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need_money

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I know how you feel need_money. Where is he? :frown:

Reply 3

Angelil

19

Why are you still with him after your previous posts on this forum about him?

I can appreciate that you're finding it frustrating, but I think a lot of people here are starting to feel rather frustrated with your situation...you have the power to change your situation and yet you won't :confused:

Reply 4

Saffie

11

you must have other things you can do with your time? Why dont you get a job or just enjoy the freedom. Go to the park and do college work or go swimming or hang out with friends.

It sounds like you only have him to talk to and he's just not around? And he really should see you if he booked the day off for your anniversary.

Reply 5

decky1989

1

just get a bf who isnt a workaholic and spends more time with you! :smile:

sorry if i sound ignorant

Reply 6

Mrs_F

15

You MUST have other things in your life other than your boyfriend - that is not healthy for anyone.

Make time to spend with friends and family.
Pamper yourself on your days when you have nothing to do - don't just sit their sulking about your boyfriend being at work!

Reply 7

Tag

8

1) get a life. It is unhealthy to depend so much on one person. Get a part-time job or do volunteer work, take up a hobby, and instrument, exercise, or start another class or something.

2) I can understand him working to pay for rent, pay off debts or saving for a holiday or mortgage or something. but for a student to choose to work through your first real anniversary?
he needs a better excuse why he deserves to be in a relationship with you. and fast.

Reply 8

Marie05

1

Make something good out of yourself. It sounds like your entire life works around your bf. Do stuff for yourself. Go out with friends, educate yourself, do courses that you might enjoy, get more skills, get a job, get a hobby..

Reply 9

Aline

3

need_money, I'm in the exactly same situation. Whe I got in to college my friends entered another uni and as I lived far from uni and don't have car, I couldn't go out with my new mates and then I stayed alone. my boyfriend was my only company and now he's working abroad and I'm all alone. The worst is that he doesn't have time for me and I miss him so much, we're having problems and I thought about breaking up but I can't do that because I love him and I have no one else.

Reply 10

ßlαcksωαn

17

Sorry but don't say stuff you don't mean. So you miss your bf, it doesn't mean you have to go around saying you don't see a point to your life.

PM me if you want a website/forum about that.

Reply 11

toth8

3

need_money

And can't

I just feel so so so depressed. Like life isn't even worth living anymore. Really feel alone. My boyfriend just got a job and he works every single day including weekend where he doesn't even know when he finishes up so I don't get to see him as much as I used to.

Unless I'm at college (I'm only there Monday, Tuesday and then Wednesday afternoon) I just sit in my house all day waiting 'til I can see him as I have nothing else to do and I feel totally trapped.

I'm particularly upset as tomorrow is our one year anniversary and we have the choice to spend the day together as he is getting the day off work but he says he might choose to go to work anyways. He says he loves me and that he thinks it's good that he works a lot 'cause then he appreciates seeing me even more but I don't think I can stand this anymore.

I really don't know what to do about anything and it's like my feelings are so bottled up now I might just explode!

Come back when you have real problems.

Reply 12

username47781

20

Well you need a life outside your boyfriend, it sounds like you are very clingy, I thought you broke up with him anyway, according to this thread at least http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=383831

Reply 13

Angrybanana

11

It's my life

Well you need a life outside your boyfriend, it sounds like you are very clingy, I thought you broke up with him anyway, according to this thread at least http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=383831

Yeah, I was just wondering about that. Your relationship generally sounds pretty stormy. It seems that you're depressed because as other users have pointed out, you are defined by your relationship. You need to create something else to focus on. It must be quite suffocating for your bf to know how much you depend on him.

Reply 14

Trigger

18

le sigh, you are too young to be boxing yourself into a corner.

Reply 15

hubba_bubba_nightmare

you cant allow u'r bf 2 dictate u'r life, you need 2 do sumthin cuz sittin around just waiting 4 him 2 cum back 2 u aint healthy do sumtin wiv u'r life watch telly, excerise do sumtin but dont just sit around and mope cuz dats a watse of time. And not meaning 2 b rude but i think its a bit dodgy that u'r bf wud rather work than celebrate u'r anniversary 2getha...

Reply 16

Dinendal Leralonde

1

Haha, warned for disgraceful grammar (well...I could see no other reason why it'd be a warned post). Whichever mod did that...I want your babies! Perhaps we could do it Arnie-Danny DeVito style :wink:

Now, I'm going to be frank. Please don't take any of this offensively, because it's not a criticism, it's just an observation.

You need to take a look at how good you have it compared to some people. You're young, you have a boyfriend, and you're at college, so obviously continuing your education for some purpose, which is a driving point.

Then you need to take a look at how good you could have it. Do something creative outside of college. Go to the gym, get a part time job, whatever. You say you feel trapped when sitting alone at home, so do something about it! Surely you have friends you can do stuff with.

And stop waiting for him to come do something for you. Relationships work both ways!

Reply 17

The Little Mermaid

It bothers me that you're so dependent on this guy. You're going to feel miserable, honestly, if you invest so much of your emotion into one solitary person. Please remember that he is just one human being. He can't fill your every waking moment. You need friends to talk to, not just him, and you need fun to have, which you can get from other sources. You need to realize this one person isn't your provider. You can do things without him, and smile without him, but really you've not given that a fair try yet. Maybe the relationship might feel less strained if you didn't put so much weight on it. For your own wellbeing, get out there, take up a hobby, go for a walk, randomly adopt a pet squirrel! It's okay to enjoy yourself without him. I really don't think he'll hold it against you. As for the anniversery thing? That's kind of harsh, honestly, but does he have any idea how much that hurt you? I mean, if he really loved you as he said, he can drop the workaholic routine for a day.