: In love, help, I'm overthinking.
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    I've been seeing this guy for 4 months now. At the beginning things were quite casual and I was fine only talking to him every couple of days. I was relaxed around him and it was quite casual.

    Recently and after we decided to make it official about a month ago, I've started liking him more and more and now I'm in love with him. And this is making me overthink everything. While before I was happy with how it was, now I'm overthinking if he doesn't ask to see me after a while.

    I stayed around Friday- Saturday at his last week, and we spoke on Monday since we work together, but then we haven't spoken until today when he rang me and asked to go for a drink. Which is obviously so lovely and means he is thinking of me, and I was just worried for nothing!

    I haven't told him I love him yet and I'm nervous of how he feels. I think I'm therefore insecure because although I know he thinks I'm awesome and he really enjoys spending time with me, I don't know if he's in love with me or how exactly he feels.

    TLDR: In love, help, I'm overthinking.
    My word of advice is to deliberately hold your feelings back for now. There's an initial infatuation period that often happens in relationships, also known as the 'honeymoon period'.

    Feeling insecure is not a sign of love - far from it. You're in love with someone when you don't need to worry about them or have any insecurities about them, you prefer having them around you, but at the same time, you aren't obsessed with them.

    Take some time to yourself, but continue your relationship. Keep yourself occupied and remain independent, it will balance out your feelings perfectly.

    TL;DR You're currently infatuated, wait it out if you want a successful relationship
 
 
 
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