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So confused - this is not a normal friendship...

I'm at uni at the moment my best friend is male, I'm female, and when I first met him, there was a lot of flirting, but nothing happened. He got a girlfriend so I stopped flirting as much, but we became really close friends.

He and his girlfriend broke up a couple of months ago, and we've become a lot closer, and the flirting's started again. I'm really confused. I have strong feelings for him (as in I like him a lot and think he's great), and I always miss him when he's not around and want to spend a lot of time with him. He went out to a club last night and I couldn't be bothered going out, but waited up to chat to him when he got back - not exactly normal friend behaviour. Stuff happened, and we decided it was just no-strings-attached fun. It was kinda inevitable, all of my male friends are ex-boyfriends, or people with whom something sexual has happened at one point and now we're just friends.

I didn't really enjoy what happened last night (I'm..umm...into more kinky stuff and he's not). I don't want to go out with him, but I feel almost as if I have a crush on him, it's rather odd. I don't get it...my feelings for him are bordering on romantic, but yet I don't want it to go any further than friendship.

So, a question to anyone else who's felt like this (and those who haven't)...what the hell?!
How does he feel about you, because this could get very awkward and messy, I think you both need to talk and decide what you both want, is it just no strings fun or do you want something more?
I find it funny that a lot of girls want a boyfriend who is one of their best friends as well, but they don't want their best friends to be their boyfriends :confused:

Oh, the experience...
Reply 3
I flirt with alot of girls but I'm pretty sure that all of them don't have feelings for me in that sort of way. You grew attached, and he's not helping. If you want to be in a relationship with him tell him, if not you're going to have to take a step back from his flirting because what he's doing is making you feel something that you might think inappropriate. The way my friend danced around me lead me on and I think she picked it up and has since stopped. There should be limitations if you're just friends. The only way you can remain friends with the flirting is if you get over them.