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Ex is a pervert
Basically - this is a very difficult post for me to write.
What has happened is my ex-b/f and I had an amazing relationship, everything was perfect, my friends/ family loved him, he was popular/good looking - i've never been happier.
Over the last couple of months we had a rockyish patch - i thought due to money hassles/debt etc and I found some dirty texts on his phone a couple of weeks ago. We decided to work through things but my trust had gone-so last week I hacked into his emails and found some things that really shocked and horrified me. He had been having online sex with girls as young as 13 - with pictures of young girls as well - this I found out has been going on for the entire duration of the relationship. I was disgusted and called the police. The only problem is the police aren't doing anything and my ex has been contacting me. I'm so heartbroken and am appalled by what he has done - but i cant stop talking to him coz I am still in love with him - I just cant switch off my feelings.
I know that he is sick and last year, his best friend was convicted of having child porn on his computer - and i dont believe in coincidences.
I just cant believe that someone I loved and trusted could do this - its so sick and wrong, and I really was oblivious to this the whole time we were going out - i just cant believe I was so stupid.
I cant sleep or eat - coz I cant get the images out of my head or what he has said to these young girls. I really think I need some counselling but dont know where to go - I feel like my life is over because he was my life.
It just scares me so much how deceitful people can be - no one would ever have though he was like this, and its so easy to get away with it. The teen websites he was going on to ''groom'' these girls are like a supermarket. You just type in what age you want and up it comes - the saddest thing of all is that these girls were totally up for it, its sick.
I just dont know how I can move on from this - I am devastated, and it scares me to think of how many sick, warped people are out there - I would never have known if I didn't hack in to his emails.
What has happened is my ex-b/f and I had an amazing relationship, everything was perfect, my friends/ family loved him, he was popular/good looking - i've never been happier.
Over the last couple of months we had a rockyish patch - i thought due to money hassles/debt etc and I found some dirty texts on his phone a couple of weeks ago. We decided to work through things but my trust had gone-so last week I hacked into his emails and found some things that really shocked and horrified me. He had been having online sex with girls as young as 13 - with pictures of young girls as well - this I found out has been going on for the entire duration of the relationship. I was disgusted and called the police. The only problem is the police aren't doing anything and my ex has been contacting me. I'm so heartbroken and am appalled by what he has done - but i cant stop talking to him coz I am still in love with him - I just cant switch off my feelings.
I know that he is sick and last year, his best friend was convicted of having child porn on his computer - and i dont believe in coincidences.
I just cant believe that someone I loved and trusted could do this - its so sick and wrong, and I really was oblivious to this the whole time we were going out - i just cant believe I was so stupid.
I cant sleep or eat - coz I cant get the images out of my head or what he has said to these young girls. I really think I need some counselling but dont know where to go - I feel like my life is over because he was my life.
It just scares me so much how deceitful people can be - no one would ever have though he was like this, and its so easy to get away with it. The teen websites he was going on to ''groom'' these girls are like a supermarket. You just type in what age you want and up it comes - the saddest thing of all is that these girls were totally up for it, its sick.
I just dont know how I can move on from this - I am devastated, and it scares me to think of how many sick, warped people are out there - I would never have known if I didn't hack in to his emails.
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Get that ****er arrested. How can you profess to be in love with a paedofile, because that's what he is, a sick perverted ****er who should be jailed. Distance yourself from this guy and never associate yourself with him again because people like him sooner or later get what they deserve.
I have no sisters but am so close to a couple of my cousins that I consider them to be sisters. They are 11 and 14 and the thought that there are people like that out there is frightening and disturbing. No offense, but I hope he gets the **** kicked outta him in prison.
As for you, your clealy a good natured person and whilst i acnnot condone hacking into someones email, looks like you did the right thing. You should forget you ever knew this guy, he doesn't deserve any compasion from you. You are better than him in everyway.
I have no sisters but am so close to a couple of my cousins that I consider them to be sisters. They are 11 and 14 and the thought that there are people like that out there is frightening and disturbing. No offense, but I hope he gets the **** kicked outta him in prison.
As for you, your clealy a good natured person and whilst i acnnot condone hacking into someones email, looks like you did the right thing. You should forget you ever knew this guy, he doesn't deserve any compasion from you. You are better than him in everyway.
He's 25 - it appears he may have been telling them he was 16 though.
