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Falling for someone else when in a relationship...
ah I have been with my boyfriend for 8 months and I do really love him but the other week we had an argument and he refused to come out with me even though we'd plan to go to a party together. So I went alone and got quite tipsy and spent alot of the night with one of my male friends, nothing happened but we were a bit flirty. I had alot of fun and find myself feeling attracted to him and thinking about him alot... I'm not sure what to do because I love my boyfriend but surely I shouldnt be thinking about other guys? do I just try and ignore these feelings? I'm confused... x x
I don't understand why people think that just because you're in a relationship your brain switches off and you don't notice anyone - of course you do! It's perfectly normal to feel attracted to other people, you're the same person you were before you met your bf so why wouldn't you find other people attractive (unless you honestly believe in soulmates). It's what you do about it that matters, and if you love your bf then the the answer to that is ziltch.
Actually, according to her last post her boyfriend has been well out of order and the fact you are liking this other guy, is tell tell signs that things are not good with your boyfriend.
Grass is sometimes greener on the other side. It happens sometimes...
Actually it wasn't this OP who'se boyfriend was out of order. But anyway I think it is normal to find other guys attractive during a relationship as long as you don't act upon it.
It's my life
Actually, according to her last post her boyfriend has been well out of order and the fact you are liking this other guy, is tell tell signs that things are not good with your boyfriend.
coldplasma
Don't be silly, it's natural for partners to feel attracted to other people, even if the relationship is fine.
Er that's what I just said, that it is normal
MissyP
i agree with what you said. Its natural to like other people and its ok to be a bit flirty just along as you dont act upon it. Just enjoy life.
so true. Don't go too far though! You may end up regretting it! 
See, personally I've never actually fallen for anyone else while I've been in a relationship. There's a difference between thinking someones attractive or maybe flirting a bit, and actually really liking them, and I think I'd be kinda worried if I started to really like someone else whilst in a relationship. Maybe that's just me though..
Like Seoid said, being in a relationship doesnt switch off your attraction to other people, it just means you should be faithful to your bf or gf.
I think the rule is , you can look but dont touch :P
Its perfectly ok to like talking to your male friends a lot, they can give just as much as female friends can.
The fact thats your feeling attracted to him could just be becausethe most common male in your life was currently hurting you and out of the picture and your male friend filled that void for that short space of time , not as a bf but as someone who can make you feel better .
It isnt a bad thing
I think the rule is , you can look but dont touch :P
Its perfectly ok to like talking to your male friends a lot, they can give just as much as female friends can.
The fact thats your feeling attracted to him could just be becausethe most common male in your life was currently hurting you and out of the picture and your male friend filled that void for that short space of time , not as a bf but as someone who can make you feel better .
It isnt a bad thing
Sorry, but I think flirting with someone else, whilst in a relationship, is unacceptable, as it is sexual behaviour, in a sense. The exception to this is if a couple have a mutual agreement with one another, that they don't mind each other doing this. Let's hear you honestly say that you would be perfectly happy, were you to learn that your bf had done the equivalent thing with a girl.
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