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    I ask girls questions like that but if theyre uncomfortable I stop, IMO you should just ask him to tone it down nicely which it sounds like u did

    (Original post by ChickenMadness)
    You sound prudish. Girls im with are usually comfortablr asking each other stuff like that after the first night over lol.
    will you sleep with me brah? (strong no homo)
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    (Original post by theDanIdentity)
    ???

    so you can have sex with the dude. see him naked; suck his ****; **** it; then suddenly reel back when he asks you whether you watch people do the EXACT same thing online?

    your hypocrisy is unreal.

    lets not forget that; you are indeed seeing each other. this isn't a one night stand thing. it's a month thing; dude probably wants to enact the same thing you do in your private life. in addition; you've also admitted/confessed that the dude stepped back from his enquiries when he realised that you didn't take a fancy to it. so: what. is. the. goddam. issue. here.

    finally, i just think he's trying to find out what turns you on. or how to make sex better for you. he backwards rationalizes that whatever you do in your spare time to get off; repeating the same with him, would cause you to enjoy it more; and would cause the sex to be better for all participants. i really don't see the issue here. is the guy not meant to be your boyfriend or something? or am i missing an important fact here? moreover you guys are adults for crying out loud. you're supposed to be the ones we look upto. what am i misssingggg!!!?
    are you autistic? (srs)

    Strong having a go at OP over social norms when half the posts you make show you have no social skills
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    (Original post by whorace)
    Intrusive personal questions seemed rather consistent with the original post no?
    Indeed - but those "intrusive" and "personal" questions were quite insensitive..
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I really don't. I guess he means sex is forbidden before marriage or something along those lines?
    Lol no haraam means forbidden like alcohol is forbidden in Islam etc
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    Isn't that meant to be a good thing? That shows he's interested to know more about you.
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    hmmm… That seems a bit too far imo.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I ask girls questions like that but if theyre uncomfortable I stop, IMO you should just ask him to tone it down nicely which it sounds like u did



    will you sleep with me brah? (strong no homo)
    I hear you. I've never felt the need to ask these questions and I don't think anyone has ever asked me any of them in my life lol.

    (Original post by BrokenLife)
    Isn't that meant to be a good thing? That shows he's interested to know more about you.
    There's wanting to get to know me better and there's wanting to get in my pants. Which one do you think applies to him? I mean it's not like the ordinary ''what kinda food do you like questions?''. The guy was literally asking what I do to please myself.

    (Original post by iEthan)
    hmmm… That seems a bit too far imo.
    I agree there is a limit. But like I said he stopped when I was uncomfortable. Can't even think of what else he was wanting to ask me.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Lol no haraam means forbidden like alcohol is forbidden in Islam etc
    Ohh ok I wasn't far off then :P
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    are you autistic? (srs)

    Strong having a go at OP over social norms when half the posts you make show you have no social skills
    1) calling me austistic. over the posts i make on the internet. because that's obviously a good judge of one's character. what makes you think i've been seriously posting all this while? or posting satirically, or being honest? where you there during my mental process to analyze that the posts i made were from my heart?

    2) thanks for that. mr anon. pot calling kettle black much?

    3) oh and thanks for checking out my profile. love to see i have fans aha. like i should take life advice (your social norms statement) from some random idiot on the internet. let alone, one who hides behind anon. looooooool.

    gtfo.

    right in reference to your 'social norms'; i beg you explain where it is the norm for people to not find out about as much as they can about their partner; whom they're dating: explicitly, in private, away from the public eye; asking and inquiring into what turns them on; behind close doors. the situation wasn't that he was going to expose what he found out. far from it. from the sounds of it, it seems like he was going to put the information learnt to "good use"; for both their benefit. if he threatened to expose her or some other ****ery, i can understand. but he didn't. even when she reeled back; he caught on and stopped. explain these social norms for me. the way i see it, if you can't tell your partner these things; who can you tell?

    for your information; i'm not a pc advocate. i say it how i see it. i insult everyone equally. i do not pander to social norms; and i disagree with all of them, seeing as society itself can (and has shown to be in the past to) be backwards. moreover, as they say "knowing your enemy is half the battle"; i fail to see the employment of social norms here.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I haven't done either of the two with him. I have no issue with the porn question, it was what came afterwards...when he was probing me about what I do to get pleasure. That would be understandable if we were having sex, however we aren't. So far we've just kissed and there has been some groping here and that's about it. You're missing the fact we are just seeing each other and nothing much has gone on so far physically lmao

    fair point. my bad actually. you'd been together for a month; assumed that you'd "been together" a couple times already; given the fact that you're explicitly seeing each other; and are full adults.

    in his defence tbh, he was just trying to find out what would get you off more tbh. he's most likely learning about it so that when the time comes; he "rises" to the occasion and it turns out to be the best for both of you.
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    (Original post by theDanIdentity)
    fair point. my bad actually. you'd been together for a month; assumed that you'd "been together" a couple times already; given the fact that you're explicitly seeing each other; and are full adults.

    in his defence tbh, he was just trying to find out what would get you off more tbh. he's most likely learning about it so that when the time comes; he "rises" to the occasion and it turns out to be the best for both of you.
    Nope. That seems to be the norm for most people but I move at a slower pace. Haha not sure if I should feel flattered by it. How can I determined his true intentions though? I mean he hasn't tried to bed me so far, it's all these questions that make me wonder.
 
 
 
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