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    I'm single now. But my last relationship lasted for several years, and she was convinced I was gay in the beginning. Now, being single again, and I don't like being single, I'm looking around. Everyone thinks I'm gay!

    At work, even when I was with my last girlfriend people thought I was gay. I only knew this through colleagues that knew I wasn't.

    Today it took a new turn for the worst when someone assumed I was in a relationship with one of my colleagues.

    I just want to get out there again. I find girls freaking hot! But the gay thing is making that pretty hard.

    I'm not well dressed. I'm well spoken, but I can't really change my voice. I'm a nice guy, but I wouldn't say I'm camp. I like having a laugh. I don't smell great. I don't see why people think I'm gay.

    How can I act more straight?!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm single now. But my last relationship lasted for several years, and she was convinced I was gay in the beginning. Now, being single again, and I don't like being single, I'm looking around. Everyone thinks I'm gay!

    At work, even when I was with my last girlfriend people thought I was gay. I only knew this through colleagues that knew I wasn't.

    Today it took a new turn for the worst when someone assumed I was in a relationship with one of my colleagues.

    I just want to get out there again. I find girls freaking hot! But the gay thing is making that pretty hard.

    I'm not well dressed. I'm well spoken, but I can't really change my voice. I'm a nice guy, but I wouldn't say I'm camp. I like having a laugh. I don't smell great. I don't see why people think I'm gay.

    How can I act more straight?!
    In reality, no one acts gay or straight unless it relates to who they're with. Your colleagues don't seem to understand that you can't make assumptions about people based on stereotypes, act however you want and if they make a mistake correct them
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    I don't think there is a way to act gay or straight bc your just you. So tell ppl that your not and if they don't believe ignore them bc why do you have to prove your sexuality to insignificant ppl who think they know everything?!
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    Just be yourself, don't let other people put you down. Do what makes you happy, don't change the way you are just because people think youre gay, you know youre not, your close friends know youre not ...why let other people bother you ... I know sometimes you do let things like this get in your way and it does bothers you and you just get fed up with all the reamarks and people thinking youre gay... but all I can say is be yourself, dress the way you like and if you dont like the way you dress go for new look that you like and suites you the best..... hope this helps BE YOUR SELF AND DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY
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    My parents and family thought I was gay??? My ex said she thought I was gay at first, her friends invited me to a gay rights parade :rofl: I am definitely not gay :lol: I think it could be lots of reasons, some women will use it as an ego defence (he's not interested he is gay), some will base it on views or mannerisms, i've had quite a few gay guys hit on me but apparently its just cus gay guys are more forward when they like someone??? Either way I definitely like women!
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    Uh. You're right. I've never cared before but it just seems like something I can't escape. I work a lot so don't meet people outside of work much and I'm lonely. Just give me a date!
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    Like others have said you can't act straight just talk more and flirt with girls more. A bit strange your old gf thought you were gay.
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    (Original post by Indieboohoo1)
    Like others have said you can't act straight just talk more and flirt with girls more. A bit strange your old gf thought you were gay.
    Yeah, it was before we got together. But I became very forward one night.
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    Uh. You're right. I've never cared before but it just seems like something I can't escape. I work a lot so don't meet people outside of work much and I'm lonely. Just give me a date!
    What you need to do is go on a lads night out, get all the lads together and get your self a wingman... you don't need to tash on with them ,,maybe get to know em' get the girl number... or you can start off by building up your self esteem and confidence up (to me it sounds like youre not confidant atm) then once you have done that you can start to socialise more by maybe going gym joing some clubs and stuff ...
 
 
 
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