Ex has a video

Okay so we were together for 2 years, our families sort of approved of our relationship. We're Indian so I actually took the relationship quite seriously in terms of getting married in the future.

He has pictures of us in bed and a video of us 'sleeping' together .
Although he has promised to never leak it out, I don't understand why he will not delete it. He says its memories ?! And therefore wants to keep everything.
But what do I do? I mean I have decided to cut contact with him as he always puts me down and then tries to make it up by saying I love you. He does this thing where he gets back into my head and ruins everything again.

I just randomly woke up this morning thinking about it .


Please no one judge me . I genuinely cared for this guy. I loved him a lot. And I still do. But he's literally a psycho

I would speak to him again and ask him to delete the photos and the video. I don't understand why he would want to keep memories of a failed relationship. Is there any family member you could talk to about this?

Unfortunately I cannot speak to my family as they'd be very disappointed in me for even sleeping with him.
I have spoken to him countless times in the past but he goes all squirmy with me and says he wants to keep them as memories. Your my respect of course I won't show them to anyone.

However I'm thinking of changing my number , i know what he's like if I cross the line he thinks really badly . And his 'friends' are stupid too . They most likely would egg him on to doing something stupid.

He's sworn at my mum, and had a go at her :/

I would speak to him about it. If its gets leaked trust me it will ruin your life for a while. Make sure he deletes it. There's no reason for him to keep it.

Break his phone or the device he has the video and pics on

As there isn't much you can do I would change your number and just leave him and the video in the past.

He won't delete it. I know he won't

Haha this guy is insane he has it backed up on his mac book and his iPhone. Some secret folder with a password or something on his mac. I wouldn't be surprised if he has it all on africkkn usb

Drop them all in in the river ganji or some other river/ lake. And then smash them to bits with a hammer, and scatter the remains far and wide

Love it

if i was you i would leave it, cut all links with him, try to forget about it, just move on, he wont feel the urge to show anyone

Remember, revenge porn is illegal so if he leaks it you can go to the police and he'll end up behind bars.

This. It's probably worth even logging the threat of it with the police in advance so they have a record of it. I'm sure if this douche found out you'd gone to the feds he'd soon back off a bit.