Relationship Problems - It's long but I need help.

I can see where your comin from and how difficult everything must be.

But from my point of view, u have already been very supportive and loving to someone you havent been seeing for that long.

In my opinion, he needs to grow up. Sure there cant be reasons why you may have a hard time at jobs and stuff, but when ur employed and u hate ur job u should leave, not wait untill your fired.

He needs to start supporting himself than relying on his family so much, he has been working 5 years so should know how to take care of himself more.

In my opinion u have done more than your fair share. I can see why u wanna still be with him cos he may be a great guy, but he has really got to grow up a bit in respect to looking after himself.

If u do everything he will slowly rely on u more and more.
You are still at a stage when ur not totaly inseperable, so i reckon u should tell him ur on his side , but only if he starts to do things for himself

If you dont, then it will get worse

Also, u seem alot more keen on him than he does. You have a right to know where you stand so ask him that. Having a girlfreind doesnt mean u cant have freinds

I hope everything turns out ok.

Well this is quite a long story but I really dont know what to do anymore. I hae been sort of seeing this guy for a couple of months now and during that time its been one problem after another but I still really like him. He got sacked from his first job but managed to get another one quite quickly as he has worked since he left school at 16 - he's 21 now.

Things seemed to be going well for us but then he lost this second job as well he hated it from the start and it was due to a lot of reasons that I wont go into. Thats when things started to go wrong for us I tried to support him the best I could applying for jobs etc but so far no luck. Then out of the blue one morning about three weeks ago I got a text from from him saying how he still wanted to see me just not go out with me like boyfriend and girlfriend because he wanted to see his mates more. I was really mad but we managed to talk this through and the way we had both been feeling. Well that same night he got a text from his mum saying how she had had enough of him and that he needed to sort himself out and that he should find somewhere else to live and make himself homeless. During the whole of the next week I once again supported him ringing up housing accosiations etc but this past week everything has gone wrong between us.

He had a fight with his stepdad resulting in the police been called and his stepdad said that if he ever came back into the house then he would leave his mum. I think this guy feels really unloved as if everyone is pushing him out then a couple of days ago he went to Manchester from Leeds as he has family there, his head is really messed up and he doesnt seem to know how long he will be gone for, if he is staying or what is happening between us.

I really want to support him as he has had a tough time but I just dont know if he cares about me anymore or if hes not making an effort because he has loads of stuff going on. I dont know whether or not I should ring him either or wait for him to get in contact with me I did try earlier but he was with all his mates down there who has hasnt seen in ages so I couldnt really speak to him properly and he said that he would try and ring me back but he has no credit on his phone. So should I leave it a couple of days and then try again all I realy want to know is what is happening between us and if he is planning to come back to Leeds but it seems he doesnt know either.

A lot of my friends say he is too much trouble and hat I should move on which to some extent I think is true but I dont want to give u on him either as he has so many good points.

I really need help and would appreciate other people's advice. Thanks.