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    I'm upset and drunk.

    I don't think i will ever have friends , i don't think i will ever have a life. My Dad predicted that my life will be **** and he is right. My parents blame me because of my autism and depression.

    I ran away to uni to escape just to have a better life but no, it has made my condition worse. I was invited to clubs and i thought i was making friends but people only liked me when i'm drunk. I'm like wtf man . 11 years of pain because of this diagnosis.

    I hate my course as well as its an intergrated degree and im in year 0 (i'm not even a first year). I wish i was in university for 3 years (or even less) because i didn't think things could get bad. I keep getting bizzare fantasy that maybe i should persuade my course leader and put me straight into second year or do a joint honours and probably accerelate the whole ****ing thing.

    My other flatmate who is generally a nerd, does the same course as me but is in first year and is a shy person, but now is ****ing popular and i'm wondering 'aren't i exactly this guy? a f***** and shy?'

    **** this life man, going to make some noodles at 12am -_______-.
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    Are you getting any help for your depression? And in the niceest way possible, be grateful you can't go to uni. Some of us can't cope there. You maybe need to start making more of an effort?
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    Are you getting any help for your depression? And in the niceest way possible, be grateful you can't (do you mean can?) go to uni. Some of us can't cope there. You maybe need to start making more of an effort?
    Do you have autism or any other issues

    I don't know what to do. I'm still drunk as i drink everyday whilst having citalopram. My people say i don't go out anymore BUT THEY DONT ****ING INVITE ME OUT SO HOW CAN I ****ING GO OUT WHEN THEY DON'T INVITE ME OUT?

    I have made an effort but right now i have given up. Next year i'm living alone due to poor socialising.
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    Do you have autism or any other issues

    I don't know what to do. I'm still drunk as i drink everyday whilst having citalopram. My people say i don't go out anymore BUT THEY DONT ****ING INVITE ME OUT SO HOW CAN I ****ING GO OUT WHEN THEY DON'T INVITE ME OUT?

    I have made an effort but right now i have given up. Next year i'm living alone due to poor socialising.
    I do have Autism, yes.

    if people don't invite you out, how about inviting out other people?

    And living alone is just going to make it worse. I currently live alone (I have no choice in that) and my social life currently involves speaking on Skype to a friend for 30 minutes a week and seeing my parents once a week. And running club if I can be bothered.
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    (Original post by Tiger Rag)
    I do have Autism, yes.

    if people don't invite you out, how about inviting out other people?

    And living alone is just going to make it worse. I currently live alone (I have no choice in that) and my social life currently involves speaking on Skype to a friend for 30 minutes a week and seeing my parents once a week. And running club if I can be bothered.
    I think we as a country need a serious consideration about how housing policy works, a lot of social problems are caused by isolation. We could do with building large communal areas (of say 600 people) with shared facilities. I think the results would be incredible.
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    I think we as a country need a serious consideration about how housing policy works, a lot of social problems are caused by isolation. We could do with building large communal areas (of say 600 people) with shared facilities. I think the results would be incredible.
    It won't solve the issue. Some of us can't cope with sharing with strangers. It's bad enough living in a flat with others living above me.
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    It won't solve the issue. Some of us can't cope with sharing with strangers. It's bad enough living in a flat with others living above me.
    Maybe you are right, I personally think the more you share with others the easier it will be though, speaking from experience, pro-social behaviour is a learning process.
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    I would try different social groups until you find a right fit and try to learn to enjoy your own company.

    Sorry to hear about your experience.

    I'm on the spectrum.

    Thankfully I'm mostly indifferent about social things until I have dips like Friday nights for example. I generally feel devoid of purpose and lonely but I'm used to the feeling .
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    (Original post by whorace)
    Maybe you are right, I personally think the more you share with others the easier it will be though, speaking from experience, pro-social behaviour is a learning process.
    I fond it made things harder. At uni, I was forced to socialise. Whereas for the most part, I'm not now. I've just got to put up with someone thinking banging at 655am on a bloody Saturday morning is ok. And repeat throughout the day.
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    I would try different social groups until you find a right fit and try to learn to enjoy your own company.

    Sorry to hear about your experience.

    I'm on the spectrum.

    Thankfully I'm mostly indifferent about social things until I have dips like Friday nights for example. I generally feel devoid of purpose and lonely but I'm used to the feeling .
    It's painful . Can't find a group to fit in.

    And the fact i have four more years to go depresses me too
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    I do have Autism, yes.

    if people don't invite you out, how about inviting out other people?

    And living alone is just going to make it worse. I currently live alone (I have no choice in that) and my social life currently involves speaking on Skype to a friend for 30 minutes a week and seeing my parents once a week. And running club if I can be bothered.
    Well i'm sorry for you and this just proves how upsetting the disorder is. What year are you in university?
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    Well i'm sorry for you and this just proves how upsetting the disorder is. What year are you in university?
    I had to drop out
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    It's getting worse now Just saw my flatmate who is also coursemate hanging out, showing off.

    And i now wake up everyday at 3pm. I can't cope anymore in uni thanks to this unfornate disease :cry2:
 
 
 
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