He has so many different aliases I could not find them all - I told the police this - but they seem to be doing nothing.
He has so many different aliases I could not find them all - I told the police this - but they seem to be doing nothing.
Yeah - its a possibility, but in several emails I read - they clearly told him they were 13, and his replies were so filthy, it keeps me awake at night.
Even if they were older - its the fact that when they say they are 13 - he gets turned on even more, and the pictures looked very, very young.
Even if they were older - its the fact that when they say they are 13 - he gets turned on even more, and the pictures looked very, very young.
akira2027
Yeah - its a possibility, but in several emails I read - they clearly told him they were 13, and his replies were so filthy, it keeps me awake at night.
Even if they were older - its the fact that when they say they are 13 - he gets turned on even more, and the pictures looked very, very young.
Even if they were older - its the fact that when they say they are 13 - he gets turned on even more, and the pictures looked very, very young.
Yeah its sick and twisted. I am sure the police are looking into it but these things take time
Even if it is legal I find very looking young girls a complete turn off. I am 24 and I think even many 18 year olds look too young for me.I would personaly just ask him not to contact for you for a while and then see what happens.
Be careful with telling the police you hacked into his e-mail. While you were justified I think accessing his account without permission may be a crime it'self. It depends how you obtained the password.
Also, don't say a pedophile was your life because that's not true. He is a failure that took up a minor part of your life. You will get over him and wonder how you could ever love such a sick person. I don't know how you can still love him after finding out such a thing.
I am sure the police are doing everything they can. Did they take his computer to the station? It can take a while for forensics to go through a hard disk gathering evidence. And as AT82 said tell him not to contact you. If that doesn't stop him you could probably go to the police about that too.
Also, don't say a pedophile was your life because that's not true. He is a failure that took up a minor part of your life. You will get over him and wonder how you could ever love such a sick person. I don't know how you can still love him after finding out such a thing.
I am sure the police are doing everything they can. Did they take his computer to the station? It can take a while for forensics to go through a hard disk gathering evidence. And as AT82 said tell him not to contact you. If that doesn't stop him you could probably go to the police about that too.
Nobody is expecting you to just switch off your feelings about somebody...but maybe your newfound hate for the guy can help things a little.
It's probably best you don't associate with him.
By the way, did he ever try to meet the girls? If so that should give the police some sort of reason to look into it, otherwise they won't really care so much.
It's probably best you don't associate with him.
By the way, did he ever try to meet the girls? If so that should give the police some sort of reason to look into it, otherwise they won't really care so much.
Gaz.
By the way, did he ever try to meet the girls? If so that should give the police some sort of reason to look into it, otherwise they won't really care so much.
If he has naked pictures of kids on his computer that is a serious offence it'self. I've heard of many people sent to jail for that.
I reported it a week ago - thet have his laptop, my pc and his phone.
I have called to ask what is going on but they keep blowing me off - and the police woman who spoke to me looked at me like I was some kind of freak.
Reporting it has been one of the hardest things i have done - it wasn't nice having to explain everyhing to them.
As for still being in love with him - I lived with him for 16 months, we were planning our life together, both moving away to uni together in the summer. I have no family of my own, and I got on great with his - we were moving away to his hometown to start afresh. That is what i cant stop thinking about - I have suffered from depression for years, largely due to having no family etc - he is the one person, I have ever met who has made me happy. I hate him for what he has done, its disgusting, i cant get the images out of my head - but I cant just switch off my feelings either.
I have called to ask what is going on but they keep blowing me off - and the police woman who spoke to me looked at me like I was some kind of freak.
Reporting it has been one of the hardest things i have done - it wasn't nice having to explain everyhing to them.
As for still being in love with him - I lived with him for 16 months, we were planning our life together, both moving away to uni together in the summer. I have no family of my own, and I got on great with his - we were moving away to his hometown to start afresh. That is what i cant stop thinking about - I have suffered from depression for years, largely due to having no family etc - he is the one person, I have ever met who has made me happy. I hate him for what he has done, its disgusting, i cant get the images out of my head - but I cant just switch off my feelings either.
to be honest, I know you must hurt now, but in the most delicate and tactful way, the guy was a ****ing nonce, he liked looking at children naked ffs. I honestly dont think you will have a problem finding a guy better than him.
