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    I have always been attracted to men.I can only see myself dating a guy and marrying a guy. And I only dream about guys sexually. I masturbate to mostly straight porn or male oriented porn but sometimes I watch bi porn like threesomes. I fantiasize about guys but I also fantasize about having a threesome with my friend who's a girl. On top of all this I've also had lesbian sex with my friend for the last 4-6 months. It was never anything more than just pure sex no strings attached. I have never really seen though what we did as sex. It's like half fulfilling for me but was better than nothing. I can actually climax with a guy with like oral sex without him having any contact with me. I can't give head to her and feel any arousal. It's more I prefer receiving. With guys I actually enjoy a guy's body. I don't so much hers. Other than actual acts. I have a weird sexuality too because I have a high sex drive and I sometimes like fantasize about sleeping with more than one guy. I also am mistaken for being a lesbian myself well I was in the past because I am a bit more boyish. I'm also kind of dominant sexually. I've just found myself more interested in guys than girls overall. Anyhow does it sound like I'm bi straight or lesbian?
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    heteroromantic, bisexual
    is what you are
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    (Original post by justnicole18)
    I have always been attracted to men.I can only see myself dating a guy and marrying a guy. And I only dream about guys sexually. I masturbate to mostly straight porn or male oriented porn but sometimes I watch bi porn like threesomes. I fantiasize about guys but I also fantasize about having a threesome with my friend who's a girl. On top of all this I've also had lesbian sex with my friend for the last 4-6 months. It was never anything more than just pure sex no strings attached. I have never really seen though what we did as sex. It's like half fulfilling for me but was better than nothing. I can actually climax with a guy with like oral sex without him having any contact with me. I can't give head to her and feel any arousal. It's more I prefer receiving. With guys I actually enjoy a guy's body. I don't so much hers. Other than actual acts. I have a weird sexuality too because I have a high sex drive and I sometimes like fantasize about sleeping with more than one guy. I also am mistaken for being a lesbian myself well I was in the past because I am a bit more boyish. I'm also kind of dominant sexually. I've just found myself more interested in guys than girls overall. Anyhow does it sound like I'm bi straight or lesbian?
    Half jokey answer: whatever it turns out to be, I'm kinda into that

    Serious answer: I think most people are bi to some extent, so I think you're bi but nearer the straight end. But in reality who cares as long as you're happy??

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    I think the first and most important thing to realise is that it doesn't matter who you are. No label can properly describe who you are - it's always going to be a massive oversimplification at best, and what does it really gain to find a label which describes you?

    You are who you are. You feel free and able to explore both the male and the female body, and you explore different areas, experience them in different ways for each.

    If you want a label I'd call you bi - but please don't become overly attached to the label. Almost everyone has some element of a spectrum within them. Nobody is completely 100% straight or completely 100% gay.

    Personally I see you occupying that middle ground, somewhere in the middle, where you can appreciate both men and women, albeit in different ways. Typically that would make you bi, with perhaps a slight fractional bias towards straight (again very few people are completely 50:50 bi).

    Honestly, don't stress it though. Learn to accept yourself for who you are, use the label bi if it makes you happier, and ultimately continue to enjoy the human body as it was always intended by nature.

    ~~ another bi user
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    Sexuality is a spectrum - not just categories
    Don't forget that
    though like Anon #1 said

    You could be heteroromantic and bisexual but then you could be anywhere else on the spectrum!
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    (Original post by z33)
    Sexuality is a spectrum - not just categories
    Don't forget that
    though like Anon #1 said

    You could be heteroromantic and bisexual but then you could be anywhere else on the spectrum!
    What was wrong with the serious part of my answer?

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    (Original post by Andy98)
    What was wrong with the serious part of my answer?

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    Nothing ...
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    (Original post by z33)
    Nothing ...
    :yy:

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    (Original post by President Snow)
    I think the first and most important thing to realise is that it doesn't matter who you are. No label can properly describe who you are - it's always going to be a massive oversimplification at best, and what does it really gain to find a label which describes you?

    You are who you are. You feel free and able to explore both the male and the female body, and you explore different areas, experience them in different ways for each.

    If you want a label I'd call you bi - but please don't become overly attached to the label. Almost everyone has some element of a spectrum within them. Nobody is completely 100% straight or completely 100% gay.

