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    Hi all,

    I've recently broken up with my girlfriend of 8-9 months and am just a bit lost, looking for some potential advice. We met last April shortly before the end of our last year at uni together, and gave a relationship a go over the summer, despite us moving a relative distance away (an hour) from one another.

    As it happened we both stayed in our uni city to work until about October-time, which is when we were both full-time at home. It was her first relationship, and my second serious one, so we were both relatively fresh to it all. We'd see each other on average about once every couple of weeks, and texted daily. When we'd meet I'd be excited and love being around her, she was a happy, cheerful, lovely girl to be around.

    But with both of us having full-time jobs, post-Christmas, we only saw one another once. We were still chatting every day, talking about our Summer plans together, but our schedules meant we just couldn't meet. And then last week, I was texted (yes) by her a long message saying that was it, she couldn't do the distance any longer and she'd fallen a little bit out of love with me, but still wanted to be friends.

    I reacted fairly badly but having spoken to her on the phone, we agreed it was probably for the best, although I'm really using the distance as my excuse. I still love her, and my feelings aren't really going away. I drunk texted her the other night, suggesting maybe if our situations changed (i.e we worked/lived in the same city) we could get back together, and now she's stopped talking to me altogether.

    That's the short of it, but I was just wondering if anything's been through anything similar at all? As it is, I've suffered on and off with depression since graduating last summer, the post-uni blues are real, and this has been a bit of a setback for me. She was one of my reasons to get up each day and do the best I can, and now she's gone :'(

    Thanks for any help, guys and gals!

    Sadly she isn't willing to do her bit to maintain the relationship, which sadly isn't something you can do much about. Oh, and the "I can't live without you" vibe you give off suggests the relationship wasn't really healthy to start off with.
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