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    So I've been with my boyfriend for 2 and a 1/2 years. For a while now I've been feeling like I'm fed up of doing things for him, such as: making lunch, dinner. Or just putting in the effort and feeling like making the effort was the best thing in the world. He's not the romantic, spontaneous and excited type, and I'm the complete opposite. Everytime I bring up what we're going to do on Valentines day, he just doesn't seem to care, or he's apathetic. This makes me frustrated because I feel like I'm trying hard everyday to keep him feeling loved, showing him how much I care, but in my opinion I don't get the same treatment I give him. For instance, if I want to try out a new place so that we do something new and fun together, he's reluctant and doesn't want to go. But when his new Uni friends ask, he doesn't hesitate to say yes. I feel like sh*t when he does this. I've brought up the issue to him, but I don't think he sees my side of the argument. Is it the end? Can someone please clear things up for me?
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    Well he seems he doesn't appreciate what your doing and to be honest i think i will be pissed off if that happened to me and self conscious because it makes you feel that your just in a relationship with yourself and i think you should have a day off and focus on yourself spend time your friends and family, don't go to him, let him come to you and hopefully he knows what he is missing.
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    Be more forceful, it might turn him on lel
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    If you've brought it up and he's failed to realise what you're doing to him, then I'm afraid there's nothing else you can do...

    Also I find it really suspicious that he's hesitant when you ask him to try something new with you, but he doesn't hesitate with his uni friends. Definitely not a good sign.
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    (Original post by N.ikki)
    Well he seems he doesn't appreciate what your doing and to be honest i think i will be pissed off if that happened to me and self conscious because it makes you feel that your just in a relationship with yourself and i think you should have a day off and focus on yourself spend time your friends and family, don't go to him, let him come to you and hopefully he knows what he is missing.
    But how do you just cut things off for a day, im prone to overthinking things, however I know I'm not overthinking this. I'll try and do that today to the best of my ability though .
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    If you've brought it up and he's failed to realise what you're doing to him, then I'm afraid there's nothing else you can do...

    Also I find it really suspicious that he's hesitant when you ask him to try something new with you, but he doesn't hesitate with his uni friends. Definitely not a good sign.
    I know. How can I make him see how *****y it feels? Everytime I go out with my friends and do some kind of activity he's always welcome to come along, but he's never invited me once to meet his new Uni friends.
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    Be more forceful, it might turn him on lel
    At this point I feel like I've tried so many ways to get him to realise, he's still pretty turned on the physical side of things just not the emotional....that sounds kinda bad. :/
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    I know. How can I make him see how *****y it feels? Everytime I go out with my friends and do some kind of activity he's always welcome to come along, but he's never invited me once to meet his new Uni friends.
    Have you asked (not confrontationally I hope!) why you never get invited when he's out with uni mates?

    Well, from an objective point of view, the best thing to do is not speak to him for a while. If he misses you, he'll contact you. If not...then I'm afraid his feelings towards you is clear :/

    Also, don't invite him when you're out with friends and see if he notices
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    Have you asked (not confrontationally I hope!) why you never get invited when he's out with uni mates?

    Well, from an objective point of view, the best thing to do is not speak to him for a while. If he misses you, he'll contact you. If not...then I'm afraid his feelings towards you is clear :/

    Also, don't invite him when you're out with friends and see if he notices
    I've asked to meet them because that would just clear any suspicion that I have, if there is anything to be suspicious about. But he just says no, or gets uncomfortable if I bring it up.

    If he contacts me, what should I say? I don't just want to make up with him and forget our issues. I want to solve it all.

    I'll try that next time. I doubt he'll notice...
 
 
 
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