University went tits up

I'm feeling awful.

I tried it for 4 months after i started to feel down, but when i began to feel suicidal my family and friends said i should come home so i have, doctor has said i shouldn't go back for now. i stopped eating and callapsed a couple of times.

i just feel such a failure.

my government (isle of man) might ask for all the money they've spent (£10k) back as well and i can't afford it.

i've let the people i'm sposed to be living with next year down.

i hate my life and myself.

Reply 1

gRaDiUs

Are you seeing anyone about this?

Reply 2

Floozie

2

10k in 4 months?

No wonder.

But on a serious note, what was the reason you started to feel so down?

Reply 3

anonymous_sub

OP

i didn't spend £10k in 4 months. i got £4k to live off for the year, and my fees are £6k.

i was seeing a counsellor at uni.

since i got home i went to the doctor once and he just said to see how i was now i was home.

i have no idea what happened.

Reply 4

TheLameMonkey

Hey, I was almost in your position when I failed first year :smile:

It's 10k because the Isle of Man counts as 'overseas' :mad:

I think if you explain to the govt your situation you should be able to get away with not giving them back the money, I didn't have any depression problems and I think I ended up in a position where if I failed my resits I'd still not have to give the money back :smile:

. Just go down the medical route and you'll be fine.

Reply 5

anonymous_sub

OP

Dero

Hey, I was almost in your position when I failed first year :smile:

It's 10k because the Isle of Man counts as 'overseas' :mad:

I think if you explain to the govt your situation you should be able to get away with not giving them back the money, I didn't have any depression problems and I think I ended up in a position where if I failed my resits I'd still not have to give the money back :smile:

another manxie?

if so ... tell me what they said about it .... and did they fund you again for another course?

Reply 6

TheLameMonkey

Yes indeed another manxie, but ssh don't tell anybody :creep:

I let my parents do the talking, but I know of other people who have since changed their courses and they managed to get funding.

Reply 7

anonymous_sub

OP

that's been of huge help mate.

i've added u on msn

i'm just terrified though ... my entire uni future seems to be resting on this one letter.

Reply 8

girl89

1

Another manxie here :smile:

hope things turn out alright for you!

Reply 9

Elements

13

Do you reckon that if somone feels suicidal and really down before they go to Uni or are more prone to feeling like that and are scared about Uni and being lonely and that, that there is more chance that they will feel the same and worse at Uni too? :s:

Reply 10

Shmish

Elements

Do you reckon that if somone feels suicidal and really down before they go to Uni or are more prone to feeling like that and are scared about Uni and being lonely and that, that there is more chance that they will feel the same and worse at Uni too? :s:

I think it depends on who your first friends are at uni, a lot of it (at first) rests on your social life because thats how you get to know people, your university, the town your uni is in...and through all of that you begin to feel more secure in your new place.

I guess it comes down to what you're like as a person - I dont think that someone should go off to uni feeling suicidal. They need to sort those probs out BEFORE they go because if one day you're feeling very very bad, you dont have anyone around you that you know very well, like old friends and parents. It's nice to have that support when you're feeling crap

Reply 11

Elements

13

Shmish

I think it depends on who your first friends are at uni, a lot of it (at first) rests on your social life because thats how you get to know people, your university, the town your uni is in...and through all of that you begin to feel more secure in your new place.

I guess it comes down to what you're like as a person - I dont think that someone should go off to uni feeling suicidal. They need to sort those probs out BEFORE they go because if one day you're feeling very very bad, you dont have anyone around you that you know very well, like old friends and parents. It's nice to have that support when you're feeling crap

So it probably wouldn't be very good for someone that's very introverted, gets scared around alot of ppl and can be agrophobic? Just asking on behalf of my friend.

Reply 12

Shmish

Elements

So it probably wouldn't be very good for someone that's very introverted, gets scared around alot of ppl and can be agrophobic? Just asking on behalf of my friend.

Im not an expert or councillor in this subject so I can only give my opinion. I think it can go one of two ways - either your friend 'comes out of their shell' at uni or s/he feels worse. At the end of the day, it depends what your friend is like. If s/he thinks they can cope with uni life away from home then s/he can try it out. They can always drop out or transfer to a uni in their home town, that way they're getting the best of both worlds - uni life AND home life.

In my opinion, uni life should definately be one thing that people should discover and experience

Reply 13

anonymous_sub

OP

i never had problems like this before i went to uni.

it developed at university.

not sure what happened really ....

i mean one option would be to go back in a year for the last term, complete the year then transfer university. not sure if that is possible though.

i'd like a fresh go at it

i just feel like such a complete and utter loser and a failure.

Reply 14

libertin

What is this "manxie" thing?! Sounds like a secret codename.

anonymous_sub

i never had problems like this before i went to uni.

it developed at university.

not sure what happened really ....

i mean one option would be to go back in a year for the last term, complete the year then transfer university. not sure if that is possible though.

i'd like a fresh go at it

i just feel like such a complete and utter loser and a failure.

I'm sorry to hear of your troubles anonymous_sub, but I wouldn't despair. You're not a failure, there's no reason why you shouldn't return to University later on and make a fresh start of things. Or even take an open university course from home if you are keen to get some qualifications under your belt asap.

The reason you didn't get on so well at the university might have been because of that university? Not all universities are the same, perhaps another university wouldn't have the same problem as the one you went to before? :smile:

Reply 15

BlackpoolCraig

11

I've sent you a PM. My advice to you is that if you are feeling depressed, you should see someone about it. A counsellor is a good start, but if it is rather bad, the doctor may also help. Maybe in a week or so it may be a good idea to see the doctor.

Reply 16

AverageGuyOnTheStreet

9

Right, if I understand the situation correctly, it is similar to what I went through. I started on a course that I soon realised I hated before getting an internal transfer rejected and then losing the will to live, first on a figure of speech sense and then a literal sense. I thought it was all connected for a couple of months, but got help for my depression. Then I found out that the chances were the depression was caused by a much earlier event and possibly brought up by my issues at uni. I'm not saying that this is the case for you but I would get help (definitely a counsellor and if you think it is too bad for just counselling then also your GP). If you feel that you are up to continuing uni then my advice would be (if the case is that you are miserable on your course/at your uni) then either get an internal transfer or drop out and reapply (whatever is more relevant to your situation). Good luck. :hugs:

Reply 17

anonymous_sub

OP

the manxie thing - is just people from the isle of man. (for the person that asked).

I'd love to just drop out and reapply but the question is whether i can get funding again to do so. that's what is stressing me out.

Reply 18

AverageGuyOnTheStreet

9

anonymous_sub

I'd love to just drop out and reapply but the question is whether i can get funding again to do so. that's what is stressing me out.

The way I think you stand is this: your LEA should offer you funding for 4 years (if you end up needing it). You can drop out/transfer in your first year and not lose funding as a result. If you are 2nd/3rd year then I don't know where you stand. Everyone is entitled to one 'false start' (that's the technical term) without losing funding. This is what I am in the process of doing (I'm currently taking time out to recover from depression) and I have not been told that I will not be able to get funding for my new course. Good luck anyway.

Reply 19

girl89

1

It's probably best to ring up the manx government and ask them in person. Ask for general advice and see what possibilites and options there are.

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