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    A little incident happened about two weeks ago, the girl was extremely embarrassed and in shock. I did everything I could to lesson the damage, she seemed mortified by the experience.

    Anyway I can't explain details of what happened (I got banned last time) but I got my best friend to reach out to her, and she replied "Thank you, tell him that I am just fine. I'd prefer not to talk. I appreciate his concern."

    I replied that it was a pleasure to meet her etc, and that if she ever, literally ever wanted to grab a coffee we could. I doubt this will ever happen.

    Anyway, I decided to go clinic today to get checked over. They asked what happened, and the doctor seemed shocked too. She gave me some advice saying to come back for an emergency appointment to get a full examination tomorrow and that the girl is an adult, she should make the right decision for herself (but I mentioned my concerns about peer pressure and the situation of her being study abroad and away from home, and she doesn't' want to scare her parents or let them know what happened)

    They've told me if I am confirmed with anything, I'd have to tell her. Ouch! Legal obligation and what not? But also something I mentioned, should be messaged to her and that she should kinda get it checked out, because it brings up the worst google search results.

    Without freaking her out and scaring the absolute **** out of her? Any thoughts exactly?
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    You don't 'have' to tell her. If you have some STI, it would obviously be best if she were told, but that can be done by the clinic via someone doing contact tracing.

    It looks fairly obvious that she doesn't want to hear from you ever again.
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    If you results are positive for anything, let her know. I doubt she'd be annoyed for letting her know about her health.
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    If you results are positive for anything, let her know. I doubt she'd be annoyed for letting her know about her health.
    There's also an abnormal growth I felt. I didn't get to mention it to her as it was extremely awkward. I left her with her roommate.

    I just very much doubt she got it checked out, it was a horrific experience. Obviously accidental.

    A lot of people asked, at what point did I run? I didn't and couldn't. I don't think she doesn't want to talk to me as I've done nothing wrong. It's just what happened is probably something she's never dealt with before and it scared her.

    Anyway I like her and she surely has a right to know about her health? Like you say she can't be annoyed at me.
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    I don't think she doesn't want to talk to me
    What part of..

    "Thank you, tell him that I am just fine. I'd prefer not to talk. I appreciate his concern."

    .. is difficult to understand?

    You may think you have done nothing wrong - that doesn't matter.
 
 
 
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