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Reply 1
I don't suppose you've recently started the pill / changed the type of pill you use? Are you feeling particularly stressed by anything? Any major emotional upheavals recently..?
Reply 2
Not changed pill. But do suffer from anxiety and depression. And it is close to my exams
Reply 3
Tinkers
Not changed pill. But do suffer from anxiety and depression. And it is close to my exams


It's probably related to that then. If you feel a bit crappy on an emotional level, it can affect your attitude towards sex.

How have you been managing your anxiety and depression? Are you on any meds for those, and have you noticed a difference in your libido since starting them?

I sympathise with your boyfriend, but this totally is not your fault, so don't blame yourself. If you're feeling stressed about anything, e.g. exams, you might find talking about it with your boyfriend helps calm you down, and as such, might end up improving your general mood?

I think if the loss of libido is down to health reasons, you need to make that very clear to him, or he might start feeling rejected.
It's stress, but he should be more understanding, everyone goes through a phase where they do not want sex.
Reply 5
It's my life
It's stress, but he should be more understanding, everyone goes through a phase where they do not want sex.


I pretty much agree, stress is probably a strong contributory factor. But don't worry about it too much, and don't let your boyfriend make you feel obliged to do anything. I'm sure it'll all come back after your exams are over, and in the meantime you'll be able to concentrate better on your work. Good luck in your exams & hope you feel better soon.
Reply 6
Like other people have said, it does sound like stress. Don't worry about not wanting to have sex, everyone has times where they don't feel like it, it's nothing to be ashamed of. Your boyfriend should be more understanding, he should realise that you are having a tough time right now, and are feeling slightly stressed. Don't do anything you don't want to do, just because he wants sex doesn't mean you have to have it.

Good luck in your exams xx
Reply 7
tell him to try masturbating until exam then your surprise him
Reply 8
how mean, have sex and remember how good and relieving it is... :tongue:
Reply 9
Dump him. You've got so close to him it feels like you're shagging your brother in your head.
Reply 10
stanmoor
Dump him. You've got so close to him it feels like you're shagging your brother in your head.


Anyone else slighty disturbed by this.....? I think this guy needs therapy

ANYHOO it'll just sound like im repeating what everyone else has already said, but stress is a huge factor that determines your sex drive. Pair that with depression and it's made 100 times worse (speaking from experience). Are you doing anything to help you manage your stress/depression? make sure your bf knows that its nothing to do with him, and that its all medical. And tell him to be patient because your sex drive WILL come back, it's just taking a bit of time!
stanmoor
Dump him. You've got so close to him it feels like you're shagging your brother in your head.



Errr....yes Freud. And your next diagnosis is... :rolleyes:
Reply 12
explain it to him, the best and least you can do
Reply 13
It's probably exam stress. Tell him you'll probably be fine when they're over and to just be patient.
Probably both got plenty do deal with at the moment exams for instance..when you've got them done and finished with , you'll be in a much better frame of mind to , try to relax and trying sex again with him!!