virginity and inexperience

hey all.
i lost my virginity today to my girlfriend. however when inserting my penis into her vagina i only managed to get the tip....*firemans helmet* in
1) because it was hurting her too much and i dont think she wanted me to go all the way in &
2) because ive never had sex before i didnt know exactly what to do, i sort of hit a wall, literally, and i couldnt insert my penis anymore.
maybe its just inexperience i dont know but i was well disappointed in myself afterwards.....DAMMIT!!

has anyone else had this problem when having sex for the first time or whenever and what can i do?

thank you.. :redface:

Reply 1

messynessie

1

kookie_4

hey all.
i lost my virginity today to my girlfriend. however when inserting my penis into her vagina i only managed to get the tip....*firemans helmet* in
1) because it was hurting her too much and i dont think she wanted me to go all the way in &
2) because ive never had sex before i didnt know exactly what to do, i sort of hit a wall, literally, and i couldnt insert my penis anymore.
maybe its just inexperience i dont know but i was well disappointed in myself afterwards.....DAMMIT!!

has anyone else had this problem when having sex for the first time or whenever and what can i do?

thank you.. :redface:

She was nervous, that's all.

Reply 2

Lizj

10

God I can't believe I'm answering this! It may have been, as others suggest, that she was too tense and tightened up. Or it may be that you got the angle wrong. The vagina slopes backwards towards the cervix, it's not at 90 degrees.

Reply 3

mousey

2

Try and get her to help you guide it in. Lube may be helpful as well. xx

Reply 4

x_Loll_x

5

Foreplay is the answer :smile:

Reply 5

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3

You, boy, need to purchase some lube. Or get better at foreplay. But i'd start with the lube.

Reply 6

kookie_4

OP

1

we did get into foreplay before we tried intercourse...i continued the foreplay until she said she wanted to so i thought that it was me getting everything wrong. perhaps the angle was wrong although i wasnt just shoving it in i was sort of pushing it down and then trying to go in...god i feel so stupid.

Reply 7

The Bishman

8

Dont beat yourself up man, its hard to ask something like this especially now the anon feature is gone.

These things happen on the first time, to a lot of people. I havent really heard of a first time story anywhere that went perfect first time.

Just relax, stop beating yourself up and next time you try make sure you and her are relaxed, and as others have said try lube or more foreplay.

Reply 8

dh00001

16

going to sound daft but where you going for the right place?
these things happen you just have to keep trying and not dwell on it :smile:

Reply 9

Helenia

20

You're not stupid, and you're not the first person it has happened to. A few things that will help:

1) REALLY make sure she's happy, relaxed and ready for it. It's quite common for girls to tense up a lot even not entirely consciously, but lots of foreplay and feeling comfortable with the situation will help no end.
2) Lube.
3) It may be that her hymen is intact and that's what's causing this "barrier" (though it really just makes the opening narrower; it's not a total blockage). This will mean that it has to be broken, which will be painful and messy. But needs doing, unfortunately. But it needs to be at her pace.
4) Don't panic, cuddle lots and enjoy yourselves, don't feel that you're doing it all wrong. Nobody gets it perfect first time!

Reply 10

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dh00001

going to sound daft but where you going for the right place?

I think even virgins realise when they are poking their girlfriend in the hip.

Reply 11

dh00001

16

3232

I think even virgins realise when they are poking their girlfriend in the hip.

well you know what i mean he says he was just shoving. i was going to suggest she helps but forgot to type that :redface:

Reply 12

devils_nose

10

erm - you may already have tried this as part of your foreplay but (just incase you haven't - its not the same for everyone) insert your fingers first to give you an idea of the angle you are aiming for and it will also get her used to the feeling up um something being there and might help relax her a little.. just take it really slow, and the posts above re lube and lots and lots of foreplay are good advice too

Reply 13

Anthonyjm71

9

kookie_4

we did get into foreplay before we tried intercourse...i continued the foreplay until she said she wanted to so i thought that it was me getting everything wrong. perhaps the angle was wrong although i wasnt just shoving it in i was sort of pushing it down and then trying to go in...god i feel so stupid.

does seem as though was on the right track , but foreplay plus use some lube and above all , both of you remain calm , try not to let either of you get to tense this will help!

Reply 14

Subbacultcha

kookie_4

we did get into foreplay before we tried intercourse...i continued the foreplay until she said she wanted to so i thought that it was me getting everything wrong. perhaps the angle was wrong although i wasnt just shoving it in i was sort of pushing it down and then trying to go in...god i feel so stupid.

another thing; were you slightly nervous too and therefore not rock solid, although still hard?! i know for my first time my bf wasn't that hard as he was a bit nervous, therefore it was harder to get it in....

dont feel embarassed or stupid - how was she afterwards? did you chat etc? the first few times'll most likely be problematic... just take it slow, lube, foreplay etc, maybe she thinks she's ready but she's not - how about you go down on her, make her even more wet (if you're not doing that already)? good luck! :wink:

Reply 15

white water lily

I think I might know what you mean about it being like hitting a 'wall'. Kind of had the same experience when I lost my virginity to my bf. We'd had plenty of foreplay, I was very 'ready' for him :redface:

but he could still only insert his penis a little way to start off with: it was like there was a physical barrier. He left it in there while we kissed and just sort of moved a bit, then he managed to get it in a bit further before another 'barrier'. He sort of thrust in and out of me up to that barrier for a while. He got it all in eventually, just a little bit at a time... It did hurt me going past each 'barrier' but it was worth it :p:

Hope thats not too graphic :s-smilie:

Reply 16

smellielli

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white water lily

I think I might know what you mean about it being like hitting a 'wall'. Kind of had the same experience when I lost my virginity to my bf. We'd had plenty of foreplay, I was very 'ready' for him :redface:

but he could still only insert his penis a little way to start off with: it was like there was a physical barrier. He left it in there while we kissed and just sort of moved a bit, then he managed to get it in a bit further before another 'barrier'. He sort of thrust in and out of me up to that barrier for a while. He got it all in eventually, just a little bit at a time... It did hurt me going past each 'barrier' but it was worth it :p:

Hope thats not too graphic :s-smilie:

Graphic? not at all.... :puke:

Reply 17

kookie_4

OP

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Subbacultcha

another thing; were you slightly nervous too and therefore not rock solid, although still hard?! i know for my first time my bf wasn't that hard as he was a bit nervous, therefore it was harder to get it in....

dont feel embarassed or stupid - how was she afterwards? did you chat etc? the first few times'll most likely be problematic... just take it slow, lube, foreplay etc, maybe she thinks she's ready but she's not - how about you go down on her, make her even more wet (if you're not doing that already)? good luck! :wink:

yes..i was a tad nervous even though i was very comfortable around her and i wasnt rock solid but still hard which probably didnt help.