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Sounds pathetic....but!

My ex-girlfriend and I broke up a few months ago (went out for a year),her finishing with me because of lots of stress and we just started winding each other up because of it.We tried to be friends for a while,but it didn't work out because we were still attracted to each other,and stuff happened that perhaps shouldn't such as us coming onto each other.She said she didn't want a relationship,and she said that it was best if we cut off contact,not forever,but just for a while.

I agreed that if that was what she wanted,then maybe it was for the best. She still had some stuff of mine, that I really needed back (such as Revision Books), so I sent her a message simply saying 'Any chance that when you next see Bob (a friend of hers who she sees more often than me), u can give him the books back, as I really need them. Got a load of horrible message back, basically telling me that I had a cheek to ask for them, that I should just leave her alone. She said that she had come out of everything happier (quote "shame u didn't"), was over me, that I had caused her to be anorexic when we were dating by being nasty (I didn't!), and that I had caused her to feel that all I wanted was just sex (Totally, totally not true) during our relationship. She sounds nuts! I think she's under a lot of stress from other things at the moment, but it's all lies! I replied, saying that if that's how she felt, just leave it, and stop texting all this stuff. She replied "I will gladly leave you alone, you parasite, goodbye!"

Now that was 5 days ago. Before we dated, she was my best friend, and I feel so low and terrible. I haven't been sleeping since she cut off. I know I need to move on and leave it, but does anyone have any advice. :cool:

Reply 1

hixey101

She ssounds like a psycho mate! best leave her well alone, maybe one day she will contact you but dont contact her. It's for the best.

Reply 2

Shmish

I reckon that if she'd told you half of these things when you were dating, then maybe things would have worked out a bit better. Anyhoo, she didnt and thats probably why things stressed out so much btwn you both.

I think she's still feeling very bitter towards you. She sounds a bit complicated and wanting to lash out at u, even tho u feel like you havent done anything.

Best thing to do right now is to not contact her for at least a few weeks, otherwise you'll give her a reason to go mad at u again! It really really hurts so much when a breakup happens, and you kinda need to accept that you both might not be able to be friends for a very long time, if ever. You need to let the relationship go. It wont happen overnight but by not beating urself up about it and by not brooding about the relationship, the process of getting over it and letting it go will happen much quicker. Resist all temptations to contact her and just try to build yourself up again. Make sure your friends and family are near by if you feel like you need to talk to someone

Reply 3

Ozy

Well her not seeing you and if she hasn't been sleeping perhaps she has been going over things in her head, starting to believe things she invented. Can happened with lack of contact with a person (and the reality if what they are). I would go see her. If she gets any wose she could start to hate you..... :frown:

Reply 4

Saffie

you sound like a decent person. I'm sure she knows it too. Shes just venting her stress on you, just leave her be i guess. Sorry shes so harsh.

Reply 5

The_Bear

**** me! You need to buy yourself some protection because you have unleashed a psychopath.

Reply 6

Be thankful you are no longer with the nutjob and just move on.

Reply 7

hannah_dru

I'm afraid there's not really much you can do. If people don't want to talk, you can't really force them. It sucks, but you just have to move on.

Reply 8

stanmoor

Sounds like a complete nut case to me. I'd just leave it. Never speak to her again - your loss. Maybe she wants to keep your books as a way of remembering you? Lets hope she's not got any of your underwear to sniff on those lonely nights..