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    (Original post by BrokenLife)
    Yes. I need to connect with the guy before I have sex with him.

    I've craved for love, respect, care and understanding for 21 years of my life and so I'm now used to not getting that. Hence, I'll wait whole my life for this guy who provides me all that. I don't want to be product for any man. I want to connect with him and I want him to connect with me. If this happens, sex would be my priority. Trust me.
    Good on you it will happen - you will find the right person.

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    (Original post by stefano865)
    Yep. Your posts are probably more mature than the average 21 year old.

    I guess the average age for losing your virginity is about 16 I think. That is why I thought you were younger.

    I have never had a 'proper' girlfriend.

    I think not loving a girlfriend is not a problem. Providing neither of you see a long-term future.
    Then what's the point of having a partner if you don't see the long term? Shouldn't you totally invest yourself in someone if you know you'll end up with them down the line?

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    (Original post by kandykissesxox)
    Probably wasn't the right person hence your experience wasn't as enjoyable as it could have been.
    It wasn't due to the girl at all. She was hot and we really liked each other.

    It was due to a combination of factors, all of which I eventually dealt with. Didn't have any problems for the remainder of the relationship and it was good that I dealt with that hurdle at the age of 17, when you can **** up without repercussions.
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    (Original post by dairychocolate)
    It wasn't due to the girl at all. She was hot and we really liked each other.

    It was due to a combination of factors, all of which I eventually dealt with. Didn't have any problems for the remainder of the relationship and it was good that I dealt with that hurdle at the age of 17, when you can **** up without repercussions.

    That's actually very true, at least in the future you can walk into a relationship knowing how to deal with certain issues that may arise.

    I thought one of the reasons you didn't enjoy it was because you may not have formed an emotional attachment with the girl but yeah I understand.
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    I'm a proud virgin, umad?
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    (Original post by kandykissesxox)
    That's actually very true, at least in the future you can walk into a relationship knowing how to deal with certain issues that may arise.

    I thought one of the reasons you didn't enjoy it was because you may not have formed an emotional attachment with the girl but yeah I understand.
    Nah it was mainly a result of watching porn since year 7, among some other factors. I'm being candid as it's a problem a fair few guys have had and there's no point skirting around it. I got a wakeup call at 17 and I was able to clean up my act before it became a problem in later life.
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    (Original post by dairychocolate)
    Nah it was mainly a result of watching porn since year 7, among some other factors. I'm being candid as it's a problem a fair few guys have had and there's no point skirting around it. I got a wakeup call at 17 and I was able to clean up my act before it became a problem in later life.
    What do you mean?

    Are you saying that hindered sex being good?
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    (Original post by dairychocolate)
    Nah it was mainly a result of watching porn since year 7, among some other factors. I'm being candid as it's a problem a fair few guys have had and there's no point skirting around it. I got a wakeup call at 17 and I was able to clean up my act before it became a problem in later life.
    It seems like all of the problems you encountered came from your side such as the porn and what not (which shouldn't really have any impact on your sexual performance unless you have this expectation that sex will be like porn when in fact the two are completely different).
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    (Original post by TheonlyMrsHolmes)
    What do you mean?

    Are you saying that hindered sex being good?
    I'm going to bed. Remind me tomorrow/today and I'll explain via pm.
    (Original post by kandykissesxox)
    It seems like all of the problems you encountered came from your side such as the porn and what not (which shouldn't really have any impact on your sexual performance unless you have this expectation that sex will be like porn when in fact the two are completely different).
    Yeah, I was the problem. As I said, it wasn't the girl.

    The bit in brackets is false.
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    (Original post by TheonlyMrsHolmes)
    I want to be that girl XD
    lmao you want to be that girl who doesn't really enjoy sex?
    I would hate to be that girl ... each to their own
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    (Original post by Justmoll28)
    and who you lost it to? why/why not?
    Considering it was someone I'd only met the day before and we arranged to meet up again in the corner of a field... I'd say neither of us placed much importance on it.
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    Why would I be bothered? I had fun

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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    lmao you want to be that girl who doesn't really enjoy sex?
    I would hate to be that girl ... each to their own
    No, I obviously meant that I don't want to make such a huge deal out of something that shouldn't really be a huge deal. It's only a "life changing experience" for women because that's how girls were taught to view their virginity, and still are.

    Virginity is personal though, if you want it to be a "life changing experience", then so be it. Each to their own....
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    I didn't place any particular importance on it. I suppose I'm glad that it happened with somebody I was seeing at the time but I wouldn't have cared very much if it had been someone else. To me it is just sex, I've never considered it a big deal.
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    Is it never ever an emotional experience for men?


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    Yes of course it can be. It all depends on circumstances. I guess a lot of guys see virginity almost as a badge of shame. They make up stories that they have lost it/had lots of girls even though they havent. The other thing of course is that losing it might be a confusing experience due to lack of experience and being too excited about it all.
 
 
 
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