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    I applied to my dream course at my dream university. I didn't apply anywhere else, because I'm an idiot and thought "why settle for second best?". I recently had my interview and to be honest... it went really badly.
    I've been refreshing my emails every day, but I'm prepared for the bad news. I already have the grades, but this particular place doesn't really look at grades - it's more about your portfolio, personality and dedication. I have all three, I just didn't come across very well in my interview. I know this. I've kinda come to accept this, to accept that I've kinda blown my chance. I'm really disappointed in myself but I guess part of me is still hopeful.
    I'm bricking it. A whole year of mincing around, waiting to apply again - it's kinda unbearable. I'm a pretty impatient person.

    How do you deal with rejection on this scale? Any tips and techniques?
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    Rejection sucks. Got rejected from two universities I wanted to go to. I just accept it and deal with it, and hopefully I'll move on sometime soon.
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    (Original post by katmdb)
    I applied to my dream course at my dream university. I didn't apply anywhere else, because I'm an idiot and thought "why settle for second best?". I recently had my interview and to be honest... it went really badly.
    I've been refreshing my emails every day, but I'm prepared for the bad news. I already have the grades, but this particular place doesn't really look at grades - it's more about your portfolio, personality and dedication. I have all three, I just didn't come across very well in my interview. I know this. I've kinda come to accept this, to accept that I've kinda blown my chance. I'm really disappointed in myself but I guess part of me is still hopeful.
    I'm bricking it. A whole year of mincing around, waiting to apply again - it's kinda unbearable. I'm a pretty impatient person.

    How do you deal with rejection on this scale? Any tips and techniques?
    Don't give up hope until you actually get a rejection as it could be that university just takes a while to give replies or is waiting to interview everyone before they give a decision. However worst comes to worst you d be able to use UCAS extra and clearing and you d have plenty of time to find somewhere new to fall in love with.
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    (Original post by katmdb)
    I applied to my dream course at my dream university. I didn't apply anywhere else, because I'm an idiot and thought "why settle for second best?". I recently had my interview and to be honest... it went really badly.
    I've been refreshing my emails every day, but I'm prepared for the bad news. I already have the grades, but this particular place doesn't really look at grades - it's more about your portfolio, personality and dedication. I have all three, I just didn't come across very well in my interview. I know this. I've kinda come to accept this, to accept that I've kinda blown my chance. I'm really disappointed in myself but I guess part of me is still hopeful.
    I'm bricking it. A whole year of mincing around, waiting to apply again - it's kinda unbearable. I'm a pretty impatient person.

    How do you deal with rejection on this scale? Any tips and techniques?
    You haven't been rejected yet, which imho is a good sign. If you really, really blew the interview, you would have probably been rejected in a matter of days. The fact that you haven't been suggests that you are still being considered.

    However, the good news is you don't necessarily have to wait for next year, at least not if you're willing to consider other courses at other universities. UCAS Extra opens soon, which unis use to get more applicants for courses they haven't filled yet- you can apply for one course at a time, and there's usually a wide range of courses available. There might also be courses you're interested in available in clearing.

    If they do reject you, be kind to yourself, and take some time to think about plan B, whatever that might be. Don't rush into anything, but you may find there are other, good, options out there- whether that means finding something fun to do while you reapply, or moving on to look at other unis.

    Also, do remember, it's not rejection of you as a person, or your work- the admissions tutors can only compare what they see on the day, and they clicked with someone else better. It might even be a sign that you wouldn't have been as happy there as you imagined.
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    Don't think about it too much and wait until you get an answer if you are rejected, try and accept it and move on, I'm sure you'll find something else which can be your new dream course
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    (Original post by katmdb)
    How do you deal with rejection on this scale? Any tips and techniques?
    1) Wait until I actually know whether or not I've been rejected, before deciding that I've been rejected.
    2) Promise myself that I will never again build such elaborate imaginary scenarios upon which to base hypothetical future plans.
    3) Learn that playing Fantasy Failures will achieve nothing useful, regardless of whether the real outcome turns out to be positive or negative.
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    (Original post by katmdb)
    I applied to my dream course at my dream university. I didn't apply anywhere else, because I'm an idiot and thought "why settle for second best?". I recently had my interview and to be honest... it went really badly.
    I've been refreshing my emails every day, but I'm prepared for the bad news. I already have the grades, but this particular place doesn't really look at grades - it's more about your portfolio, personality and dedication. I have all three, I just didn't come across very well in my interview. I know this. I've kinda come to accept this, to accept that I've kinda blown my chance. I'm really disappointed in myself but I guess part of me is still hopeful.
    I'm bricking it. A whole year of mincing around, waiting to apply again - it's kinda unbearable. I'm a pretty impatient person.

    How do you deal with rejection on this scale? Any tips and techniques?
    On what scale? You haven't actually been rejected yet, have you? They have until May 8th to make you an offer or reject you, and until that date, an offer is still possible. Are you planning on spending the next 4 months in a state of self-induced gloom?
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    You haven't had their decision yet so (I know this is very hard) try and not predict the outcome of your application, it will only lead to anxiety etc. and, as far as you know, you might be given an offer
    If you do however get rejected please keep in mind when you receive this dissapointing news that it isn't the end of the world. Yes, you will feel miserable for a bit, and might need to cry or scream or whatever, but a few weeks later it won't feel half as bad
    If you do get rejected and then re-apply next year I woudl recommend applying to other courses which you are excited about, for example one which inclued a year abroad if this interests you, so you will have something elsa to look forward to if you don't get in to your first choice.
    I also agree with Klix88's 2).

