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scared of sex
my boyfriend and I ( of 6 months) are talking about sex and we both feel we are ready for it, and he is a lovely guy and sed he will wait for however long it takes and will never rush me, so i know i have nothing to worry about. I was fine talking about it earlier and never felt happier, but now im just so scared, and i feel really uneasy thinking about it and iv started crying now and i feel terrified. Im not sure how to cope, i know i am goin to start crying when we are about to do it, coz im a really shy person and i hate myself and i fall to peices under situations like that.
any advise on how to feel comftorble?? do u think i am not ready for it after all even when i was so sure that i was ?
thnx x
any advise on how to feel comftorble?? do u think i am not ready for it after all even when i was so sure that i was ?
thnx x
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well...difficult, but eventho he might be the right person, seriously if ya not ready (and it doesnt sound like you are) dont do it, simple as...
I know this isnt a great piece of advice, but you wont be crying and all sorts when it deffo is the right guy and the right time...
Dont worry hun!
I know this isnt a great piece of advice, but you wont be crying and all sorts when it deffo is the right guy and the right time...
Dont worry hun!
The fact that you are questioning, means you are not ready for it yet.
yea i spose i had to write my feelings on here in order for me to understand myself more.
If you're afraid of sex, then don't have sex.
There are plenty of other things you can do intimately and you'll find that when you're ready for sex you won't be afraid of it at all - it will (mostly) come naturally. (and clumsily
)
There are plenty of other things you can do intimately and you'll find that when you're ready for sex you won't be afraid of it at all - it will (mostly) come naturally. (and clumsily
)
doesnt sound like you're ready. but seriously don't rush into it just cuz you feel you have to. it shouldnt be a big deal and it will happen naturally and easy when you're ready. you can always do other stuff to 'warm' you up and see where it goes from there. if you're still scared, just give it time. i remember how scared i was but my boyfriend was wonderfully supportive and caring. he was really considerate and actually asked for permission (LoL) to make sure he wasnt doing anything i didnt like. and you can always tell him if it hurts too bad, and tell him to stop! (or just stick it out).
Good Luck and dont be scared! :-)
Good Luck and dont be scared! :-)
Have you been sexually abused in the past or heard horror sex stories?
There should be no need for you to be scared of sex. As everyone has said don't do it if you are scared. I think you should talk it through with your boyfriend maybe talk about what it will involve or somthing, so you know exactly what it involves..have you done anything sexual before with yourself or anyone? Sex should be enjoyable not a thing to make you horrified.
There should be no need for you to be scared of sex. As everyone has said don't do it if you are scared. I think you should talk it through with your boyfriend maybe talk about what it will involve or somthing, so you know exactly what it involves..have you done anything sexual before with yourself or anyone? Sex should be enjoyable not a thing to make you horrified.
~cherrykisses~
my boyfriend and I ( of 6 months) are talking about sex and we both feel we are ready for it, and he is a lovely guy and sed he will wait for however long it takes and will never rush me, so i know i have nothing to worry about. I was fine talking about it earlier and never felt happier, but now im just so scared, and i feel really uneasy thinking about it and iv started crying now and i feel terrified. Im not sure how to cope, i know i am goin to start crying when we are about to do it, coz im a really shy person and i hate myself and i fall to peices under situations like that.
any advise on how to feel comftorble?? do u think i am not ready for it after all even when i was so sure that i was ?
thnx x
any advise on how to feel comftorble?? do u think i am not ready for it after all even when i was so sure that i was ?
thnx x
Contradiction, much?
Whatever happens Chuck, Good luck! xxx
Profesh
Contradiction, much?
Shes just questioning herself thats all Profesh,its not unusual! xxx
When you say not comfortable and hate yourself, do you mean with your body image? Because I was worried about being naked so intimately with someone. I actually kept a t-shirt on the first time and my boyfriend of the time was fine with it. You could do that too.
But yeah, what are you exactly scared of? That'll hurt? That you'll get pregnant?
But yeah, what are you exactly scared of? That'll hurt? That you'll get pregnant?
going to jump on the bandwagon and say chances are youre not ready. if you dont think you can feel comfortable in the situation you shouldnt put yourself in it. your boyfriend said he will never rush you, but to me, you give the impression that you feel rushed.
you should try and work out why youre so afraid, whats holding you back and whether you actually are comfortable enough with your boyfriend.
it can be scary the first time, talking about its one thing but doing it is a whole different kettle of fish. you may want to talk to your boyfriend about how you feel at the moment, just so he knows and can try to make you feel better (not convince you to do it though)
it may be best to put it off until you know why you feel like you feel. it could be nerves but it sounds abit too much for apprehension
you should try and work out why youre so afraid, whats holding you back and whether you actually are comfortable enough with your boyfriend.
it can be scary the first time, talking about its one thing but doing it is a whole different kettle of fish. you may want to talk to your boyfriend about how you feel at the moment, just so he knows and can try to make you feel better (not convince you to do it though)
it may be best to put it off until you know why you feel like you feel. it could be nerves but it sounds abit too much for apprehension
It kinda clearly shows that your not ready for sex. Therefore wait until you are 100% and ready. Take time.
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