Reporting him was a good move, you dont know what he did to/with these kids. You could have just saved numerous kids from his current/future grooming and from a horrible experience no child should be subjected to, you should be proud of yourself. (I would put some sort of clapping smiley emoticon here but dont know how)
still think you should castrate him when he least suspects it tho, just to be safe
Reporting him was a good move, you dont know what he did to/with these kids. You could have just saved numerous kids from his current/future grooming and from a horrible experience no child should be subjected to, you should be proud of yourself. (I would put some sort of clapping smiley emoticon here but dont know how)
still think you should castrate him when he least suspects it tho, just to be safe
The important thing to remember here, is that while you going out, you didn't know. And when you found out, you left him. You didn't realise what kind of person he was when you fell in love with him, so don't blame yourself and don't think badly of yourself because of him. You did the right thing - you're morally in the clear.
If your ex keeps trying to get in contact, make it clear you don't want to speak to him, and if he doesn't go away - might I suggest talking to the police and getting a restraining order put on him.
I know how hard it is to let go of feelings, but having him in your life in some shape or form is just going to make that healing process more difficult. Don't let him stay in touch. He doesn't deserve to have you in his life.
Thinking of you. xxx
If your ex keeps trying to get in contact, make it clear you don't want to speak to him, and if he doesn't go away - might I suggest talking to the police and getting a restraining order put on him.
I know how hard it is to let go of feelings, but having him in your life in some shape or form is just going to make that healing process more difficult. Don't let him stay in touch. He doesn't deserve to have you in his life.
Thinking of you. xxx
Sephiroth
If he has naked pictures of kids on his computer that is a serious offence it'self. I've heard of many people sent to jail for that.
I'm no doubting that it's serious, and the police should do something...and having just read that they took the pc's is kinda relieving that they are doing something...what i meant is, the current situation is proabably less of priority for them than actual child molestors (ahhh i hated typing those words :\), and it's for people who distribute those kind of pictures, for illegal websites....and of course they're gonna go for people who are more likely to act their fantasies out, those should be priority...but yeah i'm not denying just having pictures is a big deal to them, it should be.
But yeah Akira, don't blame yourself because it's not your fault...some people are great at hiding things, just because you didn't know doesn't mean that you're an idiot or a bad person or anything. You did a good thing, you should be proud of it really, because maybe you've helped preventing this guy from ruining some childrens lives, it takes courage to turn somebody in like that..especially somebody you love.
Don't let him ruin your life though, i'm sure it's damaging...but he isn't your entire life...just a part of it, so you'll have to move on...and it'll take time but stay strong, you should be relieved.
Also, on another note getting into a persons email isn't hacking...but like somebody else mentioned..you shouldn't really admit to doing that.
Good luck.
akira2027
I reported it a week ago - thet have his laptop, my pc and his phone.
I have called to ask what is going on but they keep blowing me off - and the police woman who spoke to me looked at me like I was some kind of freak.
Reporting it has been one of the hardest things i have done - it wasn't nice having to explain everyhing to them.
As for still being in love with him - I lived with him for 16 months, we were planning our life together, both moving away to uni together in the summer. I have no family of my own, and I got on great with his - we were moving away to his hometown to start afresh. That is what i cant stop thinking about - I have suffered from depression for years, largely due to having no family etc - he is the one person, I have ever met who has made me happy. I hate him for what he has done, its disgusting, i cant get the images out of my head - but I cant just switch off my feelings either.
I have called to ask what is going on but they keep blowing me off - and the police woman who spoke to me looked at me like I was some kind of freak.
Reporting it has been one of the hardest things i have done - it wasn't nice having to explain everyhing to them.
As for still being in love with him - I lived with him for 16 months, we were planning our life together, both moving away to uni together in the summer. I have no family of my own, and I got on great with his - we were moving away to his hometown to start afresh. That is what i cant stop thinking about - I have suffered from depression for years, largely due to having no family etc - he is the one person, I have ever met who has made me happy. I hate him for what he has done, its disgusting, i cant get the images out of my head - but I cant just switch off my feelings either.
That does sound like a lot to lose, but clearly this great guy you thought he was turned out to be a mask for what he really is. I am sure you will find someone better. Afterall it doesn't take much to find a guy better than a pedophile. When you are at university you will meet lots of lovely people, make new friends and potential partners. Don't let the new state of singleness get you down. Ofcourse it will take some adjusting to but just spend more time with your friends. And find something to take your mind off the images; something you like doing.
or just get him shot...
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