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    My boyfriend and I had a really tough conversation last night about Uni. The chances are is that we'll be around 150 miles away from each other, and though we believe we can tackle the distance, he came up with the idea that we break up for uni and then get back together after. We both love each other so much and we've been together for just under 2 years now, but is this a good idea? We're both each other's first proper relationship and feels we're right for each other but we've met so young! Neither of us want to see each other with another person but neither of us want to be stressy or unhappy about the distance and missing each other whilst we're at uni. What should we do?
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    I think the right thing to do is break up with each other until you both finish uni. Long distance is just that long distance, so there will be insecurities, speculations, lack of intimacy and perhaps the lack of bond between both of you for that amount of time when you are separated. You'll both make your own established friendship groups which may exclude and alienate you and there's the chance you'll maybe develop feelings for other people. I think it's just hassle free to break up.


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    My boyfriend and I had a really tough conversation last night about Uni. The chances are is that we'll be around 150 miles away from each other, and though we believe we can tackle the distance, he came up with the idea that we break up for uni and then get back together after. We both love each other so much and we've been together for just under 2 years now, but is this a good idea? We're both each other's first proper relationship and feels we're right for each other but we've met so young! Neither of us want to see each other with another person but neither of us want to be stressy or unhappy about the distance and missing each other whilst we're at uni. What should we do?
    3/4 years is a long time. If you break up before uni I think it will be extremely unlikely that you'll get back together after because you'll grow apart during this time. I would advise giving long distance ago and if that doesn't work out then it won't be for lack of trying. Good luck 😊


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    If you break up you'll still be missing each other. The difference is that if you break up you'll both be able to see other people. If you love each other there's no reason to break up; give long distance a go and if it doesn't work then at least you tried. If you break up now then it's really unlikely that you'll still want to be together in 3 or 4 years, despite how you're feeling now.
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    If you don't love him you'd have these doubts of breaking up. My boyfriend studies in England and me in Scotland. We didn't even say a word about it - we're so happy

    When you both have the same mindset and love for each other, nothing feels like a barrier.

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    Thanks for the help, I'm sure we'll work it out ☺️
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    Distance makes the heart grow fonder (at least that's what I thought until me and my ex broke up after attempting a LDR - it's extremely hard, I'd end the relationship and enjoy uni and focus on yourself for a bit tbh.)


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    I'm in the middle of my second year currently and did long distance (200 miles) with my bf of three years. We broke up recently, due to other reasons. But it is definitely do able although I'm not sure I would recommend it!
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    150 miles is nothing, no reason you can't make it work.

    If you do break up though don't do it with the thought of you getting back together at the end, otherwise you'll just cling to it and it will still "hold you back". If you do then that's grand, but don't assume it will happen.
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    If you don't love him you'd have these doubts of breaking up. My boyfriend studies in England and me in Scotland. We didn't even say a word about it - we're so happy

    When you both have the same mindset and love for each other, nothing feels like a barrier.

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    This.

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