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    (Original post by xobeauty)
    You have to go on multiple dates to get to know someone.
    If she's dating other guys, I don't want to get to know her.
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    (Original post by TheProteinSheikh)
    If she's dating other guys, I don't want to get to know her.
    Why would you care though? You barely know each other at this point and you are not exclusive.
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    So what if she isn't 'exclusive'? If some girl who supposedly liked you and you liked her back, she wouldn't do something like that.

    I mean the OP can do as she pleases, but that's my opinion on the matter.
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    (Original post by xobeauty)
    Why would you care though? You barely know each other at this point and you are not exclusive.
    It's my choice and I find it sleezy.


    EDIT: I have a gf so none of it matters, but I can get laid pretty easily, I don't see why I should jump through a bunch of hoops and be played off against other men, when I could simply um not.
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    (Original post by TheProteinSheikh)
    It's my choice and I find it sleezy.
    You reek of insecurity.
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    (Original post by xobeauty)
    You reek of insecurity.
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    (Original post by Daniellaaa)
    Is this frowned upon and regarded as cheating? I'm dating more than one person right now. I am obliged to tell my dates this?

    Most men don't enjoy stirring another man's porridge.
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    (Original post by Daniellaaa)
    It wouldn't make a great deal of sense to drop something just because you're dating someone who doesn't want you to do a certain thing. Unless we are talking about being further down the line,then yes that does seem feasible but after one or two dates? Really?
    If, two dates in, I determined that a girl was really keen on me and/or really hoping for a long term relationship, and I wasn't feeling it at all/knew it would never last, I would do the decent thing, yes. Within a very short time I've set one or two girls up for major falls before now
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    If, two dates in, I determined that a girl was really keen on me and/or really hoping for a long term relationship, and I wasn't feeling it at all/knew it would never last, I would do the decent thing, yes. Within a very short time I've set one or two girls up for major falls before now
    I think it's too early
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    It's ok in my opinion.
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    It's fine as long as they know you're not exclusive. Most people I know go on dates with different people till they find someone they like. I wouldn't take tsr as an accurate representation of British people's views on dating, they tend to be more judgemental on here.
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    Think of dating as a job interview:

    - Just because you attend a job interview doesn't mean you've got or want the job. It's just showing you're interested and want to know more about the position etc.

    - There are often several other candidates being interviewed for the same job.

    - The interview process can involve several meetings before a decision is made.

    - Nothing is official until you've signed the dotted line.






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    (Original post by TSRsteven)
    Think of dating as a job interview:

    - Just because you attend a job interview doesn't mean you've got or want the job. It's just showing you're interested and want to know more about the position etc.

    - There are often several other candidates being interviewed for the same job.

    - The interview process can involve several meetings before a decision is made.

    - Nothing is official until you've signed the dotted line.






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    Great analogy. This is how I view things
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    Think this video came out at the right time for you:

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O7gY3K_TuIg
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    Tbh if it's at first date stage... aka not really dating.... then no problem at all....

    Second dates.... yeah still okay I suppose....

    Third? Well by then usually you should of kissed them around about now.... and basically if you have kissed or had sex with someone, unless you have some kind of 'agreement', don't go messing about it's just plain wrong.

    By 4th date time you most definitely should not be dating multiple people.

    I understand with online dating you may need to be chatting and meeting up with multiple potential interests.... just don't go messing anybody about.
 
 
 
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