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IMO don't do it...my ex was my best friend and we went out for 18 months but now we don't talk! x
I think you should get together - now you've admitted to eachother you both have 'the feelings' jealousy will ensue when either of you gets a new partner and will ultimately ruin your friendship (in my opinion) and you don't want to be thinking 'what if?' down the line. If you like eachother THAT much then I reckon you deserve a shot at it!!
Well I can understand why you don't want to get together as yes it can be very awkward if you split up. However sometimes it is worth taking a chance, you never know. My relationship now with my girlfriend, we were friends for a good few months before we decided he felt something more and wanted a bit more.
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hook up
do it do it do it
i was in the same situation with my close friend and we decided to give it a go and its worked rly well. However, if you think it doesn't feel right then end it and go back to being friends. The longer you leave it the harder your decision whether to go for it or not will be.
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Highlander
me and this guy are raelly good friends, we both admitted to each other we really like each other more than friends, but dont want to ruin what we have atm, so we agree we shouldn't get togehter, but we both really really really want to. I dunno what to do:frown:


Sure, it could all go tits up, but face it, by admitting your feelings you've already changed the nature of your relationship so why not give it a shot? You could have something really special together.
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devils_nose
I think you should get together - now you've admitted to eachother you both have 'the feelings' jealousy will ensue when either of you gets a new partner and will ultimately ruin your friendship (in my opinion) and you don't want to be thinking 'what if?' down the line. If you like eachother THAT much then I reckon you deserve a shot at it!!


exactly, now that you've said you like eachother there's no going back so you might as well give it a go, it might be worth it!
My boyfriend and I were friends before we got together. IMO, relationships last longer and are much more stronger when there was friendship first. I say GO FOR IT. You never know what can happen. And if you don't further down in life you might regret it.
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My boyfriend used to be a friend of mine. Granted, not one of my closest friends, but a good friend nonetheless.

I've never been happier. I suggest you give it a shot. :smile:
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Highlander
me and this guy are raelly good friends, we both admitted to each other we really like each other more than friends, but dont want to ruin what we have atm, so we agree we shouldn't get togehter, but we both really really really want to. I dunno what to do:frown:



My best (guy) friend and I fell for each other, and we're celebrating our 4 year anniversary in a few days :smile: :smile: it's the best relationship ever. We were so close already to begin with, it just made the relationship so perfect.
If you choose to remain friends, then that's the friendship ruined right there. Trust me on this one, I know from past experiences, you will not be friends for much longer.
Well being as friends, least you will know each other well, so if you do decide to take it to the next level, you should have quite a bit of trust.
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I got together with a close friend of mine - 5 years later we're still together. You won't know unless you try. Friendships can be good bases for relationships, you're already comfortable with eachother, like eachother, know a lot about eachother...why not? xx
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aNgLoPhIlE
My boyfriend and I were friends before we got together. IMO, relationships last longer and are much more stronger when there was friendship first. I say GO FOR IT. You never know what can happen. And if you don't further down in life you might regret it.

Not necessarily! You can become best friends whilst you are together.. I knew I wanted to be with my bf from the second I met him, so we never entered the 'friend zone' but became best friends too :smile:

2 of my friends were best friends before they got together and nearly 2 years later they are still going strong! If you feel it's right and the attraction has been there for a long time, I'd say go for it
Go for it. I went out with a girl for a few years and afterwards we became best friends. There's nothing wrong about it. Don't over think it. Just enjoy yourself.
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One dissenting vote. Go for it.
happened to me. i kinda regret it.
If u REALLY really want to. then do!
but, first think.. how long will it last...
if u dont think it will work, dont do it.
another thing is, is one of u gets a bf/gf, then the other might feel jealous. Think about that.
once uv got 'more than friends' u cant turn back the clock, and be 'less than friends' again. did that make sense?! what i mean is, once something has happened, u cant undo it, but u can go back to bieng 'just freinds'

good luck with that one!! :smile:
Definitely go for it. Mr first boyfriend was my best male friend for two years before we got together and the relationship lasted 18 months. Three years after splitting up, we still talk to each other regularly and meet up when I go home in the holidays. My second boyfriend was someone I didn't know at all before getting together with him and it was a mistake. The relationship lasted a measly 3 months and now we barely have a word to say to each other. My current boyfriend was someone who I knew beforehand, although he was more friends with my housemates than with me, but we were fairly friendly with each other before we realised we wanted something more, and it's going really well. :smile: