Confused? dont now where to go from here!

im sorry i no ive already sent out a thread like this before.

But how do you no when your over someone? and if you would be jealous of them having a new gf does that mean that you haven't moved forward at all.

Im really confused its been 2 weeks since my bf broke up wiv me and ive stopped crying but im still really hurting and to be honest i dont want him back (well i shouldnt, maybe a little part of me does). i just want him to be not neccessarily jealous but you get what i mean?

Im confused? What can i do to get through this? x

Reply 1

ßlαcksωαn

well if you're still hurting you obviously havent got over him. Time cures all.

Reply 2

fairycakes

hey
i'm sorry u feeling hurt still...i know all about it.
you just have to ive your life. u will hurt for a while, but i think the best thing to do is get on with you life. keep meeting new people and try to have fun. there will be times when it can all feel too much and u need to cry or moan, so do. but there will be other times when u feel like u don't need them or care at all. concentrate on those times.
of course u wil feel jealous of new gfs, it's totally natural. but jus tkeep thinking of all his bad points and why it would just not work if u were with them.
hope this helps, and u feel better soon.

it's such a cliche but time is a healer...

xxxx

Reply 3

Louise88

Everyone gets over people at different times, it could take a week, a month or even a year. It's something you can't rush, it just takes time. One day you'll just stop caring really, you will find that you don't think about them as often as you did, you will stop caring what they think of you. I don't think you are completely over him, not when you want him to be jealous and such. It's just something that happens when your moving on from someone, part of you wants to make that person see what they are missing. It's also very natural to feel jealous when someone you have been in a relationship with finds someone new. I guess, what i'm trying to say is that you'll just know when your over them. It's good that you've stopped crying, thats a step in the right direction but hang in there and it will become easier, and easier as time goes on.

Go out there and enjoy yourself, have fun and meet new people. The best way of getting over someone is to get up, get out and have fun. See your friends, go out with your friends and make some new ones.

Reply 4

woeful_infatuation

doesn't sound like you're over him yet. two weeks inst a very long time. i have a friend who dated a guy about 4 years ago and they broke up about a year later, she is married now, but still asks around and would be jealous if he showed up with his gf. so i dont think just uz you're jealous means you're not over him-but then i'm just concluding this from experience with my friend. haven't broken up with anyone yet, so sorry if this post is not much help.

at least you've accepted that he has moved on and are working on moving on too-not stalking him and getting arrested cuz he called the cops.-another friend of mine. why am i friends with these ppl?

Good luck!

Reply 5

portiale

thanks but believed at one point all i wanted to do was stalk but i always new it would never be the best plan. we werre together for two years and i didnt see it coming which i guess is why i feel like this cos ive still got many unanswered questions that i keep stressing abou. thank you for all your msg it did help lol x

Reply 6

Louise88

Two years is a long time, I doubt you will get over those two years easily. Because it was so unexpected, that will make it that little bit harder because you didn't have time to come to terms with the idea of a break up, it was just sprung on you.

Honestly, all it will take is time so hang in there. Enjoy yourself and forget about this guy, you'll find someone else when the time is right.