    In january I got rejected from Oxford. I'm not going to lie: being rejected by your dream uni sucks. I gave myself a bit of time to cry and feel sry for myself and then pulled myself together and got my january exams done. Now i can honestly say i'm ok with my rejection and can even laugh about it I found getting over it was made easier by the fact that other courses I've applied to have a year abroad which I really want to do as I'm now focusing of looking forward to that rather than looking back at my rejection

    I hope you get in though! Best of luck!
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    Rejection is part of our lives. We just have to deal with it once it happened. The only thing that we can do is to pick the details that made the rejection/s. Practice not to commit them again. And do better next time. Before you know it. You're living the dream. What uni is this btw?

    I myself suffered from rejections before 3 Universities rejected me based on my grades (I wasn't paying too much attention before during my senior high). Now, I am in this known uni here in london because my family know someone who works here. Honestly, I feel bad, There are other individuals who deserve more than I do. I actually wanted to study abroad with the help of Diversity Abroad, a company that helped a family friend of mine. I'm planning on applying and study the next semester.

    Anyway, rejection hurts like hell, but use that to not mess up again.
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    There's always extra/clearing

    But as others have said, you haven't even been rejected yet!
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    Succeed elsewhere.
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    Okay, so I was pretty not paying too much attention on the details.....again.. hahaha.

    So the due date of their decision isn't done yet so technically you aren't rejected. YET. lol

    Keep your hopes up my friend!
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    Okay, so I'm excited to know if they already emailed you. I hope you get it.
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    But don't you think that other uni might be able to satisfy your educational needs, too? Maybe you should try other unis as well.
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    As previous commenters have said, don't be so sure until you've heard back. How many times have you come out of an exam thinking you'd done awfully, only to get it back and find it was fine? And the interviewers will know people are nervous. They probably noticed good things about the way you came across, too - things you take for granted having known yourself for so long!

    But, fair enough; you could well be rejected. It happened to me (not just one but three US colleges I'd applied to). Luckily I had wanted to take a gap year anyway, so that part wasn't a problem. But what I found was that having the extra year to make my decisions gave me the time I needed to decide what I wanted to study (the US gives you longer to delay specialising, which was why I wanted to go) and then find the course I wanted here in the UK. I did that, applied again on my gap year (while working an amazing job that I love) and got into my first choice as well as the other four I applied to.

    I can say in all honesty that I am delighted and relieved that it worked out the way it did. Cheesy as it can sound, and lacking as the science is behind it, sometimes it's like a sign that it wasn't meant to be. Not always, of course - sometimes things just don't work out how they should, and it sucks - but don't be so sure you can't find something equally good or better than what you had planned. Things don't always go to plan, and that's OK, and you can be content or even very happy about it after a time.

    That effect isn't immediate, I'll be the first to admit; I got back after the holiday I got my rejections, went to my first class of the term and spent the best part of an hour crying, feeling hopeless and with no idea what I was going to do now. My teacher got up a UCAS search and started finding courses I could consider doing, and we took it from there. She said we'd show 'em! Made me giggle through my tears. And she said that I had to focus on taking my A2 exams and then I'd get my results and, whatever they were, work out what I would do with them.

    And that's what I did. Eventually I got used to the fact that I hadn't got in, and managed to get my head in a place to think forward. I took my exams, went on some open days, and in June last year I looked round the university I have decided on. I'd had a "this is it! This is where I'm going" moment with one of the colleges that rejected me, so I wasn't hopeful I'd get another one, but I did. And it's cheaper and closer to home and it's beautiful, and I'm so glad for everything that stopped me from making a choice which, in hindsight, was the wrong one.

    So, until you get your offer or rejection, try to keep your mind on your schoolwork, because you'll need your results either way. You could also have a look into UCAS Extra and think about other possible options, just as an activity to help you consider alternatives ahead of time if your fingers are itching to do something application-related. Then, if you are rejected, take some time to rant or cry or yell and get it out your system however works best for you; then, get your mind back on your work. Look at UCAS Extra if you want to, or decide that you will take a year out (you can work - even a low-paid job will be money worth having - and possibly travel) and leave the planning until after you take your exams. There are always, always options so don't lose hope!
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    Olivia hit it on the head. Just manage your expectations, but don't beat yourself up over it because it's out of your hands now. Focus on the things you can control. Good luck, and chin up!
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    If you only applied to 1 uni you can add 4 more applications on ucas


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    The world doesn't stop just because you messed up one time. I'm not saying you messed up, there is still hope, but what i'm pointing out is don't settle for just one university. You mentioned that you thought "why settle for second best?", that is an ambitious thought, but it is completely okay, I just hope you consider as well that you might find growth, not only academically wise, but a personal growth when you enroll in a different uni? What do you think about that?
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    (Original post by katmdb)
    I applied to my dream course at my dream university. I didn't apply anywhere else, because I'm an idiot and thought "why settle for second best?". I recently had my interview and to be honest... it went really badly.
    In addition to the other great advice, please note that interviewees are terrible at judging how well their interview went. Honestly.

    Also the interview is just one part of the application. Even if it didn't go so well it doesn't mean it was a deal-breaker.





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    I was going to reply but I honestly think Olivia has got it, and wrote it far more eloquently than I ever could, so if you only take one reply to heart make sure its hers.

    I just want to add that from the sounds of it you're a fantastic applicant for that course, but you just had a bad day when you went to the interview. Don't beat yourself up because you clearly know that you are an able candidate, and a passionate one. Take a gap year, have a break from studying and apply again full of enthusiasm to return to education. Universities really like - even prefer - mature students/those who have taken a gap year because they are more likely to settle down and get their heads down to work rather than partying too much because they are sick of successive exams since their early teens.

    I wish you all the luck in the world, and whether you go to your dream uni this year, next year, or in five years, I know you will do brilliantly
 
 
 
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