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Which do you prefer? Have a vote.
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Sex, without a doubt. I'm sick of being a ******.
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That swear word began with a 'W', just so you know.
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sex is so much more varied and it is with someone whom you share a deep emotional bond with (usually) whom you can give pleasure too also. so that's a no-brainer.
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But I guess if you have good videos then masturbation can be good?
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Generally the former as it'll usually take effort and I end up disappointed and a bit regretful. But when it's good, definitely the other way around.
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Generally the former as it'll usually take effort and I end up disappointed and a bit regretful. But when it's good, definitely the other way around.
Why regretful after sex?

You mean when the video is good, masturbation is better?
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Why regretful after sex?

You mean when the video is good, masturbation is better?
Because I'll probably find flaws in the guy and feel bad about making a bad decision.

NO. Good sex > Masturbation but Bad sex < Masturbation.
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I get better orgasms out of masturbation most of the time, but I prefer intercourse as an experience.
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This is very interesting for me as a partner of mine (male) completely lost interest in having sex with me, including me giving him oral, and said it was his sex drive etc.

But he still continued to masturbate every night or most nights to porn (when I was asleep). I also found him doing it a couple times and he was way harder than he gets with me. It annoyed me because I felt as though if his sex drive was low maybe holding off the masturbation might help to recharge it?

I ended up feeling low in sex drive myself (usually have quite high appetite) and also with low confidence. I think it's hard for a girl to take when a guy seems disinterested in sex with you even when you want it. It makes you feel as though there's something wrong with you.
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idk ive never had sex
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That swear word began with a 'W', just so you know.
Be careful,you will get a note from the forum police. Im sick of getting notes from them. I was writing in forums when they werent even thought of.
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This is very interesting for me as a partner of mine (male) completely lost interest in having sex with me, including me giving him oral, and said it was his sex drive etc.

But he still continued to masturbate every night or most nights to porn (when I was asleep). I also found him doing it a couple times and he was way harder than he gets with me. It annoyed me because I felt as though if his sex drive was low maybe holding off the masturbation might help to recharge it?

I ended up feeling low in sex drive myself (usually have quite high appetite) and also with low confidence. I think it's hard for a girl to take when a guy seems disinterested in sex with you even when you want it. It makes you feel as though there's something wrong with you.
That is pretty poor, having a GF, not having sex but being caught fapping. But you know, thats what happens in a lot of long term marriages. I know husbands who are not interested in sex with their wives any more but sit up late fapping using net porn whilst their wife is upstairs in bed ! Whats she doing? sleeping or fapping,, who knows. Its a pretty poor state of affairs . Divorce is inconvenient and costs money.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
This is very interesting for me as a partner of mine (male) completely lost interest in having sex with me, including me giving him oral, and said it was his sex drive etc.

But he still continued to masturbate every night or most nights to porn (when I was asleep). I also found him doing it a couple times and he was way harder than he gets with me. It annoyed me because I felt as though if his sex drive was low maybe holding off the masturbation might help to recharge it?

I ended up feeling low in sex drive myself (usually have quite high appetite) and also with low confidence. I think it's hard for a girl to take when a guy seems disinterested in sex with you even when you want it. It makes you feel as though there's something wrong with you.
jesus, this sounds a nightmare for you it sounds like he was a porn addict. for some guys, porn kills their sex drive but they still develop a habit/addiction for engaging in porn all the time and it's hard for them to give up. It's really sad when that happens in a relationship, I don't understand how they can't recognise there to be a problem, but I think it's probably to do with the fact that society treats porn as this great healthy thing when actually it's not, and it's long term effects are unknown.

more research is being done and proving that it can cause things like impotence and a disinterest in sex, and can actually become as addictive as any drug can. any addiction could impact a relationship, and I imagine a sexual one would impact it on a much greater level than even a drug addiction would. I also can't imagine how painful it would be for the other side of the relationship to be in a position like yours :/

of course, you can bet that the response to this research won't be "oh damn! I'll give up right away!", people are incredibly resistant when it comes to porn and treat it like some sort of "sexual liberation" when actually the opposite is true imo
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I think it's pretty funny how masturbation currently has a resounding 0 in the poll, against just over 20. I guess lumberjacks have it a lot worse than nerdy students!
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I think it's pretty funny how masturbation currently has a resounding 0 in the poll, against just over 20. I guess lumberjacks have it a lot worse than nerdy students!
nerdy students don't have sex. If you haven't had sex, you probably won't vote as you got no comparison.
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That is pretty poor, having a GF, not having sex but being caught fapping. But you know, thats what happens in a lot of long term marriages. I know husbands who are not interested in sex with their wives any more but sit up late fapping using net porn whilst their wife is upstairs in bed ! Whats she doing? sleeping or fapping,, who knows. Its a pretty poor state of affairs . Divorce is inconvenient and costs money.
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jesus, this sounds a nightmare for you it sounds like he was a porn addict. for some guys, porn kills their sex drive but they still develop a habit/addiction for engaging in porn all the time and it's hard for them to give up. It's really sad when that happens in a relationship, I don't understand how they can't recognise there to be a problem, but I think it's probably to do with the fact that society treats porn as this great healthy thing when actually it's not, and it's long term effects are unknown.

more research is being done and proving that it can cause things like impotence and a disinterest in sex, and can actually become as addictive as any drug can. any addiction could impact a relationship, and I imagine a sexual one would impact it on a much greater level than even a drug addiction would. I also can't imagine how painful it would be for the other side of the relationship to be in a position like yours :/

of course, you can bet that the response to this research won't be "oh damn! I'll give up right away!", people are incredibly resistant when it comes to porn and treat it like some sort of "sexual liberation" when actually the opposite is true imo
Thank you both for your responses.

It was really hard because it was quite soon into the relationship and so I still felt the need to have a lot of sex. I guess it was even worse when I would be like okay I will just go down on you and he didn't even want that

It just made me feel so rubbish and inadequate and my sexuality has been dampened since this relationship (it hasn't long been finished). So I guess I need somebody to revive that aspect of me because right now it feels so sh*t.

I also didn't mind him masturbating and am really open sexually and asked even if we could do it together just to be connecting but he didn't seem to want me in any capacity. what I did take issue with is him doing it and then saying he had no sex drive for us and being unwilling to try to stop it to see if it refuelled his desires for me.
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I prefer holding hands
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Which do you prefer? Have a vote.
I prefer sex but masturbation is very good too - I like the 'posh' variety 😎
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Thank you both for your responses.

It was really hard because it was quite soon into the relationship and so I still felt the need to have a lot of sex. I guess it was even worse when I would be like okay I will just go down on you and he didn't even want that

It just made me feel so rubbish and inadequate and my sexuality has been dampened since this relationship (it hasn't long been finished). So I guess I need somebody to revive that aspect of me because right now it feels so sh*t.

I also didn't mind him masturbating and am really open sexually and asked even if we could do it together just to be connecting but he didn't seem to want me in any capacity. what I did take issue with is him doing it and then saying he had no sex drive for us and being unwilling to try to stop it to see if it refuelled his desires for me.
feel free to pm me if you want to rant about it
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