Single- So confusing

I guess I'm not the only one who thinks being single is ridiculously confusing:
:confused:

Never knowing the other persons intentions and then the intentions turn out to be not what you want.
They turn out to be gay.
You liking them, but not their lifestyle choices.
You liking them but them appearing not to like you.
Them liking you, but your not attracted to them.
Oh the confusion of being single.
I want someone to share the stories of their confusion of being single and give me some uplifting advice.
:confused:

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Reply 1

ßlαcksωαn

magic_unicorn

They turn out to be gay.

Sorry, but I just thought this was funny, it's never happened to me but I would laugh alot if it did.

Reply 2

Vampyrcorn

Imagine if you were in a relationship but you found out that your partner wasn't real, and was only in your mind - a figment of your imagination. :eek2:

Now that would be weird. :eek3:

So in a way, (albeit a slightly odd way), being single isn't that bad. At least you know you aren't dating a fictional character. :s-smilie:

Reply 3

ßlαcksωαn

Vampyrcorn

Imagine if you were in a relationship but you found out that your partner wasn't real, and was only in your mind - a figment of your imagination. :eek2:

Now that would be weird. :eek3:

So in a way, (albeit a slightly odd way), being single isn't that bad. At least you know you aren't dating a fictional character. :s-smilie:

This has happened to you hasn't it? :p:

And by the way living in singleton isn't that bad. It means you can flirt with anyone, not worry about someone else half your time and just have fun.

Reply 4

lengy

I've had all of that... FROM THE ONE PERSON!!! ARGH!!! :frown:

Except the gay part.

Reply 5

RL99

Hmm, I can certainly sympathise with this. I'm quite a picky man (hence I don't fancy many of the girls I meet, and I don't meet enough in the first place), and then when I find one who I like they're just as picky as I am so they don't like me back. Which is quite demoralising...but then I suppose I have no right to complain.
Isn't there a singles society for this sort of thing? All I ever seem to see on there is random chat though... :confused:

Reply 6

L i b

Vampyrcorn

Imagine if you were in a relationship but you found out that your partner wasn't real, and was only in your mind - a figment of your imagination. :eek2:

That'd be brilliant - complete self sufficiency.

The sex might be a bit lacklustre though.

Reply 7

Zoecb

blackswan

Sorry, but I just thought this was funny, it's never happened to me but I would laugh alot if it did.

It's not funny it's highly frustrating. It's especially easy to have this happen to you at uni cos some don't even know they're gay, they're kind of in a closet-y denial, but it becomes obvious to you, if not them.

Reply 8

ScarecrowJack

Vampyrcorn

Imagine if you were in a relationship but you found out that your partner wasn't real, and was only in your mind - a figment of your imagination. :eek2:

Now that would be weird. :eek3:

So in a way, (albeit a slightly odd way), being single isn't that bad. At least you know you aren't dating a fictional character. :s-smilie:

I think you've planted a seed for a nagging fear that I will have for the rest of my life :frown:

Reply 9

Talya

Vampyrcorn

Imagine if you were in a relationship but you found out that your partner wasn't real, and was only in your mind - a figment of your imagination. :eek2:

Now that would be weird. :eek3:

Come to think of it.. people always give me a weird look when I introduce my boyfriend..

Reply 10

gRaDiUs

Talya

Come to think of it.. people always give me a weird look when I introduce my boyfriend..

I didn't want to say nething at the time, but.....

Reply 11

puppy

Then don't go out with them? I don't understand what's confusing. Being single isn't a disease.

Reply 12

dusk

no... bit lonely though!

I think an imaginery one will be the way to go... they'll always be there when I want them, can never tell me off... and I could have 3 at the same time!

Reply 13

tRG

To the OP:-

My confusion: whether a relationship would work if the girl's a non vegetarian and the guy's a vegetarian...or vice versa.. :s and not doing anything about feelings because of that..

Reply 14

*Claire*

Imaginary boyfriends always do what you want, but they don't give very good cuddles!

Reply 15

Yoda

Never knowing the other persons intentions and then the intentions turn out to be not what you want.
You're either fine with it or you're not. Its not a hard decision.
They turn out to be gay.
Yoda has never had this problem. Though perhaps being friends may help you meet people.
You liking them, but not their lifestyle choices.
Again, you must accept or reject this. Are you looking for something long term? Yoda normally does not care for he will not know them long.
You liking them but them appearing not to like you.
Again, it is either finding out, or moving on. It is not that hard.
Them liking you, but your not attracted to them.
This is a clear no.

Are you telling us you are indecisive, do not like saying no, or don't think you can find anyone if you move on?

Reply 16

magic_unicorn

Oh by the way Not all these things have happened to me personally, Its just a range of concerns people have sometimes. Oh and I guess i'm fairly picky, But I'm just looking for a decent guy.

The imaginary boyfriend thing sounds great: Oh but what about when I wont a hug!!!!!!

Reply 17

Yoda

Just go with what you feel. You don't need to analyse everything. You feel like you want to keep seeing him, go ahead. You don't even though he fits all the criteria, then don't see him.

Reply 18

louisedotcom

Thats where that amazing thing friendship comes in I think :smile:

I think you should always be friends with someone first (not best friends or really good friends where it gets to the point that it could be arkward and ruin the friendship) because then you know all of their lifestyle choices and morals and important things before you leap into a relationship.

Ive never understood how anyone can go out with someone they just met and didnt know beforehand. The thought makes me cringe.

Reply 19

papergirl

tRG

To the OP:-

My confusion: whether a relationship would work if the girl's a non vegetarian and the guy's a vegetarian...or vice versa.. :s and not doing anything about feelings because of that..

What??

Unless the vegetarian is a militantly evangelistic one, I really can't see that being a problem! I've been vegetarian for 3 years now and my boyfriend is the kind of meat-lover who can eat a whole pack of bacon in one sitting... he jokes that my vegetarianism is the only thing he doesn't like about me but I promise you, it's a total non-issue! He even orders vegetarian in restaurants now so we can share dishes :redface:

Seriously, unless your situation is really unusual or you're just using the vegetarianism thing to hide another problem, I say don't worry about it :smile: