I neeeeeed to go out!!!

Ok so AS's are coming soon, and I need to revise. Fair enough. And my parents have, quite understandably, tightened up a bit on me going out etc. They went to some meeting at the school where the teacher said "social life has to stop from now on" which they have taken very seriously. I'm allowed to go see friends for a tiny bit on the weekend, but I need a proper night out. This might sound rather futile but because I'm having absolutely no fun, I don't have any motivation to revise, and I'm just really quite depressed at home. I really really want to revise, and I don't mind not going IF I do something productive, but i just sit at home being annoyed I can't go out, when I know most of my other friends are. I know my parents arne't going to let me have a proper night out, but could anyone give me any helpful or motivational tips to get me back on track?

Reply 1

username47781

20

That's a bit unfair you can't be expected to revise 24/7, you need a break and a night out. Obviously you have to respect your parents but still, it's a bit harsh.

Reply 2

hugsnkisses

9

Well negotiate with your parents to have 1 night out then promise them you will stay in and work all they like. Anyway now is the time you really do need to start worrying more about exams then drinking.

Reply 3

*Sparkle*

17

Social lives don't have to stop, people just need to learn how to manage their time better.

Just ask your parents for the night off tonight? or sit at home doing nothing and annoy them :p:

Reply 4

puppy

You're an adult, your parents can't stop you. When it comes to exams people find different things helpful for revision. You have to do what's best for you, not what other people want you to do.

Reply 5

toth8

3

aren't you being a bit melodramatic?

I mean, exams would only last a few weeks. Then you have a lot of time after that to socialise.

Reply 6

ciara

13

I find keeping your parents in the know about what work you are doing helps. Draw up a revision timetable (I find them totally unmotivational and useless, but adults love them) which shows you have more than enough time to do all of the work you need, and each day slip into conversation the revision you've done, maybe even show your parents it and get them to test you, so that they know you're learning. Obviously, make sure you leave evenings free on the timetable, and perhaps, once you've proved the good progress you're making, ask if you can go out with your friends as you've jointly decided to take a night off from revision. That sounds lame but it's the only thing I can suggest, and it means you will be forced to keep on track with revision and your parents might actually see your point of view.

Alternatively, say you are going to study at your friend's house for something and then go out that night. Don't feel guilty. There is a massive hype over AS exams when really they aren't a big deal. Now I'm at uni I can say for a fact that even if you were given a year to revise, people would hype it up and be all 'stressed' and be revising every day and night, whether it was necessary or not. For uni exams plenty of courses only get about 2 weeks to do their revision and are still learning some of the material 3 weeks before. They manage. Don't get sucked into the hype, do what you need to do and then just relax about it. Good luck with your parents tho...

Reply 7

foxiroxi

10

Everyone needs a day off from revsion. I have exams starting next week at uni and I'm taking this weekend off from revision to spend with my boyfriend as I won't see him now till I'm back home for summer, then it because more difficult with my parents around all the time and I'll have a full time job shift work incl. weekends but he only has his weekends free due to working a monday - friday job :frown:

Reply 8

*knowitall*

Just go out any way? How will they keep you in?

You are past the age of compulsory education so you are in effect choosing to study AS levels; they are your exams not your parents'.

Point out you need to learn to balance study with going out before you get to uni otherwise once you're away & there's no-one to tell you to do your homework you might not bother!

So one night out in the next month is not going to ruin your life.

Reply 9

spacecowgirl89

1

With results like that, I wouldn't worry :smile:

You seem to be doing everything alright anyway! I get good results at school but I feel exactly like you at the moment - just no motivation whatsoever to revise. I know I should, because my exams are coming up fast...but I just cannot focus...

Reply 10

yellow96

15

Well you're doing your AS Levels so it's fair to assume that you're at least 16. I find it hard to believe that at your age your parents are still able to stop you from going out. Unless of course you rely on them entirely for your income, in which case you have no right to their money when they don't want you using it.

Reply 11

Dionysus

15

Tell your parents to do one - they don't have any right to organise your life at that age. Obviously don't get hammered EVERY night, but there's no need to revise 24/7 - in fact that would probably be detrimental.

Reply 12

envious

Maybe you could somehow compromise with them.

I mean understandably if you go out tonight, your parents may also consider tomorrow to be a write off and that can be quite a lot of time to lose. Why not ask to go out somewhere and promise to be back for a reasonable time? I doubt that they could object to you going out if you return before 11. I know this may sound like no fun but surely it beats the alternative of staying in the whole night. Alternatively why not just go somewhere like the cinema which requires a lot less time than a "proper" night out but yet still can provide an excellent break from revision woes. :smile:

Reply 13

--

3

You need to talk to them, you can't be forced into revising all day every day, you'll probably just burn out and completely fail your exams. Explain that nearly all revision advice recommends taking regular breaks, and stopping you from having these breaks will probably have the opposite effect than what they're looking for.

Reply 14

person 34

OP

9

Yeah, you're all saying exactly what I think. And the fact is, I know how I work - I have the "work hard play hard" ethic, whereas my parents have the "work hard...work hard" ethic. I will talk to them though. I am used to having a reasonably liberal social life, and they've suddenly hit hard! So it's a bit of a shock.

Reply 15

Lolly-88

13

spacecowgirl89

With results like that, I wouldn't worry :smile:

You seem to be doing everything alright anyway! I get good results at school but I feel exactly like you at the moment - just no motivation whatsoever to revise. I know I should, because my exams are coming up fast...but I just cannot focus...

I don't know if you were joking but her sig is just a joke...poking fun at some sigs that people on TSR have. (at least i think so)

OP i think it's best to make an agreement with your parents to do a certain amount of revision and as a treat go out. Try your best to get on with your revsion though...i always find it a bit hard enjoying myself if i go out near exams becuase i feel like i should be revising. It's much better to go out when all your exams are over.

Reply 16

person 34

OP

9

Why does it sound like I'm not working hard? The point is I have been, but now I don't have any motivation to because I'm just so sick of working to be honest.

Reply 17

hannah_dru

2

You need at leats one day off a week I think, in order to function properly. Explain to them that you need it, otherwise you might not get anywhere. It's your life and they can't really lead it for you. Saying that, don't sit there and try to annoy them like it's been suggested because it'll only make rules tighter.