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    Hey, I'm so embarrassed to make this post hence why it's anon.
    Long story short I have like one or two really good friends that I actually do things with like go to the cinema, hang out etc. However they're now both at uni so I rarely see them. I chose not to go to uni and go straight into full time work, which I love, but the crowd at work are much older (I'm 20 and the next youngest is 33), not to mention I couldn't see myself socialising with them outside of work anyway. Other than work I don't have any other reason to be socialising with people and consequently I have very few friends. I'm by no means shy or socially awkward, I just can't seem to find myself in a group of people I can connect with and really get on with. It might sound silly but I kinda feel too old to join any locals clubs like the swim team etc. I'm kind of wishing I went to uni just for the social side of things. Any advice? Anyone else experienced this?
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    Hey, I'm so embarrassed to make this post hence why it's anon.
    Long story short I have like one or two really good friends that I actually do things with like go to the cinema, hang out etc. However they're now both at uni so I rarely see them. I chose not to go to uni and go straight into full time work, which I love, but the crowd at work are much older (I'm 20 and the next youngest is 33), not to mention I couldn't see myself socialising with them outside of work anyway. Other than work I don't have any other reason to be socialising with people and consequently I have very few friends. I'm by no means shy or socially awkward, I just can't seem to find myself in a group of people I can connect with and really get on with. It might sound silly but I kinda feel too old to join any locals clubs like the swim team etc. I'm kind of wishing I went to uni just for the social side of things. Any advice? Anyone else experienced this?
    It depends on the situation. My friends that I go to gig's with are usually a year or two younger than me which has a massive maturity gap, I barely can hold a conversation with them for more than 10 mins... my uni friends are a couple of years older than me.... I have friends way into they're 30s and 40s too. I get on way better with people more than a year older than me. It's all a matter of perspective. If you think you won't fit it, you're not going too. What I've noticed is that it's easier becoming friends with people once they've finished their "growing up" or "finding myself" stages of they're lives because the younger lot are reinventing themselves all the time and it gets exhausting because all you want is to have a friend that you like because of their personality but if they keep changing it up, it gradually becomes pathetic attention seeking. You can be friends with people significantly older than you if you put in the effort to get past the age gap and thinking you're not going to have anything in common with them because of their age.

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    If you've got a good career going already then why go uni? There's no point in going just for the socializing. Waste of cash too. You need to push yourself into more situations where you're likely to make more friends. As you're friends to introduce you to their friends. Go out on outings with them e.g cinema as you already do with the other two. Join clubs, pick up a class e.g dance or something. But get out of your comfort zone, that's the most important tip I can give you.

    There's no need to be embarrassed. I'm sure everyone has had a point in their lives where they barely had friends around. I certainly have.

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