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Smacking your kids : Agree?
Do you agree with smacking kids that are misbehaving?
Does it work or does it affect the child mentally/physically when they grow up and interact in the adult world?
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As for me I agree with smacking but the main issue is the way your smack a child.
This is my view:
It's not about just flinging the back of your hand at them.
It should be done properly and meaningful such they understand why they are being smacked in the first place.
It shouldn't be done on a whim.
The parent should go down to the child eye level (kneel down) and look them in the eye. Tell them what they have done wrong then punish them with an aimed smack that they will remember but will not over hurt them (at all).
Then the most important part is for the child to make an apology for their actions. Something that is usually missed in these situations.
Then the child should know that such a thing is wrong and in THEORY shouldn't do it again (in theory!!!).
______
What are your thoughts on the issue of smacking kids?
Does it work or does it affect the child mentally/physically when they grow up and interact in the adult world?
______
As for me I agree with smacking but the main issue is the way your smack a child.
This is my view:
It's not about just flinging the back of your hand at them.
It should be done properly and meaningful such they understand why they are being smacked in the first place.
It shouldn't be done on a whim.
The parent should go down to the child eye level (kneel down) and look them in the eye. Tell them what they have done wrong then punish them with an aimed smack that they will remember but will not over hurt them (at all).
Then the most important part is for the child to make an apology for their actions. Something that is usually missed in these situations.
Then the child should know that such a thing is wrong and in THEORY shouldn't do it again (in theory!!!).
______
What are your thoughts on the issue of smacking kids?
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no, never.
"smacking" is just a euphemism for "hitting".
there's already an active thread on this, here:
http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=351293
"smacking" is just a euphemism for "hitting".
there's already an active thread on this, here:
http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=351293
Reply 3
I agree
when i was a kid ma mama used to beat the **** out of me and i turned out perfect, im the top student in my A level class altough its my fourth year doin A level general studies
when i was a kid ma mama used to beat the **** out of me and i turned out perfect, im the top student in my A level class altough its my fourth year doin A level general studies
Reply 4
I think a relatively gentle wrist slap, not to hurt but to chastise, is perfectly acceptable.
Leaving bruising, marks, etc is not. Intimidating/scaring the child is not. Punching the face or abdomen is not.
Leaving bruising, marks, etc is not. Intimidating/scaring the child is not. Punching the face or abdomen is not.
Reply 7
Steven666
Do you agree with smacking kids that are misbehaving?
Does it work or does it affect the child mentally/physically when they grow up and interact in the adult world?
______
As for me I agree with smacking but the main issue is the way your smack a child.
This is my view:
It's not about just flinging the back of your hand at them.
It should be done properly and meaningful such they understand why they are being smacked in the first place.
It shouldn't be done on a whim.
The parent should go down to the child eye level (kneel down) and look them in the eye. Tell them what they have done wrong then punish them with an aimed smack that they will remember but will not over hurt them (at all).
Then the most important part is for the child to make an apology for their actions. Something that is usually missed in these situations.
Then the child should know that such a thing is wrong and in THEORY shouldn't do it again (in theory!!!).
______
What are your thoughts on the issue of smacking kids?
Does it work or does it affect the child mentally/physically when they grow up and interact in the adult world?
______
As for me I agree with smacking but the main issue is the way your smack a child.
This is my view:
It's not about just flinging the back of your hand at them.
It should be done properly and meaningful such they understand why they are being smacked in the first place.
It shouldn't be done on a whim.
The parent should go down to the child eye level (kneel down) and look them in the eye. Tell them what they have done wrong then punish them with an aimed smack that they will remember but will not over hurt them (at all).
Then the most important part is for the child to make an apology for their actions. Something that is usually missed in these situations.
Then the child should know that such a thing is wrong and in THEORY shouldn't do it again (in theory!!!).
______
What are your thoughts on the issue of smacking kids?
It's illegal.
And it should stay illegal, it is horrible to smack children. My father smacked me when I was younger so I know first hand what it's like and it's something I never want to experience again, or have my kids (if I have any) to ever experience.
Reply 8
I don't agree with smacking. After all, it's teaching children that violence, in any form, is okay. It takes a long time to try and convince them otherwise.
Reply 10
Steven666
Do you agree with smacking kids that are misbehaving?
Does it work or does it affect the child mentally/physically when they grow up and interact in the adult world?
______
As for me I agree with smacking but the main issue is the way your smack a child.
This is my view:
It's not about just flinging the back of your hand at them.
It should be done properly and meaningful such they understand why they are being smacked in the first place.
It shouldn't be done on a whim.
The parent should go down to the child eye level (kneel down) and look them in the eye. Tell them what they have done wrong then punish them with an aimed smack that they will remember but will not over hurt them (at all).
Then the most important part is for the child to make an apology for their actions. Something that is usually missed in these situations.
Then the child should know that such a thing is wrong and in THEORY shouldn't do it again (in theory!!!).
______
What are your thoughts on the issue of smacking kids?
Does it work or does it affect the child mentally/physically when they grow up and interact in the adult world?
______
As for me I agree with smacking but the main issue is the way your smack a child.