    Personally I see you occupying that middle ground, somewhere in the middle, where you can appreciate both men and women, albeit in different ways. Typically that would make you bi, with perhaps a slight fractional bias towards straight (again very few people are completely 50:50 bi).

    Honestly, don't stress it though. Learn to accept yourself for who you are, use the label bi if it makes you happier, and ultimately continue to enjoy the human body as it was always intended by nature.

    ~~ another bi user
    The thing is with girls I don't normally notice them unless they approach me. And even then lesbian sex is a lot different from straight sex to me. Straight sex I enjoy on all levels. Lesbian also lacks borders which is really good. As I have no emotional attraction to women. And I also am not very feminine. I'm not like a typical straight female I've always thought I was much more mentally like a guy than a girl. And I've also felt like with my friend things have run its course going girl on girl. But I'd still like to have sex with her with my bf. But the issue is her bf wouldn't appreciate it. I am ok with my attraction to anyone it's just more the sexual side with guys. It is wrong but I have restraint so not a big deal.
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    (Original post by justnicole18)
    The thing is with girls I don't normally notice them unless they approach me. And even then lesbian sex is a lot different from straight sex to me. Straight sex I enjoy on all levels. Lesbian also lacks borders which is really good. As I have no emotional attraction to women. And I also am not very feminine. I'm not like a typical straight female I've always thought I was much more mentally like a guy than a girl. And I've also felt like with my friend things have run its course going girl on girl. But I'd still like to have sex with her with my bf. But the issue is her bf wouldn't appreciate it. I am ok with my attraction to anyone it's just more the sexual side with guys. It is wrong but I have restraint so not a big deal.
    I wouldn't say it's wrong

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    (Original post by Andy98)
    I wouldn't say it's wrong

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    It is because I have a lot of slut urges.
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    (Original post by justnicole18)
    It is because I have a lot of slut urges.
    Doesn't mean it's wrong. It means you like sex. As long you both consent and no one gets hurt it's fine

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    IMO you aren't gay or bisexual your are just kinky. Do you see yourself in a serious relationship with a girl or is it just for fun and pleasure?
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    You don't have to label yourself. You can be who you are, just have fun in life
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    On paper it sounds bi but only you know the answer.

    It is possible to like both genders and enjoy different things and different bedroom activities with each.

    (Original post by justnicole18)
    I have always been attracted to men.I can only see myself dating a guy and marrying a guy. And I only dream about guys sexually. I masturbate to mostly straight porn or male oriented porn but sometimes I watch bi porn like threesomes. I fantiasize about guys but I also fantasize about having a threesome with my friend who's a girl. On top of all this I've also had lesbian sex with my friend for the last 4-6 months. It was never anything more than just pure sex no strings attached. I have never really seen though what we did as sex. It's like half fulfilling for me but was better than nothing. I can actually climax with a guy with like oral sex without him having any contact with me. I can't give head to her and feel any arousal. It's more I prefer receiving. With guys I actually enjoy a guy's body. I don't so much hers. Other than actual acts. I have a weird sexuality too because I have a high sex drive and I sometimes like fantasize about sleeping with more than one guy. I also am mistaken for being a lesbian myself well I was in the past because I am a bit more boyish. I'm also kind of dominant sexually. I've just found myself more interested in guys than girls overall. Anyhow does it sound like I'm bi straight or lesbian?
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    (Original post by xobeauty)
    IMO you aren't gay or bisexual your are just kinky. Do you see yourself in a serious relationship with a girl or is it just for fun and pleasure?
    um it was like a substitute. Like I have way more fun with my bf. But in a sense I also was experimenting. I don't really have any desire to have sex with her alone. I could in a threesome but like I never had urges for her personally more in general though.
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    (Original post by justnicole18)
    um it was like a substitute. Like I have way more fun with my bf. But in a sense I also was experimenting. I don't really have any desire to have sex with her alone. I could in a threesome but like I never had urges for her personally more in general though.
    Could you ever see yourself married, sharing a house, having "sex", being inlove with a woman?
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    (Original post by xobeauty)
    Could you ever see yourself married, sharing a house, having "sex", being inlove with a woman?
    No I actually normally think about guys in terms of all that when left to my own devices.
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    (Original post by justnicole18)
    No I actually normally think about guys in terms of all that when left to my own devices.
    So basically, you like sex, and when guys ain't giving you any you're not afraid to turn to girls

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