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    I have a very good female friend who is coming to visit my university (I study in London, she studies in Glasgow), she is staying at mine for four nights, within this time we will be , touring London, going out, drinking etc. I am slightly worried, that as we will be sharing the same bed (my sofa is not comfy in the slightest), that 'things' may happen. She is a very flirty drunk and honestly when I am drunk I am a bit of an idiot to say the least. I am attracted to her, however I do not want to impact our friendship.

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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I have a very good female friend who is coming to visit my university (I study in London, she studies in Glasgow), she is staying at mine for four nights, within this time we will be , touring London, going out, drinking etc. I am slightly worried, that as we will be sharing the same bed (my sofa is not comfy in the slightest), that 'things' may happen. She is a very flirty drunk and honestly when I am drunk I am a bit of an idiot to say the least. I am attracted to her, however I do not want to impact our friendship.

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    Well they say drunk people are the most honest....

    Nah seriously like make her sleep on the sofa, lie some cushions on the floor next to your bed so she can sleep there or just sleep with clothes on or something. If it happens it happens, I've shared beds with male friends before and things have happened and our friendship is still exactly the same.
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    Well they say drunk people are the most honest....

    Nah seriously like make her sleep on the sofa, lie some cushions on the floor next to your bed so she can sleep there or just sleep with clothes on or something. If it happens it happens, I've shared beds with male friends before and things have happened and our friendship is still exactly the same.
    I will probably just give her the bed for herself really. Well at least I know it may not impact things too much but I am wary (we've both just come out of relationships)....
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    I will probably just give her the bed for herself really. Well at least I know it may not impact things too much but I am wary (we've both just come out of relationships)....
    Yes I suppose that would be the polite thing to do. If it happens when you're drunk you don't really have to worry about it, it's probably just a release of sexual frustration or something. If it happens when you're sober you're more likely to have a problem as to what it means. But yeah I can see why it would be nasty if you've both just come out of relationships, I suggest in that case that you do not sleep in the same bed because that might feel very relationshippy and these things you don't want to happen might complicate things!
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    Yes I suppose that would be the polite thing to do. If it happens when you're drunk you don't really have to worry about it, it's probably just a release of sexual frustration or something. If it happens when you're sober you're more likely to have a problem as to what it means. But yeah I can see why it would be nasty if you've both just come out of relationships, I suggest in that case that you do not sleep in the same bed because that might feel very relationshippy and these things you don't want to happen might complicate things!
    Thank you for the advice. I am not expecting anything to happen, as I do believe both genders can be friends with out feelings. It's just my housemates winding me up about it, making me think.

    Cheers and hopefully things wont be complicated.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Thank you for the advice. I am not expecting anything to happen, as I do believe both genders can be friends with out feelings. It's just my housemates winding me up about it, making me think.

    Cheers and hopefully things wont be complicated.
    Oh yeah of course they can, I have a good group of friends of an equal number of males and females and it's totally fine and no feelings are involved, just in 'intimate' situations like that I can see why things can get kind of complicated. But I wish you all the best and try not to overthink it, just have a good time with your friend in London!
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    just curious. has anyone else had experiences like this?
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    I share a bed with my best female friend sometimes. I have feelings for her and she knows it. We're often drunk, but I have never tried anything and never will because I know she isn't interested in me.

    If I were in your situation I would sleep in the same bed as her if she doesn't mind. But if you're really worried about your friendship just sleep in two different beds.
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    Sleep with her. Cuddle and enjoy each other's warmth. Why not?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    just curious. has anyone else had experiences like this?
    I've slept in beds with female friends without anything happening. But it sounds like it could be quite a risk for you, so I would avoid it just to be safe.
 
 
 
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