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    Can someone help me or give me advice please

    I am 21 and female at uni and about a month ago I lost my virginity to a friend which I am all fine about. But it was extremely sore and painful especially because when I had sex that was literally the first thing ever to enter me. My best friend told me to diy and start masturbating about 6 months ago and I bought a few sex toys.. But to this day I can't diy it.. I have tried using my sex toys and my fingers to enter me and I honesty can't.. I am too afraid of something entering me (I was so scared when having sex) and I can't pleasure myself.. I really want to do it but it's embarrassing me now because my friend couldn't believe that I haven't been able to get something in me myself and I have also never had an orgasm..I am almost 22.... how can I get over this. Also I don't think i'll be hooking up with people as I am not lucky that way to get boys so I guess I'll need to pleasure myself.

    Sorry for the long message but can someone help me out please, it genuinely upsets me.. http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/imag...lies/frown.png
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    Most women don't masturbate via putting something in their vagina.

    So starting by learning to have an orgasm first, usually via stimulating your clitoris via fingers or a vibrator, and then adding penetration to that would be more likely to work than going for penetration first.

    Good books to read include For Yourself: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality by Lonnie Barbach, and Becoming Orgasmic: A sexual and personal growth programme for women by Julia R. Heiman and Joseph LoPiccolo, amongst others.
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    Explore yourself, she (your vagina) doesn't bite.

    Start with your nipples and clitoris as they're external then progress onto something else if you want.

    Relax, explore when you know nobody will walk in or disturb you, enjoy yourself.
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    (Original post by Findlay6)
    Explore yourself, she (your vagina) doesn't bite.

    Start with your nipples and clitoris as they're external then progress onto something else if you want.

    Relax, explore when you know nobody will walk in or disturb you, enjoy yourself.
    What a cringey response. I'm sure OP knows her vagina doesn't "bite". She isn't 6 years old

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