This is my view:
It's not about just flinging the back of your hand at them.
It should be done properly and meaningful such they understand why they are being smacked in the first place.
It shouldn't be done on a whim.
The parent should go down to the child eye level (kneel down) and look them in the eye. Tell them what they have done wrong then punish them with an aimed smack that they will remember but will not over hurt them (at all).
Then the most important part is for the child to make an apology for their actions. Something that is usually missed in these situations.
Then the child should know that such a thing is wrong and in THEORY shouldn't do it again (in theory!!!).
______
What are your thoughts on the issue of smacking kids?
I have no problems with smacking as long as it isn't overly violent. Discipline has to come from somewhere, and in my view lack of discipline is the cause of many problems with society - or rather with young people - most seem to grow out of it. It has to be done properly, when it's actually deserved but I was smacked if I badly misbehaved and it certainly made me not do it again. It's part of growing up - you misbehave, you get punished for it. There are alternatives of course - being sent to my room was a common one for me, but there has to be a scale depending on scale of offence.
I was hit as a child - not often (I didn't misbehave much) but when it did happen .. let's just say it was thorough. Thinking back, I actually think it's one of the main reasons why I'm close with my brother. I also attribute most of my success to the discipline that my parents instilled into me (I doubt any other punishment would've made me change my ways as fast).
Thinking forwards however, I wouldn't treat my children the same way (not least because I've learnt it's illegal) but I'm unsure as to how I would discipline my child. I know I, at least, wouldn't have responded to 'going to my room' or 'having no supper'. Watching programs like 'Super Nanny' also makes me worry as how I would effectively discipline my children without them turning into menaces to society.
Oh well, I guess I'll cross that bridge when I come to it...
Thinking forwards however, I wouldn't treat my children the same way (not least because I've learnt it's illegal) but I'm unsure as to how I would discipline my child. I know I, at least, wouldn't have responded to 'going to my room' or 'having no supper'. Watching programs like 'Super Nanny' also makes me worry as how I would effectively discipline my children without them turning into menaces to society.
Oh well, I guess I'll cross that bridge when I come to it...
Reply 12
Some little brats deserve a slap.
It's been like that since the dawn of the human race, why should it have to stop just because there's an idiotic bunch of bureaucrats sitting in some EU backwater twidling their thumbs inventing stupid laws, wrapping the world in red tape and upping the political correctness factor to a suffocating level.
It's been like that since the dawn of the human race, why should it have to stop just because there's an idiotic bunch of bureaucrats sitting in some EU backwater twidling their thumbs inventing stupid laws, wrapping the world in red tape and upping the political correctness factor to a suffocating level.
Reply 15
I was smacked several times growing up (only one of which was unjustified, for which my father has apologised)
It's good. It teaches you that there are boundaries which should not be crossed, and to fear crossing them. As much as I dislike intimidation, there has to be a psychological barrier to doing some things (The best description of which is the "watchman" in Sam Vimes' head in "Thud") and this is the best method to teach you it.
It's good. It teaches you that there are boundaries which should not be crossed, and to fear crossing them. As much as I dislike intimidation, there has to be a psychological barrier to doing some things (The best description of which is the "watchman" in Sam Vimes' head in "Thud") and this is the best method to teach you it.
edd8990
I was smacked several times growing up (only one of which was unjustified, for which my father has apologised)
It's good. It teaches you that there are boundaries which should not be crossed, and to fear crossing them. As much as I dislike intimidation, there has to be a psychological barrier to doing some things (The best description of which is the "watchman" in Sam Vimes' head in "Thud") and this is the best method to teach you it.
It's good. It teaches you that there are boundaries which should not be crossed, and to fear crossing them. As much as I dislike intimidation, there has to be a psychological barrier to doing some things (The best description of which is the "watchman" in Sam Vimes' head in "Thud") and this is the best method to teach you it.
good book that, tho i disagree with your point.
Reply 17
Parker!
Some little brats deserve a slap.
It's been like that since the dawn of the human race, why should it have to stop just because there's an idiotic bunch of bureaucrats sitting in some EU backwater twidling their thumbs inventing stupid laws, wrapping the world in red tape and upping the political correctness factor to a suffocating level.
It's been like that since the dawn of the human race, why should it have to stop just because there's an idiotic bunch of bureaucrats sitting in some EU backwater twidling their thumbs inventing stupid laws, wrapping the world in red tape and upping the political correctness factor to a suffocating level.
Wow, I hope you never become a parent.
Reply 18
I think gentle smacking is OK for appropriate reasons...
Sometimes a verbal telling off doesn't mean anything to children and they may want to continue with the 'naughty activity'.
Sometimes a verbal telling off doesn't mean anything to children and they may want to continue with the 'naughty activity'.
Hitting your children is a fairly decent way of behaving in my opinion.
You cannot reason with a child, and to be honest I have no intention of sitting down and debating with one like they have something worth my hearing. They don't, so a reasonably whack is well in order to keep them in line.
You cannot reason with a child, and to be honest I have no intention of sitting down and debating with one like they have something worth my hearing. They don't, so a reasonably whack is well in order to keep them in line.
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