Messed up my head!

Tonight in the pub we were celebrating one of my mate's birthdays, everyone was a bit more drunk than I was by the time I got there, but they were by no means wasted..

When one of the lads went to the loo everyone put stuff in his drink, even though I didn't stop them i didn't encourage them really either, When he got back he got the tissue out of his pint and threw it down my top, I got it out embarrassed as i'd had nothing really to do with it anyway and then he leaned over and pulled my top down, exposing me in the middle of the pub.
To an array of cheers and "get ur tits out for the lads" I just stood there, a bit moitionless a bit shocked and obviously upset that he'd just embarrassed me in front of a pub full of people and my friends.

Everyone just brushed it off like it was nothing but it really hurt me.. I've been abused before which apparently makes me "hyper sensitive" and not up for a laugh but I know for definate he wouldn't do it to anyone else. I've helped this lad out alot when he had no where to live etc etc.. so i'm more upset by the fact he thinks he can just embarrass me for no reason? I don't understand why he thinks he could just do this to me and not to others and how I can stop this bad attention I seem to attract from people without seeming really boring? I don't even think boring is the word im looking for..

I know this probably seems like a load of babble but i've come back from the pub in floods of tears, doubting everything ive done to help this bloke.. and wondering what I can do to make all this ****ty attention to go away. I just want to be seen as a nice girl that people respect?

Reply 1

smellielli

Probably best to have slapped him when he did it, if he was as drunk as he seemed then he wouldn't have cared, and you would have stood up for yourself.

Anyway, why do you care what they all think? They're obviously worthless.

Reply 2

Ang|ophi|e

That guy regardless of being a friend or not, had no right to do that. If I were you, I'd be super pissed. He HAS to apologize for doing that. Don't associate yourself with him because people could think that you forgave him for what he did and that it wasn't a big deal. When really it was.

Reply 3

dh00001

its out of order. tell him its upsetting you and he was a ******
as for everyone else imo the worst thing you can do is make it a big deal, if anyone says anything go with it and wait for it to blow over. plus if everyone was as drunk as you make out they might not remember

Reply 4

x_lucylastic_x

because these are meant to be my "mates" since ive been at uni i cant help but feel that all the people i know.. dont really "know" me.. I did stand up for myself and told him to do one.. in not so nice terms.. but no one else seemed arsed really..
He wasnt drunk or out his head enough to think that something like that was acceptable? I'm just annoyed that no one said anything.. that it was fine to just rip my top off in a seedy old man pub and everyone thought it was funny.. im wondering if its me that giving off a vibe to just take the piss... because i dunno what else i can do to prove im a nice person and all i want is some respect?
This still probably doesnt make my sense! sorry!

Reply 5

Ang|ophi|e

It sounds like your trying to prove yourself worthy to be their friends. Come on, you're deserve better than that! I rather be a loner than be disrespected by my so called "friends". Ditch them for other people who WILL respect you and your feelings.

Reply 6

Scubar

Then, the doctor told me that BOTH my eyes were lazy! And that's why it was the best summer ever

Reply 7

wendizzle22

What a &@*$ ! Definitely pull him up about it next time you see him and tell him what happened and make him apologise. If he won't, he's not exactly a good friend especially after you helped him, so I'd get rid!

Reply 8

x_lucylastic_x

people that were there i live with.. i see everyday. If he'd have done it so someone else he would have had a good mouthful and the rest.. so i dunno why its fine if he does it to me?

Reply 9

mascara_eyes

have you got one friend out of the group you click with most? if you still feel upset about it (which you had every right to) tomorrow then you could possibly talk to him/her and they might help you talk things through. failing that an old friend from home?
i exeprienced some bad times similar to yours in my past so being "hyper sensitive" is normal and it takes a lot of guts to get over something like that. you should be proud that you've come so far and dont let an idiot like the guy in pub bring back up old memories.