Boyfriend issues

I always feel like whatever my boyfriend is doing is not good enough or that he is letting me down in someway. When I look at it from a more detatched perspective he isn't. He may be unreliable and illogical sometimes but then who isn't. What does this mean? Can I stop feeling like this?

Reply 1

decky1989

1

solve the anagram (two words!) mupd ihm

Reply 2

RoyalsFan

11

If your not happy, then split with him. The longer you leave it, the harder it will be on the both of you.

Reply 3

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3

It is quite clear what the problem is, you are a nutjob. :smile:

Reply 4

spacecowgirl89

1

I wouldn't dump him. Everyone can be illogical and unreliable sometimes..I mean, most guys are :p:

*waits for rush of guys to disagree* (then again, so can a lot of women!) I used to feel like you in my relationship, what do you feel let down about? Maybe your expectations are just too high. After all, you can't expect too much from them! :wink:

Reply 5

mooseisabunny

OP

maybe not, but stuff like remembering at the last minute he has to be somewhere and cant come over, going out with a friend when he promised to see me...
I dont want to dump him though, espescially at the moment ewhen we both have exams and stuff

Reply 6

hannah_dru

2

mooseisabunny

I dont want to dump him though, espescially at the moment ewhen we both have exams and stuff

That was what stopped me from doing it up until last week. Trust me, if you're having doubts, even if you have exams it is better to break it off sometimes. It could be better for you in terms of exams.

Reply 7

Shmish

you dont need to be worrying about this during exams. Try and put it to one side for now (thats what im doing with all of my problems because I seriously cant be bothered to fail!) But i dont think you should dump him before your exams - will you feel crapper and therefore not be able to do your work? also, be fair on him and think about his exams too. You both dont need this right now

After your exams, talk to your boyfriend about what's bothering you. If you constantly brood about how "crap" he's being then talk to him about it! My friend's going through the same issues as you with her boyfriend and a lot of it is because they just dont talk! Theres no communication! How can you have a relationship without trust and communication?

And also, try and see if actually it's your expectations that are making you feel like this, and see if you can chill out a bit about his attitude to life, coz it sounds like you're both quite different in terms of how you act under pressure and how you manage your time

Reply 8

spacecowgirl89

1

mooseisabunny

maybe not, but stuff like remembering at the last minute he has to be somewhere and cant come over, going out with a friend when he promised to see me...
I dont want to dump him though, espescially at the moment ewhen we both have exams and stuff

Man, that sounds like my ex. Give him a taste of his own medicine - make plans with your girl friends and do things on your own, then see how he likes it. Spend time away from him and say you haven't got time to see him right now, and then you'll see if he really wants to be in a relationship or not - it'll give him the kick up the bum to make an effort!

Reply 9

la fille danse

17

You sound like my ex. I treated him absolutely fantastically (and still do), but it was never good enough for him.

Maybe you should think more about how YOU'RE treating HIM?

Reply 10

Triplet1

13

more adventurous

Maybe you should think more about how YOU'RE treating HIM?

You expect to much ;yes; Just be happy with who he is, if thats what you want.

Reply 11

Jelkin

17

mooseisabunny

I always feel like whatever my boyfriend is doing is not good enough or that he is letting me down in someway. When I look at it from a more detatched perspective he isn't. He may be unreliable and illogical sometimes but then who isn't. What does this mean? Can I stop feeling like this?

I'm often like this as well. My boyfriend actually does very little wrong and in most respects is perfect, but I always end up getting annoyed for almost no reason. He's really patient and laid back though, and often apologises, and afterwards I always apologise because I end up feeling really guilty. I'm hoping that sometime soon I'll sort of snap out of it. I think I probably will and perhaps you will too?

I can't really help you though - otherwise perhaps I could help myself! Don't automatically dump him because you find faults in him. Have you tried talking to him?

Reply 12

Tyler Durden

17

mooseisabunny

I always feel like whatever my boyfriend is doing is not good enough or that he is letting me down in someway. When I look at it from a more detatched perspective he isn't. He may be unreliable and illogical sometimes but then who isn't. What does this mean? Can I stop feeling like this?

I'd ditch him for his sake. :smile:

(Not only because you sound like a pain in the ass, but mainly because you use the word "huggles" in your signature.)

Reply 13

username47781

20

Either start appreciating him or dump him, but it's your loss by the sounds of things.

Reply 14

mooseisabunny

OP

Ok, I do not and have never used the term huggles
Now down to the point in hand rather than stupid asides.
I treat him well too, whenever he wants me he gets me. If he asks me to ring I do, if he asks me over I come. He would also agree there that is not the issue.
We talk about it a lot but tbh theres not really a lot he can do about it is there? If he is just being him and that is what irritates me. I just need him to be a bit more organised and reliable. If he can't see me I'm cool with that, we both lead separate lives, it is the last minute thing that annoys me.

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